She's abused by her mom at home. She got raped a few months ago, and she's pregnant. She doesn't know what to do, because her mom would kill her if she found out. What can I do to help?
2007-11-13 08:26:42 · 42 answers · asked by fanny bandits 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
call child protective services.
2007-11-13 08:28:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
How old is she? I know she's a minor, but how close to 18 is she?
There are very caring people out there who would love to adopt that baby, if your friend doesn't feel she's capable of doing so. Some couples even pay for all the expenses of pregnancy/delivery...sometimes including housing during pregnancy! If she can't keep the baby, this would be a great thing for her.
Abortion doesn't solve anything. She could feel guilty for the rest of her life. With all the abuse she's gone through already, I don't recommend adding another emotional blow. A pregnancy due to rape is extremely difficult, but I've heard from women who have been through that and love their babies very much. And from others who carried the baby to term, and then gave him/her up for adoption. They are all proud of what they did, and the sacrifice they made, and they're able to heal from the rape knowing that they did the right thing for the child. On the other hand, I've heard from women who got pregnant from rape, aborted, and that made things worse. Don't encourage her to do that!
If she can't get help from an adoptive family, or she wants to keep the child, then you need to call CPS.
2007-11-13 08:36:17 · answer #2 · answered by merebear83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have your friend come to your house and tell your mom, sit there with her for support make sure you give your mom the hint she cant go home or she'll get hurt. As for your friend does she wanna keep the baby if so try wearing baggy clothes to conceal it so her wont know and if she doesnt want the baby try adoption or abortion (not recommended) if she doesn't want that she can start working out a lot my moms friend is a health nut and still worked out when she was pregnant and lost the baby that way. For help with trama there are free clinics and I'm sure school counselors would help with everything!
2007-11-13 08:36:18 · answer #3 · answered by Teagan_Jaymes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course I would say to tell your friend to tell her mom anyway but something tells me she wouldn't be understanding obviously because of the abuse. If theres another family member that she can confide in and is unuderstandable then that might be the way to go. A few months ago is a long time. She has to tell someone because what is she going to do when the baby comes? Im sure she wasn't raped by choice so it's not her fault. She should definitely tell someone who understands and could possibly make her mom understand to.
2007-11-13 08:32:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anon E. Mous A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are BIG billboards with the questions...PREGNANT? SCARED? CALL THIS NUMBER. Thay're for exactly what you mentioned. Or call free counciling. Or talk with a nurse. See a priest. Tell child welfare....about the rape, the abuse,,,the pregnancy. You're not alone. You have lots of alternatives. The roads may all be bumpy but they all lead to the same great place.
2007-11-13 08:36:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, help her get out of there. Contact a Woman's shelter, or Child Protective Services, for assistance getting her out. She needs both help to cope with the abuse, and medical advise on the pregnancy. Failing that, get her to talk to the School Counselor, or the School Nurse, or a minister of her church, if she's religious.
If she's willing, go with her to the police. She needs to tell them of the abuse and the rape.
She's in for a very hard time whatever she decides to do, so if you can, just be there for her, as a friend.
2007-11-13 08:34:04 · answer #6 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have her go to police. Now that she is pregnant, she is considered 'emancipated' which basically means she is free of parentlal control. She should get psychological help as well. Rape and pregancy are going to be difficult issues for her especially if her mom isn't going to be a better mom.
2007-11-13 08:30:52 · answer #7 · answered by Jen D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her mom would kill her because she is pregnant from a rape? That makes no sense.
If her mom is abusing her, the authorities should be called in.
2007-11-13 08:30:31 · answer #8 · answered by Shubunkin 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call CPS but do not abort the baby b/c I have heard of so many stories of a mother aborting her baby and having so many psycological problems and it sounds like she has had a pretty hard live and the last thing she need is to deal with murdering her baby
2007-11-13 08:34:02 · answer #9 · answered by MITCH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most definitely call child family services. Have your friend explain to them the situation at home and possibly have a counselor be with her when she tells her mother about the pregnancy.
2007-11-13 08:30:23 · answer #10 · answered by Rebecca M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call Cps, but also you might offer her a place with you, talk to your parents, teachers. See if there is a place you can help her get into. It is a sticky situation, I am sure you will do what is right.... And I am sure your friend is happy that you are such a good friend
2007-11-13 08:31:49 · answer #11 · answered by Crystal K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋