Why am I so upset??

Question

I hate this everyone.. I cannot stop crying.. my fiancee of 4 years just ended it with me because she was "losing interest" I have called her a bunch of times, texted her a bunch, and just can't stop crying over this.. She says "she needs time right now" but yet 1 week ago we were madly in love.. What does need time mean!? I can't stop crying

Answer 1

I'm sorry, I'm so sorry. What a heartbroken mess you are.

You are so upset because all your dreams for the future were cruelly pulled out from under you. It's going to be hard, but you have to let yourself mourn this loss. Take your time, don't rush yourself, but know that you are not going to marry someone like that. You will eventually get up and keep yourself together and move on, but its going to take time.

I'm sorry someone was so careless with your heart.

Answer 2

I'm sorry that you are going through this. However, you must give her the space she needs. The biggest turn off for her is that you are calling and texting her like mad. It's probably getting her more irritated which is not going to work in your favor. Also, I hate to say it, but chances are, if she is serious about ending things, the 2 of you were not madly in love a week ago. It will be hard to take an independent stand by giving her the space she needs and focus on your hobbies. The worst thing you can do (and let's face it - it's not constructive at all) is to dwell on it. If it was meant to be, she will come back when she is ready. Don't rely on it though - go on with your life as much as you can by making new friends and exploring interests in your life. Good luck!

Answer 3

OH dear...I thoroughly sympathise with you....I'm going through the exact same thing. The last time we spoke we were so in love....then a message asking for time. I can't stop crying either, but trying to keep busy.....all the time waiting. It's been nearly 5 weeks now with no contact.
Tell her you want out and see if she changes her mind. At least then you may get some closure. Or try and not contact her at all and see if she responds to that. Good luck!

Answer 4

If I were you, I wouldn't call her now except to ask for your engagement ring back - ignore her for at least ten days or a month. Maybe never call her back.

What it means:
- she changed her mind about you
- she met someone else
- she made other plans like going to work in another country
- her family might disapprove of you

As hard as it will be, pick yourself right up and move on. Remember there are lots of other nice women out there who are just waiting to meet really nice, loyal guy. So, get busy!!! Tell your friends you are now available. Sign up for a class in financial planning, painting, cooking, or yoga, etc. Go to church. Make new friends, visit your relatives and old friends. get in touch with old classmates and college chums. Go to the gym. Within a month or two you will feel better about this and see how easy it is to find someone who will appreciate you. You might even try eharmony.com - they say they match your compatibility.

Joy to you.

Answer 5

Well, youre upset because you ARE madly in love. It happens. But--(And Im not being an insensitive pr*ck, pleae believe me)--us guys tend to get into our relationships and setlle. We cease to do the things that attracted her to us in the first place. We tend to lose our fun "bad boy" side and become a needy cliggy wuss over time and it is always a deal -breaker for our ladies. So, this isnt the end of the world, you will go on, and you WILL remember to continue to do and be the things you were in the beginning from here on out. Now man up and relax!

Answer 6

First off, though this may sound mean, you need to think of yourself. She did this, so don't worry about her right now.

When you lose something, you replace it right? So you will feel a void and continue to be depressed till you replace it with something else.

Now that does not necessarily mean that you have to replace that void with another women, though that does seem to work the best in my book.

Basically it would seem from what you are saying that SHE is the thing in your life keeping you happy everyday. So find something else that keeps you happy. Go mountain biking, get involved with a sport, or whatever you like.

To put it simply, what was making you happy before is not around, so find something else to fill it's place till it comes back.

Answer 7

Something has happened and what that is only she can tell you.

One thing is for sure though - if she is telling you that she doesn't want to see you and needs time, then you have to give it to her. You can't make her change her mind.

How horrible to end a 4 year relationship with such a flimsy reason. I'm so sorry this has happened, but you have to leave her alone. It's horrible I know - just take things one day at a time.

Answer 8

This may hurt alot, but it's important that you give her the time she needs. The fact that she ended it with you and gave you a lame excuse indicates that she wasn't as much in love with you as she led you to believe. You need to be cautious here and try to avoid allowing your emotions to interfere with your thinking. You don't want to be used. And, you don't want a woman who doesn't fully love you. If she needs her time, ask her first to return your engagement ring. She can have it back when you are assured of her fidelity and love.

Answer 9

Maybe she needs to get to know herself as an individual.Take the time you have apart right now and do the same. Try not to dwell on her and focus on how you can be happy with you. You may discover a lot about yourself. This is an opportunity for you to make sure it right for both of you. My suggestion to you is keep an open communication with her and respect her space. Try to see her every now and then so she knows your still there for her. If she wants to she'll come back. Sometimes people grow apart and sometimes people have to be apart in order to realize whats important to them.

Answer 10

Well this is familar to what happened to my brother in law about a year ago. He was with a girl for 3 years raised her daughter they were madly in love and the moment he popped the question and she ran never looking back. I think she was stupid and young but he got over it eventually and you will too.

Good Luck