I want to tell my mother that I'm gay but i don't know how to. I need help?

Question

my mom is a catholic Hispanic woman that doesn't view homosexuality or bisexuality seriously. She sees bisexuality as popular trend that everyones adopting. I also feel bad because im an only child and i dont want my mother to never know what it feels like to be grandmother. I dont know what to do!?!?!

Answer 1

You are going to have to be honest with your mother, so you can be honest to your self. You have to live your life to make you happy, although it will be hard for your mother to understand, talk to her and explain that this is who you are.

Answer 2

Here is my story. My mom and my cousin had just came to college to pick me up after finals. We were riding in the car uptown. Before we got off campus, my mom said something about all the money that college costs, and she hopes that some day I will find a rich sugar daddy. My cousin knew about my sexuality. I said (outloud) to my cousin. "I can't take this anymore." My mom said "what?" My cousin replied, "she'll tell you when she is ready." My mom said, just tell me it's not what I think it is." I said, "No mom, I'm not pregnant." She said, "Good, I think I can handle anything but that." I said, "Well, I'm kind of like my niece (let's call her Kara)." My mom said, "So, you're gay?" I replied, "No, I like guys too." She said, "I don't believe in things like that, but I love you anyways." That was the end of it. We never talked about it again. I don't think my mom wants to accept it, but at christmas she will have to, when I tell her that I have a gf.

My point is, that it is going to be really hard to hide things from your family. Moms do have eyes in the back of their heads... Remember that. I'm always here if u want someone 2 talk 2.

Answer 3

I wouldn't approach the situation until you are sure that she won't throw you out -- OR until you have somewhere to go. I had a friend get pitched for exactly that.


As for children. You can have children, even of your body, without being straight. When you get older and can support children, for example -- get a surrogate mother, or form an alliance with a lesbian or a lesbian couple, donate your sperm and split the children -- that's fairly common.

Your mother will have grandchildren.

Kindest thoughts,

Reyn
believeinyou24yahoo.com

PS Congratulations on your courage, I am proud of you.

R

Answer 4

if you're the only son well guess what she wont throw away what she loves the most. i am Hispanic with catholic parents too and they took it somewhat not serious. they somehow wish i can change but i cant change my sexuality...now they are supporting and guess what? i am the only girl out of four kids so they love me no matter what i am...my advice to you is not to rush things she will love you no matter what, sooner or later she will find out what you are and like the mother instinct she has, will love you...about the grandkids there is always adoption...good luck man!

Answer 5

Your mom's antiquated beliefs are already conflicting with the fact that she already knows. Mom's always know, at least on some level. You'll pretty much have to sit her down, say the two magic words, and be prepared to stand for what's true: You're a big mo, and she's gonna have to deal.

Also; kids suck. Let your siblings have 'em.

Answer 6

first, tell her that you have something really important to tell her and she needs to sit down. when she does, hold her hand, look in her eye and say "Mom, I have terminal cancer and I only have 3 months left to live." When she starts to cry, say "Just joking. I'm only gay."

Answer 7

If she doesn't view homosexuality as serious then do something goofy like send her a singing telegram or something!

Answer 8

Just bring your partner around as "just friends" then oventally tell her that you guys are more than friends