My husband is going to be deployed for 10month, he doesnt want me to wait for him he says i deserve better.. should i stay or should i go?
2007-11-13 10:58:32 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we have a child... he says he loves me but isnt in love with me..
2007-11-13 11:03:32 · update #1
I love him and will wait not matter what even if he doesnt want me too.
2007-11-13 11:04:50 · update #2
Personally, I would ask your husband what is behind his remark.
Is he tired of you and is hoping you will leave him? Is his self-esteem so low that he honestly feels you will be better without him? Has he been deployed before and war has become his life (this doesn't make him bad, it is just a common result of being in a tense situation for a prolonged period of time...war makes you feel alive...at home you feel dead)
As should you stay or should you go...that is a question that you must answer for yourself.
I will ask you this...what does your husband deserve?
I'm assuming your husband is going to Iraq or another hostile area. Does your husband deserve to know that someone will be at home waiting for him when he returns? Does he deserve to have someone mail him letters and send him little packages that will mean 1000 times more than a care package from a stranger? Does he deserve to have someone to talk to when he actually gets an opportunity to call home (someone he can tell his deepest fears and regrets with no fear of judgement)?
Or does your husband deserve to be one of 1000s of soldiers whose significant other or spouse left them when they were at their most vulnerable and most fragile?
During war, in a time of uncertainty, the SO/spouse is usually the one thing that a soldier can rely on to be a constant. When that constant is gone, their world kind of crumbles apart.
Should you stay or should you go? That is for you to answer. Look in your heart. I'm sure you knew what the answer was before you even asked this question.
Best of luck to you on a difficult upcoming 10 months. Good luck to your husband...I hope he stays safe.
God Bless our men and women in uniform! Without them, life, liberty, and freedom are just dreams.
2007-11-13 11:08:36 · answer #1 · answered by Slider728 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why?
That is not that long. Why in the world would he say such a thing?
If you two love each other, what is the problem?
Don't you think he's being a little "Dramatic"?
Or
Is he using this as an excuse to be divorced?
If I were you I'd talk to him some more or add more to your
question. When 2 people are in love and one is being deployed, that should only make you closer and want to be there to support him even more. NOT LESS ????
STAY or tell him to give you the "REAL" reason he wants you to leave. And it has nothing to do with "you deserve better!"
2007-11-13 11:07:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl you cant make someone love you. if he says he isnt in love with you anymore what more do you need to hear? i guess there are two ways to look at this, he either really isnt in love with you anymore or he is scared about being deployed and thinks he may not come back. have you tried reassuring him that you love only him and will wait for him till whenever? sometimes people feel like they have to let someone go in order to not get themselves hurt. he may think that you will be with someone else while he is gone so to save the both of you the hurt he will just let you go now so there is no confusion. i think you two should really sit down and have a talk and make sure that he understands how you feel.
2007-11-13 14:12:04 · answer #3 · answered by cherie03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you love him? Why isn't he in love with you? Is he scared of not coming Home? Did he Cheat? You need to ask your self and him these questions! Sounds like you guys have a long heart to heart talk that needs to occur! Good Luck what harsh News!
If It was Worth marrying him its worth waiting! If he can't wait its not worth it! Marriage is forever!
2007-11-13 11:07:00 · answer #4 · answered by Amberlyn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my ex sister in law has this thing with her husband.. he was in the navy.. and while he was out to sea he could see other women and she other men.. is this what he has in mind.. it may or may not work.. she ended in divorce.. a pattern started and a life style that could not be altered.. even once he was station at home..if you feel you can wait.. then wait.. it is only 10 months.. and marriage is suppose to last a life time.. not just 10 months
2007-11-13 11:07:02 · answer #5 · answered by vis 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think the wife should wait for him however she needs to find out why he thinks this way. He might be feeling guilty about something or is scared that he will never come back. She needs to talk to him about why he would want her to leave him.
2007-11-13 11:02:25 · answer #6 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you think he has problems now, wait till he gets back from the war.
If he's telling you he doesn't want you to be with him, then he's telling you he doesn't love you anymore. Believe his words. Sue him for so much child support and spousal support that he'll beg for you back!
2007-11-13 11:11:31 · answer #7 · answered by Kyle 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Am I a girly girl or a tom-boy?
2017-04-06 19:38:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do girls like?????:/)?
2017-02-18 01:13:30 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think you need to ask this question in another 2 months
2007-11-13 11:19:25 · answer #10 · answered by Dr Phil 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋