We were married for 2 years and have been divorced for 4. He cheated on me and is a recovering alcoholic. Should I give him a second chance?
2007-11-13 10:31:11 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No dont do it. Once a cheater always a cheater! besides havent you realized that you deserve better than that.
2007-11-13 11:11:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is something no one here can truly answer, however I will share something with you. I have a friend who got divorced, he eventually remarried his ex only to divorce again. I have an ex husband that became my ex because he cheated and wanted to be with this other women. Months after the divorce he realized what he had lost, he asked me to take him back, at first I was against it, he had to prove to me the changes he was willing to make and keep. I finally took him back and its been over a year since and I can honestly say I have never been happier, he too is a recovering alcoholic. I have yet to remarry him yet, and only time will tell. So only you can decide and remember what ever you decide never look back with regret, if it was wrong learn and move on, if it was right than count your blessings.
2007-11-13 10:43:25 · answer #2 · answered by 20+ years and still in-love! 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There's no "just take him back". If you loved him once, it's possible that the same guy is in there. People can make small changes in their life fairly easy but the big personality flaws are hard.
If he was a player once, but you feel that it was due to his alcoholism then maybe he's changed if he stays sober.
Don't just take him back. Date him a bit and see if he's really changed. Let him know that you are keeping your distance and no sex for a while. Make him win you back and prove that he is changed. If you loved him once, there's a good chance that you will love him again. At least this time you know what you are getting into!
Good Luck!!
2007-11-13 10:44:42 · answer #3 · answered by sfuller94 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
depends...do you love this man? are you in love with this man? can you give him the support he needs to stay on the wagon and go to AA?? do you think you can learn to trust him after what has happened? i ask this b/c my husband and I went thru something like this. he cheated on me with a married woman and the two of them now have a child (who is now 5). it is very hard dealing with this....he goes to his AA meetings a couple times a week ( been sober for 15 years) and we are being a couple again....hell, we lived apart for 3 years! i say if you love him and i mean really love him and think you can be there for him, then i say yes....true love will always find a way.
2007-11-13 10:57:46 · answer #4 · answered by Latino Heat 4ever 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a reason why he is your ex,,, yous already had your life together and the experience of that relationship... but you know what its a grey area the fact that he had a drink problem... and is a recovering alcoholic now just wait til he is recoverd fully!! and dont let him lean on you,, this he has to de mainly on his own, they are his demons and issues to why he drank in the first place,, not yours! xxx,,, just take it slow and be certain that he will not case you heartache.... becasue i truly believe that a womens worth is very high.
2007-11-13 10:39:34 · answer #5 · answered by bluesky 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ex spouses are like old tax returns. Allow them in your thoughts for three years and then shred em.
Too many better fishes in the sea out there. Go find em.
2007-11-13 11:07:34 · answer #6 · answered by catfish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My only ? for you is why have you not moved on? It has been four years what are you thinking? If this is how he was when you were with him then why in gods name would you even think about taking him back. A leopard never changes it's spots!!!!!!!!!!
2007-11-13 10:58:43 · answer #7 · answered by FLIT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me just say this no one can answer that but you but I will say this to you, sit down and look at your life together and ask yourself what did you benefit for as having him around did you gain anything or did you lose, where do he stand in your heart now, are you ready for a life with him, and most important how would you feel for as having him back in your life?
2007-11-13 10:43:36 · answer #8 · answered by bama_lilmomma 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
do you love him, has he truly stopped drinking?my ex was abusive and said and did things to me , that you wouldnt believe, he was also an alcoholic. I cant tell you to take him back but i know what i would do if i was in your situation. i'd take mine back but on my terms, or else.
2007-11-13 11:07:06 · answer #9 · answered by Fran M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You divorced him for a reason don't set your self back up for heart ache!
2007-11-13 10:54:29 · answer #10 · answered by Amberlyn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋