why do anti-feminist men want women to stay home?

Question

haven't any of you realized life without kids and "traditional" responsibilities can be liberating and completely awesome?

i have kids, and love them to death, but honestly, i don't want anymore, because it's a lot of work. my wife is fine with that because she has her own thing going on. why would i want to be with a woman whose only goal is to pop out a ton of kids and expect me to foot the bill? i'm glad we are both independent.

Answer 1

Anti-feminist men want women to stay home because they are insecure and need to women to be dependent on them in order to feel secure in a relationship.

Answer 2

My opinion as an anti-feminist is that when a couple have children one parent, either one, should be at home when the children are.
Pretty simple, really. This is based on tons of research that shows children raised by both parents when one is an "at home" parent have a much better outlook and more promising future.

When a couple marry but decide not to have children, both should work outside the home to provide EQUALLY as well as sharing the "at home" duties including cleaning, cooking, repairing, mowing, laundry, etc., or some division that is acceptable to both, which could include either one working outside the home and the other keeping house, which is not sex-specific.

That pretty well shows the question asked to be innuendo and that the "answers" from feminists are just lies.

Answer 3

Some people resent stay at home moms and some don't. Granted there probably are some stay at home moms who are just lazy, but most I think aren't. As long as both people in the relationship actively choose to have the woman stay at home and raise her children, I see noting wrong with their decision. Her job as a mom is no less important than if she were working as a doctor or mechanic. Raising your children is hard and rewarding just like any other job. Some people probably think that all or most stay at home moms are coerced into doing so and do not actively make that choice.

Answer 4

Wow, how charming. "popping out a ton of kids" and "having him foot the bill" used to be called "growing up" and "taking responsibility.". Yeah, I suppose being a teenager forever might be a lot of fun. Now, I'm not talking about people who contribute to the world in other ways and don't have kids - I'm talking about that "let's party forever and not have any responsibilites" way of life. It's funny how people are supposed to be so much happier that way, yet Prozac use is up, divorce is up, suicide is up, hmmmmmmmm......

You'd better beleive I expect my husband to support his family! I married a man, not a kid. He'd have the right to be disappointed in me if I decided to stop caring for the kids and spent all day watching tv. We have an agreement here to both be responsible adults.

Answer 5

Well I consider myself a feminist, i truly believe in women's rights, well everyone's in fact. But I think the reason why men want women to stay home is because they want to think they are all that or they belittle women and think "woman, should be seen but not heard" thing going on, that all they are good for is having kids. Some men, thank God, aren't like this, but i am not sure why some men are.

Answer 6

That's great....kids are a lot of work, but some people actually ENJOY popping out kids, and staying at home to raise the kids you POP out is a valuable and worthwhile SACRIFICE to make. Or you could simply pop them out and ship them off to strangers all day long.

I'm all for equality, but I'm also for responsibility and doing something worthwhile....moreso than doing what makes you feel good and fulfilled. What happened to doing what's right???? As a society we are so worried about our 'happiness' that we get lost in our selfish pursuits.....

Answer 7

This anti-feminist woman stays at home, sure I could work, though I don't want to; makes no difference; see. I'm completely liberated following my own path. That's something that you as a feminists lover does not see; just like the rest caught up in your blindness; blinded by your own definition that you set upon us; there're all L-I-E-S.

Answer 8

I agree that life without kids and traditional responsibilities can be liberating and completely awesome - and that is why I plan on NOT having kids and NOT having traditional responsibilities. I'm living my life for me..kids suck!

Sorry this had nothing to do with your question - I just had to concur.

Answer 9

Because saying that they support a mother's right to work would detract from their anti-feminist mystique. Image is everything, remember.

I'm a feminist who has already realized these things, which is why I'm remaining childless and completely non-traditional.

Answer 10

Life WITH kids can be liberating and completely awesome. Depends on what you're into. Best of luck to you and your wife with your choices.