I am only 20 and my biological clock is ticking! Is this normal?

Question

Ever since I had a pregnancy scare recently I can not get it off my mind. I feel like an idiot because OBVIOUSLY I am only 20 and the last thing I need in my unpredictable life is a baby! My mom had me when she was 18 which makes me think that is why my biological clock is off a little. I just want to know how to keep this thing from turning me into a baby making machine and ruining my life at such a young age. Oh and I already tried to take a baby for the weekend and I just liked it, it didn't make me think "oh no I can't handle that!" it just made me want one more! I need therapy...or Montel Williams....LOL

Answer 1

it doesn't seem "abnormal" maybe less normal in today's society but 100 years ago you would probably already have 3 kids and another on the way. you are fertile and these are the years that you'll have the healthiest babies (rather than waiting til your late thirties and early fourties)

it's good that you realize that you aren't ready yet, just keep reminding yourself of it. i think it's kind of like a new car... when you test drive one but you know you can't afford it right now... you'll have to wait a few years. you JUST can't get that sweet car out of your mind.
good luck! try to stay positive and realistic!!

Answer 2

I bet you probably feel that way because your mom had you at such a young age - you see things like oh well when she was my age she already had a two year old! Its good that you know you'll definitely want kids at some time but as you said you realize now is not the time. As long as you stay realistic you'll be fine - and you know your biological clock isnt ticking you're just feeling broody which could be connected a lot to the pregnancy scare, now that you know you're not pregnant you can focus on the nice aspects of what if I was without worrying that you actually are. When you thought you were pregnant I bet you werent feeling this way....

Answer 3

I think my biological clock is broken, but whatever... I think u should get on birth control, and worry about making a good home to bring a baby into. Get an education, a well-paying job (maybe a job at a day care or as a nanny for now), a husband who would make a wonderful father, and then have a baby. Ur smart and realize that u want more for yourself than to b a baby making machine, so focus on ur education or job for now.

Answer 4

I know what you mean. I am 22 and still in school and will be for a long time. I watch shows like John and Kate + 8 and feel that tick tick tick. I don't think the age or your mom has much to do with it as my mom was 30 when she had me. Also it does not help that I have been married for 2 years and everyone keeps asking when we are going to start having kids. Ahhhh. Good luck and please wait until you are married to have kids. it really does make a difference.

Answer 5

I'm like you (i'll be 20 next month) and I'm torn between finishing off my "learning" phase of life and having children while still in it. I basically raised my first nephew since my sister was still attending college when she had him. He was premature, so I pretty much have seen everything.. from the time he almost died (from RSV) to the time where he suffered from severe tantrums very early on (from the time he was 7 months old). I don't know how anyone can say those sort of experiences will turn you away from wanting children.. I went through so much yet I still want one. I am just torn on whether or not I could handle it right now. I think you ultimately need to make the decision. Are you ready for the hurt that can happen if something happens to your child or to you? Are you ready for the chances that your child may not survive? Are you ready for the chance that even if your child comes out healthy, he or she may end up very sick and die? It has happened.. it has happened a lot unfortunately! :(

Answer 6

While it may be true, that women mature faster than men... i think twenty is hardly old enough to worry about your fertility or your biological clock. If you are not trying to get pregnant there is no need to worry. However if you are planning a pregnancy...and you believe you will have difficulties... U may want to have your partner get checked out to make sure it's not any deficiency of his. If all else fails...Maury..or Montel is not out of the question...ust don't end up on ELLEN!!!

Answer 7

Kid -you got baby fever. The best cure is to hold back from sex and take care of some else's baby for a while. After you change a few diapers or conduct a midnight feeding or two your baby fever should start to break. Trust me babies are wonderful but only when you're really ready for one.

Answer 8

It's totally normal. I went through the same thing.. I'm 23 and STILL want a baby!!

Good thing I'm getting married next fall, then I'll finally get to!! LOL

Just don't go get pregnant yet.. Wait for the right time, you know.. marriage... lol

The best feeling in the world is telling the man you love that you want a baby and having them agree!!

Good luck sweetie, you'll be a great mom when the time comes!

OH!!! Also.. GET A PUPPY!!!!

It fulfills your "mommy" need. LOL


I have 2.....

Answer 9

You're completely normal. That happened to me at that age too. Just remember that a baby will completely derail everything in your life. You should really finish school or buy a house or some other big project first, then you'll be in a better place to raise a kid.

Answer 10

babysit someone else's child, one that is colicky or with a cold or stomach distress would be great. after you have to function on zero rest,covered in used tissues or you smell like poop from diaper blowouts, you will learn to ignore the tick tock of your 'clock' for a while. grow some more,live tether free while you can. enjoy your 20's,kid.