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I have just relocated 2 1/2 hours to live with my partner.

The kids LOVE it.

But I have always lived in the country, and have found moving to the city to be very stressful. People are rude, I have tried to talk to other mums at the kids school, but they dont want to give me the time of day ........something that Im not used to at all.
I feel lonely and depressed, and I dont know my way around, I dont really want to 'burden' my partner with my woes.

Sorry guys its not really a question, more just a vent........

2007-11-13 09:28:16 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

LOL I know it sounds like a 'poor me' thing .......really Im a 'together' kind of person, Just finding the new situation more difficult than I thought it would be.

2007-11-13 09:34:27 · update #1

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Just knowing your not alone should make you feel a little better. Here's my story, i have always lived in the city with the rude people and the noise the lights and all the cars and i loved it because it's all i knew. We moved, my husband and i that is, to a county not the country due to the school system in the city. Our son was getting ready to start school soon and we did not want him going to some run down over populated school. We moved and It took a couple of years to get use to the crickets and the quietness but we did and i started to like it there, everything was fine then my husband was relocated through his job to Memphis TN. The people there are very nice but it's not alot to do there so i was bored to death. I was so happy when my husband came home and said pack your bags we're moving again. We lived there for three years then came Tampa FL. we have been here going on four years now. You see your not alone,i don't care how pretty or how nice the people are it's still not home. My home is Baltimore, MD. I know it's nothing to brag about but it's my home.

2007-11-13 12:46:39 · answer #1 · answered by Teenie 7 · 1 0

I don't know how things are in your area in terms of city vs. country but I completely know what you are saying. I was forced to live in a city for 2 years and I was miserable...it was dangerous and unfriendly and cold.

That being said, maybe you could negotiate with your partner to find a more "suburban" area and move there? Otherwise, I suggest doing things like joining th PTA or volunteer in your child's school...do country things in your city life and you might find that there are other mothers in your same shoes. Find a cooking class or something that is motherly and nurturing...

I don't know if I am doing a good job of describing this but think of what your type of friends would be doing like art classes or volunteer work or something and then go there to find other like-minded people.

Good luck!

2007-11-13 09:36:26 · answer #2 · answered by joellemoe 4 · 1 0

Hey Ozimum

I know exactly what you are going thru.
I felt the same when I moved to where I am.
City folk are very private people who have an inner circle of friends. Breaking into these can prove difficult.
Stay strong for now & soon you will have new friends & a support base, but for now you will have to be a support for the kids who are no doubt feeling the same way as you.
Stay strong & good luck

Cheers
B.

2007-11-13 11:06:36 · answer #3 · answered by Bruinou B 2 · 1 0

Hi, I was in a similar situation a few years back, but in the reverse. I had to leave the city to go and live in the country. I loved it, but when I went to the country I had to leave all my friends and relatives behind and I missed them like crazy. If you wish to talk to me again sometime my name on answers is Alwyn C. Where did you move from and where did you move to? I'm an Aussie mum to.

2007-11-13 10:02:42 · answer #4 · answered by Alwyn C 5 · 1 0

Yea moving from the country to the city is always really hard but you kind of got to start drinking LOL and be rude back to them thats how the city can be and its no more being nice you really have to get a grip on this part of life. Good Luck

2007-11-13 09:35:19 · answer #5 · answered by mommyandbaby 4 · 1 1

Oh I know how you feel. This is completely temporary though. The sooner you get out and familiarize yourself with the city, your kids' friend's parents, your neighbors, etc, the more you will get to like it, or at least be comfortable with it! Soon you'll be jetting around the city like a native.

2007-11-13 09:39:54 · answer #6 · answered by Leah 3 · 1 0

I am sorry...but things will get better...you have to find a way to not feel so lonely and depressed....My hubby and I moved 750 miles from our respective families...I left my 3 teenagers who live with their father...whom I miss dearly....but go back and see as often as I can...

2007-11-13 09:39:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

its OK I'm moving 3 hours away from my family at the end of the year because my husband got a great job and we cant pass it up. I'm going to miss having people that i know around me. i hope i can get use to it fast, best of luck to you getting use to your new home.

2007-11-13 09:33:55 · answer #8 · answered by I love my DIRTBIKE! 4 · 2 0

All change is stressful. Count all the things that are right and not the things that are wrong.

2007-11-13 09:37:36 · answer #9 · answered by New Nana 4 · 1 0

It must be hard for you, but for the sake of your kids you must adapt.

2007-11-13 09:35:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

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