My ex and I broke up in May and we have a 9 month old daughter together and I'm recently 7 months pregnant from him. Ever since we split he showed no interest in my pregnancy or our daughter. I talked to him a month ago and he said that he didn't want the responsibility and he wanted nothing to do with the kids. Now i'm engaged to someone else and we're getting married next year and he wants to adopt both kids. I'm due with the 2nd baby in February. My ex is mad that i'm engaged and now he's trying to start stuff with my fiances family. he knows my fiances cousin and told her that i was a worthless slut and called me a bunch of nasty names. my fiance got irritated because he's saying that stuff and he's also telling everybody that the kids aren't his and that i cheated on him which isn't true at all and he knows that but he just wants to be stupid. So how do I get him to leave me and my family alone so i can be at peace with my fiance and kids?
2007-11-13 09:26:58 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
get full custody of your children
2007-11-13 09:41:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a difficult possition. The only thing I could suggest is to be the bigger person and blow it off. I understand that is hard at times, but it keeps problems from escalating. Once you and your fiance' are married and the adoption process begins it won't matter any more. Honestly, what is the harm in him running around telling people the kids aren't his. It should make the whole adoption process easier if he is denying parentage. The whole thing of telling people things about you is just a way to cause problems. I understand that for the time, it may make you look bad, but you know the truth. Stand on the fact that you know the truth about you and that your fiance' does too. I have been dealing with a similar situation for the last 8 years with my ex. She never wanted our daughter until we split up and I had to start paying support. She started telling people alot of things that weren't true. As hard as it may be, be patient and stand strong knowing the truth.
2007-11-13 17:49:12 · answer #2 · answered by emt5804 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly don't rise to him, secondly GET THAT ADOPTION sorted so he no longer has a say. Cut all ties till the kids are 18. They dont need 2 dads, just a loving one that will respect their mother and it sound like you've found him. Well done xx
2007-11-13 18:33:59 · answer #3 · answered by Rachie Lou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is worthless , you shouldn't destroy your life for him. Make another family and move on ; ignore him . and one day karma is going to come to him. About the baby.. he's gonna have to take responsibility for it anyways.. its the law. so right there he has no idea what hes talking about. hes crazy. i suggest you make a happy family ; and go one with your life.
2007-11-13 23:22:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore whatever he says and if you don't response to his comments he will get tired of it and go away. As long as what he says are not true, no need to respond. Truth will rise to the top and he will be scorned.
2007-11-13 21:23:31 · answer #5 · answered by Goodhead 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him straight up and tell him he is worthless and if he gets engaged do the same thing
2007-11-13 17:31:15 · answer #6 · answered by Kiko the KoolKat of Anime(Naomi) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
limit your contact,don't answer the phone,ignore him. his opinion doesn't matter. tell your family friends he talks with, if they were true to you they wouldn't repeat the b.s he says to them to you. ignore the sorry s.o.b. be thankful you have a good man.
2007-11-13 17:46:28 · answer #7 · answered by ben 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to a lawyer
2007-11-13 17:32:07 · answer #8 · answered by Debbie Ann H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋