We have 2 daughters and a son on the way. He seems very distant and more into his video games than being with, around, or spending any sort of time with his family. Does anyone else have problems like this? I love him he's a great man but we have a family and we need to be just that he seems to only be interested in making sure that he has all the happiness and who cares if anyone else is enjoying life!
2007-11-13 06:47:11 · 12 answers · asked by teal_eyed_girl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband is a workaholic (in a good way) and he had trouble making family time as well. I finally had to tell him that Sunday's were family days, no exceptions. Then when our 3rd was born, I asked that he be home for bath and bed time. Eventually, he realized that watching his children grow was most important to him.
2007-11-13 06:52:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's addicted to games. I know someone like that. He's been playing since 3 years old, so how can he stop now. This guy is so addicted that he even stopped providing for his family. If your husband is still the provider then that shows he still wants his family. In a book I'm reading it tells a wife how she must accept her husband as is and not try to change him. Many, Many times when a wife tries to change her husband it doesn't work and he gets upset. How can you accept someone who is addicted? with patience you can. let him know you accept him for who he is, and you will not try to change him. but you have to mean it. Then start appreciating everything he does for you making the living #1 thing a wife should appreciate, and even small things like taking out the trash, or even for a min. when he kisses or plays with his children. This also can encourage him. You can also encourage him by saying that you didn't expect this from a man such as himself. And then you can go on into telling him what kind of man you believe he really is. He might just need someone to show him they believe in his bigger and better side. Can't change the world unless you start with yourself. This might seem unrealistic, but you won't know unless you try. Try for a week and see if there's just a little improvement. You might need a month to see major improvement. Be the best you can be. Have the house organized and food on time. Make him feel wanted and needed. Don't always put the children first. Men have different needs than women, and us women think we understand them, but do we really? Well, we can always learn. Hope this helps.
2007-11-13 15:19:41 · answer #2 · answered by hope 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any man who puts his own happiness above the happiness of his wife and his family needs a check up from the neck up. You say you love him and that he's a great man, yet what kind of man prefers video games over playing with his kids and spending time with his wife?
2007-11-13 14:50:28 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
His body seems to have matured faster than his mind. He sounds like he is a man on the outside but a boy on the inside. Just because you ejaculate does not mean you can/ should have children. Just because you get erections doesn’t mean you should get married. Anyone can do those things but need to want them in order to care for them. Is not that he doesn’t love you or your children. But he might be overwhelmed to find himself trapped in a life he wasn’t ready to accept. Be glad he is playing videogames. He could be a real bad immature man taking out his frustrations in life hooking up with other women. At least this way he is still in your house
2007-11-13 14:54:24 · answer #4 · answered by ~Becks~ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He may be selfish but it doesn't mean that he doesn't love his family. Play video games with him. Insist on having family day where he has to leave video games alone. Video games are his hobby and I understand. My husband use to get mad at me for playing, but it helped me relax, didn't mean that I didn't love him. You said he is a great man. Be a little more understanding.
2007-11-13 15:18:34 · answer #5 · answered by moonchild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you and him need to sit down and talk, why ,because you are seeing it and he haven't notice it. A marriage is a bond so if you don't communicate the bond will break and so will the marriage.So I can see work time,relax time,family time, etc but you and him has to work this out together..
2007-11-13 14:59:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably just bored to death.... sounds like he dosen't even go out anymore.... be happy he is in the house and not out with some ho.
try to get a baby sitter at lest once a month.. you towo go out to dinner and a nice movie..... keep doing that, even try a double date with another married couple... it's lots of fun..
2007-11-13 14:52:46 · answer #7 · answered by Latin G 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hes addicted. You need to limit his time on gaming to when the kids are asleep. He has to be a present parent the rest of the time.
2007-11-13 14:52:49 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stinkin' video games do it every time. Buy him The Simpson's game, that way he has a virtual family!!
2007-11-13 14:59:41 · answer #9 · answered by david 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit him down and set him straight. We all need a break now and then, but he made the decision to have a family, and he needs to stick by them.
2007-11-13 14:54:30 · answer #10 · answered by C>/ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋