Been friends w/a guy for about 7yrs who is 13yrs my senior. We have always had a great friendship and had a good time together. However, somewhere down the line we started developing feelings for 1 another. We never had any sexual encounters strictly on mental/emotional ties. I got engaged and told him that we could no longer continue this friendship knowing we had these type of feelings. It ended, I got married, and moved to another state. Moved back to my home state and we ran into each other and picked up where we left off as if no time lapse occurred. We have shared some life situations that have made our bond stronger (1 semi-sexual experience) and we both have tried numerous times to just walk away but cant seem too. I am now married and have been married for several yrs and even tho my hubby and I have a good relationship/marriage...my "friend" still can get my attn and get under my skin...even hurting my feelings sometimes. What do I do? (By the way...he is married too)
2007-11-13 10:01:34 · 20 answers · asked by Princess J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Say goodbye (in public - so no temptation for the goodbye kiss) then delete him from all phone and human memory.
It would crush me to the core of my being if I discovered that my wife had feelings for another man
2007-11-13 10:21:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look lady, i'm only 20 and not married, but even i can tell that this isn't turning out good. If you love your husband you need to end your other relationship. The grass always seems greener on the other side until you get there, then you see it different. If you pick your "friend" then you are destroying 2 marriages. You know, if you don't cut it off, its only gonna cause more problems, and eventually ya'lls innocent encounters are gonna escalate into more. Best of luck to ya
2007-11-13 10:13:09 · answer #2 · answered by amicalolacowboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't see your friend again, i know it is harsh, but i've been through the same thing and if the tables were turned and it was your husband having the problem how would you feel? and your friend's wife, what about her??? Cut ties. SORRY!! But be honest with your husband so he can help you. P.S. even after you cut ties you will still think about him often it took me a long time to get over it...oh and just think about this infatuation thing even if you got with the guy the new always wears off in time
2007-11-13 10:07:34 · answer #3 · answered by needpin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's funny, if you were a man, the people in this group would be screaming for your b*lls, but since you're a woman, you'll get a different answer because there are mostly women here. The dual-standard amazes me.
You want both men. It's your life. Do what you think is best and enjoy/suffer the consequences. All other answers are hooey.
2007-11-13 10:16:51 · answer #4 · answered by Level 7 is Best 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never should have married your husband if you felt this way about another man. You never should have had that "semi-sexual experience" with him (by the way, there's no such thing as semi-sexual, either it is or it isn't)
If you really loved your husband, you would make it a point not to see this other man.
By the way, it's spelled "infatuated".
I don't know how you can have such loving feelings for a man low enough to cheat on his wife...but hey, your doing the same thing!
2007-11-13 10:06:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl what are you freaking out for? Stop talking about sex with this man that's really gross, the only man you should be having sexually charged conversations with is your husband. You are having an emotional affair, concentrate on your marriage don't do anything you wouldn't be comfortable with you husband doing. But then maybe you are trying to be vindicated by cheating as well but what do you think will happen to your friend's wife if he cheats with you? She will be devastated as you were when your husband cheated on you, stop being selfish. I think you must only have friendly small talk with this man, tell him the conversations about sex were taking an inappropriate turn and that they must stop for the sake of both you marriages. This is the stuff divorces are made of.
2016-05-23 01:16:47 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can separate the sex from love, and be discreet, and keep your relationship with your own husband strong and healthy, and not do IT too often, then go ahead and enjoy each other. Life is short!
2007-11-13 10:57:39 · answer #7 · answered by K M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stay away from him. you just seem to want him because he is unavaliable. oh and spend time with your husband and remember the reasons HES the man you married not your friend!
2007-11-13 10:47:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what would you you do if it was your husband cheating on you? Would you want him to stop to save your marriage? or would you tell him it's OK to cheat on you because you have? Time to think about your life and why you would need to put your life in risk
2007-11-13 10:47:55 · answer #9 · answered by Dr Phil 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have been there done that. It will eventually take over your thought process and either destroy your marriage or your inner self.
2007-11-13 10:08:18 · answer #10 · answered by cfb193 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋