Pretty sure I'm not gay, but I look at girls' bodies?

Question

I'm a girl, quite sure I'm not a lesbian, but I look at girls' bodies...? Is this normal? I really would like to know if any other girls find themselves doing this....please, only sincere answers, no ridicule...please!

Answer 1

To look is one thing but when you start having fantasies about doing the deed with a female then I'd be questioning your sexuality. Personally I think women are more attractive to look at then males, we're sexually beings and looking at other females is perfectly normal.

Answer 2

Frankly, no one can answer that question but yourself. Sexuality is a very complicated thing. One way of describing it is "not so much a checkbox, more of a sliding scale" It's possible you could fall somewhere between being partly bi, partly gay, partly straight, whatever. 10% gay, 20% straight, whatever, what matters in the end is you. It is your life and your body, don't feel like you have to do anything you don't want to. Maybe when it comes to guys you'll never go beyond looking, or fantasizing. That's just fine. I know a person who identifies as gay, sleeps with men only... yet is currently living with and sleeping with a woman. It doesn't matter. So he's 99% gay and 1% straight, or whatever he considers himself. In the end, it up to you what you call yourself. Whatever label or title (if any) you decide on, what you do with your body is up to you, don't let tell you that you have to go "all gay" or "all straight" or "pick a side". All you should do is be safe and to be honest. If you get into a relationship, be open about these things, it will avoid awkward explanations or embarrassing discoveries later. I hope this helps, even if only a little.

Answer 3

I'm not a girl but even boys do that, of course we don't really tell each other, with the exception of our very close friends but I think it's just to compare yourself more than anything else. Just like you'd look at someone's cloths and think 'Ooooh that's nice' or 'What the bloody hell are you wearing???'

Answer 4

Hey I'm not gay but I look at girls' bodies LOL!

Seriously though, it is possible to admire the physical body aesthetically as an artist would without necessarily having sexual thoughts or feelings. It depends on what you feel about what you are looking at!

Nope - I'm definitely not gay!

Answer 5

I'm going to warn you.You're going to get a bunch of guys telling you that all women are gay/bi. I partly agree, something always in the back of girls' heads thinkin that. But it's not that simple. If you are simply noticing that the woman has a nice body, maybe one you'd want yourself then no you're not but if you're realizing an attraction then you're probably gay/bi.

Answer 6

Pretty Girl Bodies

Answer 7

The important question would be what you think about when looking at their bodies. Everybody looks at women's bodies..

The same applies to men, but they are waaay more discreet even if there's nothing wrong with it, they'll think everyone else will say they're gay if they say anything.

Answer 8

Okay...well I think it's normal for a woman to look at other women. Depending on what you're thinking. You might think their outfit looks nice, be envious of their figure, be destesting of their figure...which are all not lesbian attitudes. But if you find yourself attracted to the shapes of a woman's body, then you might be.

I'm bisexual (I say that, but I'm never sure whether I'm really interested in boys...), and I've looked at girls - not lustfully as girls don't tend to be like that, but I look at them to see if they're friendly, and like with everyone else I take 8 seconds to work out if they're a nice person, and seeing myself with the possibilty of ending up with a girl, in that 8 seconds I scan to see if they would suit me as a life partner.

A lot of straight girls get attracted by other woman when growing up, it's not lesbian it is idolity. You look at other woman to see what you like about them, and you try to be like them to attact someone who might love you. I don't think you sound very lesbian, but there's always the possibility. And it's fine if you're gay, and you have to accept that - if you realise you are gay that it is okay.

But I reckon if you were gay you'd've known for a bit longer than just doubting your sexuality now. Loads of people doubt their sexuality at some point (even those of us who are bi! I sometimes doubt there is an ounce of heterosexuality in me). :) so it's fine to doubt.

Answer 9

Of course it doesn't mean your gay - you're just subconsciously comparing yourself with the other girls! There is an old saying, "Women dress for other women, not for the men." This means that we really like to show off for the other women, because we know that they are the ones who are really judging us and comparing us to each other. We all like to know where we stand in the pack, don't we? You can look all you like, curiosity is a totally normal behavior, and certainly has no bearing on your own sexuality or sexual preference!

Answer 10

We Women can be very self conscious in a competitive sort of way. We check each out to see hair styles, outfits, make-up, shooooes and of course looks. Then we may start making adjustments if we can. We own the retailers!!
I'm pretty sure GUYS do the same thing, but probably for different reasons, if you know what I mean!
How do you know your not?

Answer 11

Thats fine, I'm gay but i occasionally look at guys, doesn't mean i want to sleep with them or have an emotional attachment. It just means i think some guys look pretty/handsome.