What do I do? He called me on the phone as he was leaving the mall to buy face cream for himself, and he started talking about how hot this girl was............Also when he walked in the door of our home he again made a comments about the girl! I'm wondering if they exchanged numbers :( Any advice?
2007-11-13 08:19:06 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think I would sit down and talk it out with him. Keep your statements 'I' statements, like I feel, I think, I want...etc. It helps to make sure you don't accidentally accuse him of anything, and makes it impossible for him to tell you what you are or are not experiencing. Well he can, but he would be wrong. Does he know this bothers you? Is he looking for attention? Or is he just insensitive and doesn't realize how it makes you feel? Don't discount the possibility of emotional abuse either. I think you may need professional help. Most couples wait until it's too late to do this. Don't be one of them.
2007-11-13 08:34:41 · answer #1 · answered by Linda B 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Think you should get yourself all dolled up and make a trip to the mall and buy yourself some cream while checking her out to see exactly what he thinks is so great - then duplicate or out do her! Note if she is wearing a wedding ring.
Be exceedingly charming to her and introduce yourself to her and learn all you can about her. Find out where she lives, her family, friends, church, etc. Get her name and phone number in case you have more questions later. Find out where she shops, gets her hair done, note the color of her nail polish, etc. - all information you can use. What you will learn will be well worth the cost of a jar of face creme or whatever you get.
Then tell her you were recommended to her by your husband and see on her face if she even remembers him.
Be soooooooooo nice that the next time he comes in, she is sure to tell him what a delightful wife he has!!!! And, by the way, keep him supplied with that creme so he never has to go back there and buy more.
Secretly keep all the info you collected in case you need it for divorce court at a later time.
Read the book called Divorce Busters - it has a wealth of information! And how to handle it if he does cheat.
PS - you could hint that he may have a health problem LOL - (just joking)
Joy to you!
2007-11-13 16:54:33 · answer #2 · answered by frillyfroofroo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh, does he always get face cream for himself?
Normally a guy that is cheating won't be talking to his wife about the lady. I think you may be a bit insecure. Like some posters stated, have more confidence!
I would be suspicious if he goes for 4 hour long face cream runs and then not telling you anything about it afterwards.
2007-11-13 18:40:14 · answer #3 · answered by Vicente 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What?!?! Sorry, but that made me laugh out loud! He buys Clinique face cream for himself?!? HAHAHA
Anyway....he's a jerk. Tell him the hot Clinique lady probably thinks he's gay for buying MAKEUP and she's not interested in a loser like him. If they exchanged numbers.....well, then he's a loser and a cheater, and you're better off without him.
2007-11-13 16:25:21 · answer #4 · answered by Jacqueline D 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell him unless he wants to be eating his clinique face cream (which is kinda gay by the way) ..and picking up his teeth off the floor, to shut the f up.
2007-11-13 16:48:07 · answer #5 · answered by Leigh08 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't do jealous. My husband tries and i think its hilarious my comeback for the whole situation would have been yeah go ahead and get her number so i won't have to make you dinner...My husband thinks its funny that i don't get jealous but its what kind of relationship you have, we were best friends and we ended up together. Communicate more and keep your man satisfied.
2007-11-13 16:24:55 · answer #6 · answered by SiCnGaged 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Please do not leave or make problem in your marriage because of one comment or 2. look at the pros and cons in your marriage and take a deep breath and talk to him...tell him how much it hurts you...I think he knows it bothers you and he is taking adventge of it....go to the mall seek her out and get the best makeover from her come home and tell your husband that girl made look beautifull just for you do not let your inscurity get in the way.
2007-11-13 16:28:35 · answer #7 · answered by evoncat01 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
oh hell no.. see this kindof **** makes my man look like a dream.
advice: ask him, if he says he didn't exchange then say okay. then tell him you really don't appreciate him commenting on how attractive some other woman was. No need to get all upset THIS time. THEN (this is key) play his game, next time you come back from, well... anywhere really.. lie and tell him how hot the guy at _______ was. Give him a taste of his own medicine. Bet he will stop.
2007-11-13 16:24:16 · answer #8 · answered by Blond&Tall 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Unless your husband is a total idiot I doubt he'd go around telling you about how hot the girl was if he was planning to exchange numbers with her.
You know what? I bet that the girl was flirty with him or payed him a compliment. Us women don't do that to guys very often and it is a HUUUUUUUGE ego boost for them. She probably sent him to cloud 9 by doing it and he is reverberating from it.
I doubt it has anything to do with a desire to leave you and mess around with her. How about you tell him that "she's out of luck - you're all mine stud!" and make him feel like a studly dude.
You'll get some nice benefits from it, likely.
2007-11-13 16:23:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
Give him a taste of his own medicine. Find some handsome hunk somewhere, where he will be able to see them and you start talking about how hot this hunk is. See how he takes that.
2007-11-13 17:03:46 · answer #10 · answered by Alwyn C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋