My aunt--shes been described as selfish. She's a musician one day, she walked out on a concert performance because she didn't like duets. All my life, her family has been jealous of us because we "bought the house out from under them" (we didn't, back them my mom said, she offered it to them! The funny thing is, we were never trying to make her feel inferior in any way. years later, there's a huge tragedy in our family. She made me feel so bad and poured salt in that wound at the time of my deepest pain. Then, she calls back once in a while to say that, her daughter is getting married, or so in so is making a lot of money trying to tick us off. Its like she can finally One-up us (however we never thought of things that way!!!) excuse us for mourning. How do I handle her?
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2007-11-13 10:24:26 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
She isn't worth being involved with. She is mean and spiteful from what you describe. Avoid her and keep your contacts short. You could tell her how you feel, but I don't think that would change her and she might try to find a way to use it against you. Stay away from her.
2007-11-17 04:53:07 · answer #1 · answered by Simmi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are giving this woman WAY too much power over your happiness.
When you think of her "pouring salt in your wounds" it should make you mad, not sad. Doesn't that tell you that she's mean?
So why let her be mean? She can't hurt you if you don't take hurt from what she says.
So she's trying to make you feel bad about things that you don't even care about. (That so-and-so has this-or-that.)
Isn't is stupid that she says these things?
Isn't she a sad and pathetic thing?
Isn't it, in a way, funny, that she bothers trying to bug you, and in such a stupid way? I mean, if you're HAPPY for the good fortunes of these other relatives, she loses, right?
So, at first, you'll have to fake being pleased. Over time, you'll stop being bothered by this nut.
2007-11-13 21:55:10 · answer #2 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a grandfather that I absolutely despise and seems everyone in the family has been rubbed the wrong way by him. The man's a bully pretty much and now he's lonely because no body talks to him any more accept for maybe my father... I don't know. I haven't spoken to him in awhile. He's starting to take after his father.
You have either two options... tell her how you feel and maybe you can work it out with her. Or you can cut her out of your life.
2007-11-13 18:34:44 · answer #3 · answered by Ducky Jackal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly there's is nothing that you can really do
because everyone has that one family member that is hated by everyone and no matter what you do they will never change
you could try talking to her if that helps
or you could be like her to give her a taste of her own medicine
or you can see a physkiatrist(sp?)
or you can learn do deal with it like i have
hope this helps
2007-11-13 18:36:19 · answer #4 · answered by a91mtl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very simple: AVOID them.
2007-11-13 18:27:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋