my marriage is starting to fall apart. we've tried everything, and have given up. looking online for marriage counselors, you get so many results you dont know who to choose from. if there is anyone who knows of someone, or some organization, that they feel have done them well, I would really appreceate it if someone passed on that information. I live in London by the way.
2007-11-13 11:21:48 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You know, I feel so sorry for you. In 1959 I got married and had four great kids but as they grew my wife and I drifted apart as we found the kids had been a good buffer between us. We went to these Marriage Guidance Councillors and they were a total waste of time. The end product was a very acrimonious divorce and a situation where I did not see two of my kids for a very long time. In the same situation now I would try to sit down with my wife and find a solution myself. if the end product was not good, then a divorce it is, but during my second marriage I have solved every problem with just good conversation and common sense. I just wish that I had done the same thing with my first wife and then I would not have lost communication with my children. Be honest with each other and tell each other your true feelings and then, if you are lucky, you may find the answer! If that does not work then at least you will know that you tried your best and it is the time in your life to move on.
2007-11-13 11:33:25 · answer #1 · answered by Ken1912 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My guess is you cannot find a good marriage counselor because you have already given up. If you plan to fail, you will always fail.
Besides, the best counselor may be someone you don't like because he/she will be the one that makes you do some work as well. Maybe you are too picky?
Good luck and don't give up so easily.
2007-11-13 11:38:15 · answer #2 · answered by box of rain 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Churches, friends, Drs - just a few of the places to find referrals to competent counselors. There are also county agencies that have low cost counselors.
2007-11-13 11:25:57 · answer #3 · answered by that judi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you go to your doctor and talk about the stress of the marriage and ask for reccomendations, your doctor will be able to provide you with a list of marriage counselors.
I actually found my therapist online, so if you'd like to be more private (rather then talking to a doctor about it) you can search online for marriage counseling in your area.
2007-11-13 11:30:21 · answer #4 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Read your question......."we've tried everything"....
That tells me that you both want this marriage to work. In my life time I have noticed that a lack of communication is the main problem.....
She does things that iritate you and you do things that iritate her....yet both of you can't see what the problem is. What you really need to do is speak to a person older, someone you trust and that sees both sides of your story.
Or what each of you should do is, write down on a piece of paper all he things you love about each other. On the other side, all the things you hate. You must be honest and open.
Then swop papers and read them. Then sit and ask each other how you can change the iritating things, where can you compromise.
Try to remember the first time you met, bring those feelings back.
I wish you both luck because it sounds like you still are in love.
2007-11-13 18:39:53 · answer #5 · answered by Curious39 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You've got various options. Relate. And there are plenty online counsellors, the main thing is to check they are members of BACP, the professional body. The other thing is that you feel comfortable with them, have an initial taster session to see how you feel. These are usually reduced or free.There will also be counsellors in your area if you'd like to meet face to face.
Trust me, I am one! Hope you find what you are both looking for, good luck.
2007-11-13 11:29:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your spouse says "I have fallen out of love with you" don't panic. It doesn't mean your marriage is over. It doesn't even mean they don't love you. How to get your spouse to love you again https://tr.im/EIA02
What it does mean is that your spouse has lost their way, or doesn't understand the many stages love and a relationship goes through.
You are being called to take charge of the situation, guide your spouse towards understanding this process, and even begin to rekindle your relationship.
The key to success is in understanding what is happening in your marriage and the role that love plays. It's very easy for us to connect losing the feelings of being in love with actual loving when it is not really the case.
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2014-08-07 17:33:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-11-13 11:59:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋