2007-11-13 08:53:08 · 10 answers · asked by angelfish 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am the one who was abused, and I was the one that had to babies stretch out my belly and I am the one that takes the kids to the doctors when they are sick. It is really hard on me and I admit that I have been taking care of me last.
I dont have any one who helps with the kids (10 yr old girl & 12 yr old boy) ,
so I end up exhausted from taking care of everything. I am really sad because
I am 45 and starting over...
Men can go through divorce and easily go back to a life of work / go out / straighten up for themselves.
But I have so much on my shoulders and
I am the one who took off time from my
career to have a family. I have my masters degree but have been out of the work world too long to do what I did
before....
I would like to have a boy friend but am a bit insecure that I have physically changed. I cant just go out whenever and I dont have the available income to do whatever I want. How do you find a mr. right who is willing to put up with me and my kids?
2007-11-13 09:10:22 · update #1
PS. My ex-husband and father of my
children lives 6 hours away. And the kids go there only on long weekends.
2007-11-13 09:19:44 · update #2
then go for it...i think it's great you're ready to move forward!
blessings and luck to you
2007-11-13 08:57:55 · answer #1 · answered by starting over 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's hard, I am in the same shape you are. Newly divorced, 2 young children (my oldest is 4), and just got back on the dating scene. I didn't think I was interested in dating yet, but my friend hooked me up with this guy she works with, and as it turns out, we have been having a lot of fun. I can't tell you how many babysitting offers I've had from friends, just because they were so happy that I was finally going out and having a good time and doing something for myself. If you have family or if your ex-husband gets the kids on weekends, that's the perfect time to go out. Good luck to you. The first step is the hardest one!
2007-11-13 09:01:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is there a Parents Without Partners chapter near you?
I have friends who have attended their functions with a great deal of success.
You will meet men who also have children, and have an understanding of your life.
Be careful in terms of the online dating. There are freaks of all kids lurking out there, and there are the liars and cheaters.
I am sure being a Mom takes a great deal of your time, and you are looking to relax and enjoy with someone.
I was divorced a few years ago, and can relate. I have been fortunate in that I worked with someone who was in a similar boat, and we have hit it off.
I wish you the same success. But, be careful where you post.
2007-11-13 09:02:27 · answer #3 · answered by Sev 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does your city have a Parents Without Partners chapter? If so, go to a couple of meetings. Find a large church that has a single's Sunday School Class. Both are good places to meet others in your same situation.
2007-11-13 09:01:10 · answer #4 · answered by Just Hazel 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh just quit feeling sooooo sorry for lil ole uuuuuu!!! My 1st wife walked out of r lifes without looking back, left me(hubby)&3 small kids, We lived in Cali, family lived back East, We stayed in Cali, for 15 more years, the were into high school, before we moved back(so they'd know their family). And we did great!!!!!! I understand the single parenting process, and we never got a $ in support, or welfare!! Kids are colleg grads doing great w families of their own now!!!!
2007-11-13 13:14:25 · answer #5 · answered by happywjc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children shouldn't stop you from living.
Find a good sitter though so you won't be worrying.
If you find that someone special take the children with you.
I say go for it and start having fun and living again.
2007-11-13 08:58:58 · answer #6 · answered by justceleste 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get on an online dating site.
Good luck!
2007-11-13 08:57:25 · answer #7 · answered by crasher 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how hard it is to date these days,especially with children,you can go to bars but you know what you find there are just guys wanting to get laid,good luck to you
2007-11-13 08:59:33 · answer #8 · answered by phil 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
online dating
2007-11-13 08:59:59 · answer #9 · answered by djmixah7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im free
2007-11-13 08:57:37 · answer #10 · answered by john 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋