From seeing her father for 11 years, against court orders.
2007-11-13 11:22:16 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
i'd say she was wrong! id say she could have ruined her daughters only chance of knowing her father.
i was born to my mom and a not very nice dad, my mom refused to let me see him, he or his family were not allowed near me, she re married and my step dad was a great man who to this day i call my dad, i never knew anything about my real dad. When i was 16 he got intouch, my mom said no you cannot see her she's a naughty teenager you will make her worse, when i was 17 he got in touch again, i knew him for 4 months and he died. the day of his funeral my mom took me to town to buy a new outfit (dont quite remember why it was the day :s) anyway we were stood in the middle of town she said something and i screamed so so loud............... well if you hadnt have kept him away from me i would have known him, now all i know of my father is months worth of letters, i never got chance to meet him, although now i know it was just anger, me and my mom will always know at that point i really hated her for keeping him from me, and the fact that when she did 'ALLOW' him to be near me, it lasted 4 months before he died
Tell your daughter now, please god, dont make it so she hates you, or even in anger says she hates you.;... ill never forget that day with my mom just as she hadnt, all because she thought she was doing the right thing, no matter what her father is like he is still her father, as mine was mine. there is still an unknown bond.
Please please tell her!
2007-11-13 11:32:32 · answer #1 · answered by lisadepont 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am assuming that you are the concerned Dad? And that your split from the Mum was far from amicable then?
If you are still not on talking terms perhaps you could send the mother of your child a letter stating that for the benefit both of yours daughter that you would like to find a way of making things more amicable between you both and that you'd like to be involved in your daughters life.
I have no idea of who you are or what the background of this situation is, so please don't be offended for me saying this next bit.
IF, you have in the past been what they refer to as a 'dead beat Dad' acknowledge the things that you've done wrong and say that you want the chance to redeem yourself to mother and daughter and if there's any chance of burying the hatchet then all this time later would be a great time to start. (please before I get hate mail I also know that some women can be dead beat mother's as well!)
If you've always shown an interest in your daughter and you've just continually been knocked back try the reasoning letter approach if that doesn't work you are probably either going to have to pursue it through the courts again (this time it would be different as the child is older and able to make decisions for herself) or unfortunately it might be a case of having to wait until your daughter comes to find you for answers.
If the later is what ends up happening perhaps if you are in a financial situation you could buy a charm bracelet (or other keepsake-something personal to you?) and then each birthday and christmas etc that goes by you could buy another charm to put on it. When your daughter eventually comes to find you and you give her the charm bracelet/keepsake you will prove to her that she has never been far from your thoughts.
Why is it that when love goes sour the children most often become the biggest victims of the parents animosity? Sad.
Anyway, I hope this helps.
2007-11-13 12:02:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on why she kept her from seeing him. If it was because he's abusive and the court didn't believe it, I'd say she's a good mother for keeping her daughter from having a life like that. But if she did that because of a grudge against her father and wanted to get back at him by not letting him see his daughter, I'd say she's selfish.
2007-11-13 11:27:58 · answer #3 · answered by S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say she's really stupid for breaking the law but who cares cause obviously the father didn't care enough to take any action against her for 11 years!
There are 100's of ways fathers can get to see their children if it's court ordered.
They'll even bring your kid to you.
2007-11-13 11:30:23 · answer #4 · answered by tina s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the father was a good man who wanted to be with his child, I'd contact the courts, to have a hearing, so that she would be found in contempt of court.
2007-11-13 11:32:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you need to let the court know!!!
She can't do that if there is court orders, she can get into trouble.
2007-11-13 11:27:51 · answer #6 · answered by Just Another One 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Talk to her calmly and tell her you have no intention of hurting her or your daughter. Tell her you will take her out to lunch or something for fun, if you feel. Spend the day with her so she has something good to say to your ex- girlfriend/wife.
2007-11-13 11:30:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not have let it go on this long.
2007-11-13 18:50:26 · answer #8 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask why? and see if it might be for protection or what....
2007-11-13 11:28:10 · answer #9 · answered by musket83 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what made u have this decision?
2007-11-13 11:27:15 · answer #10 · answered by Elaina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋