I am really caught in between and I know that every person is different but I want to hear your genuine opinons should I find out during my 20 week ultrasound if we are to expect a boy or a girl?
Thanks for your opinons!!!!
2007-11-13 07:52:24 · 59 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Okay, here it is. It's not "ruining the surprise." The sex of your baby is going to be a surprise whether you find out at 20 weeks or at the delivery. The people who are saying not to ruin the surprise are misguided. My wife and I made an event out of finding out the sex, and then shared it with all of our friends and family. It was a great surprise and then afterwards, we could make our plans, have our baby showers, and decorate the nursery to the exact sex of our baby!
Don't listen to anyone else but what's in your own heart. If you want to know now, make an event out of it and enjoy the surprise now. If you want to wait for the delivery, enjoy the surprise then.
2007-11-13 07:59:30 · answer #1 · answered by Neerdowellian 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
With my first two pregnancies I never wanted to know and I so truly enjoyed that moment when they said "Congratulations it's a ?" (I had a boy first and a girl second). My third pregnancy had many complications and I had to go for stress tests and ultrasounds every 3 days - on my chart they had clearly marked "MOTHER DOES NOT WANT TO KNOW SEX" and they never once slipped. About 1 1/2 weeks before my scheduled cesarean during one of the ultrasounds I told the technician I had changed my mind and I now wanted to know. My midwife was with me, a maternity room nurse, the ultrasound technician and another technician. They were all excited and soon everyone was looking at the screen and talking excitedly. Two decided it was a boy and Two decided it was a girl and they were all arguing and pointing to the definite reasons why they decided which sex they were choosing. I started to laugh and said "That's okay guys, I think this is God's way of letting me know I should still wait - what were the chances of a 2 way tie and nobody willing to give in?" I had my daughter 3 days later!
Good luck and God Bless.
2007-11-13 07:59:08 · answer #2 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hiya, I have three children and one on the way, I am 12 weeks! With my first baby I didnt find out, I wasnt even tempted although we had problems thinking of a boys name, we racked are brains but it was for nothing because she was a girl and we named her Eleanor, shes 9 now! This is one good thing as you can just concentrate on either boys or girls names. My second and third pregnancies I just had to know, they were both boys Daniel and James, Dan is 4 and James is 2 now, atleast we had a name for our bumps!!lol! With this baby we hope to find out too! My brothers wife is due on Thursday and they never found out and its been driving me mad and they also said they wished they had found out now!! Some people like the surprise but I dont!! Good luck and I am sure what ever decision you make it will be the right one! x
2007-11-13 08:06:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would to better prepare for the baby. You don't want to have a baby shower and people give you girl clothes and then you have a boy. And you dont want to go out and by all types of clothes for both sexes. And you don't want to decorate for a boy and have a girl. It would be a waste. I havent had a baby but I just think it would be a lot easier if you knew the sex. But then again the doctor could be wrong, I was suppose to be a boy and I turned out to be a girl.
2007-11-13 07:58:27 · answer #4 · answered by Yuzuki 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can handle the waiting then the surprise would be great. I however am completely impatient and cannot wait until I go into labor to know the gender of our baby. We'll be finding out next Tuesday(hopefully). It's all about your personal opinion. Are there reasons you need to know now? Or can you wait? Do you WANT to wait? We're wanting to find out so the family knows what to buy for Christmas. Also we want to paint the nursery and I've read that if you're wanting to do that you need to start plenty ahead of time so the fumes are gone by the time the baby comes.
2007-11-13 07:57:25 · answer #5 · answered by N and A's Momma 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I found out with both of my children. I didnt want to know for the 2nd one, but the woman doing the ultrasound told me before she even asked if i wanted to know ;-(. It can be good to know as far as preparing, but I cant imagine how anything can beat the surprise and emotions upon hearing "its a boy" or "its a girl!" i just think it would be way more fun to be surprised, plus birth anouncements would be better too since no one would know what you are having and theyd be waiting to find out as well. anyway good luck and hope you make the right desicion!
2007-11-13 07:58:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of people want the surprise, but I think why not know. But don't go telling anyone unless the techs are absolutely positive, as my sister was told "we think it is a boy" and turned out to be a girl. Luckily she didn't tell anyone. But if they are sure then you can have the name and buy all the cute gender specific clothing, and decorate the room accordingly. Good luck.
2007-11-13 07:57:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at ur navel is it in or out?
In sign of a girl
out sign of a boy
Really some popl acn tell it this way. Depends on ur income of what to find out if u having a girl or boy. I'd find out for sure thru the ultrasound. that way u don't waste money.
2007-11-13 07:56:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's so up to you and no one else. I'm seven months pregnant and I'm really glad that I found out the sex of my baby because it made preparing so much easier. I don't like the green/yellow things made for neutral sex and I dont' think I can handle shopping sprees when my baby girl is born. I think knowing the sex of my baby also has helped me bond with her and feel more connected to the idea of her... however that again is totally up to you. Some people like being suprised... I guess I like being prepared :) Congrats on the baby!
2007-11-13 07:57:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I chose not too on the first. The surprise is a lot of fun the first time around. It makes it really fun in the hospital to try to sneak that first peak to see what it is. My other two I found out so it was easier to plan the logistics, but it helped to wait on the first to make it even more memorable.
2007-11-13 07:56:40 · answer #10 · answered by shadow763 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋