I've heard of some couples in which one partner sometimes expects the other person to make an unnecessary sacrifice in order to "prove" his/her love. Am I the only one who thinks this is wrong? Some may disagree with me, but I think that sacrifices should only be made in life only as a last resort.
2007-11-13 06:36:03 · 23 answers · asked by tangerine 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Maybe sacrifice is not the correct word... and proving is not the correct focus either...
I would say that marriage consists of giving and sharing. There is no need to prove love - it sounds so childish... The focus is stiking together and improving love, dignity, loyalty, respect, friendship and care among other feelings!
Giving love is not wrong, never. Giving is better than receiving, in all senses. And considering that we get more than we give, by giving love we will always receive a lot more than that!
2007-11-13 06:47:04 · answer #1 · answered by Desir D 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your right. I'm sorry but when someone says you have to prove your love by asking you to make a sacrifice, that is manipulation, and they are the one that doesn't love, but wants to control. Sacrifices can be a lot of different things, as little as not watching your favorite show on tv when you know a special is on that the other wants to watch. Not a big deal, but still a sacrifice.
2007-11-13 06:43:08 · answer #2 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a very important question when it comes to relationships. Yes it is sometimes necessary to sacrifice things for the sake of the respect and preservation of relationships but you should also be receiving the same from your partner. A person should not have to prove alot when with somebody. Two people are together when they both want to be together not when only one person is working at it. Remember, nobodyis forcing nobody to be in a relationship.
2007-11-13 06:40:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Good grief, Tangerine...I do hope this is not your own situation...
Love by arbitration...love of demonstration...? daaaaaa..... that is not love...that is a severe case of insecurity and lack of trust...
A relationship of any kind is built on trust, Tangerine, and one is not to "test" the other's trust thru playing games or making demands...
Even if you were a heavy smoker or doing drugs, you should not be asked to prove yourself to another by kicking the habit... Both face these challenges "together"...
The relationship depends on a certain amount of sacrifice and compromise, yes, but these are the "challenges" couples must face "together" as their lives grow onward and sacrifices are structured to work best for both parties, not just one...
Real love proves itself daily, Tangerine, all those little things together making big things, making life worthwhile...making love possible... BUT...when one challenges the other to prove love, the love is lost as is the trust...
2007-11-13 06:58:24 · answer #4 · answered by farplaces 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, both people have to make sacrifices to make a relationship work. I am not sure what you mean by "unnecessary sacrifices", you shouldn't use it to manipulate the other person but it is really objective as to what is necessary and what is not. It may seem unnecessary to one person but crucial to the other.
2007-11-13 06:40:07 · answer #5 · answered by Deanrijo 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Anyone who makes another person jump through hoops to "prove" love is deeply emotionally immature. The person being required to jump should give serious thought to what the "prove your love" mentality bodes for the future of the relationship. What gives another person the right to act that way? Nothing. Emotionally mature people ready to give and take in a worthwhile relationship simply don't make those kind of demands.
2007-11-13 06:48:59 · answer #6 · answered by lighght30 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you are in a loving relationship with someone it is all about sacrifices! I just split w/my husband & we are trying so hard to make things work & we both have major sacrifices to give up but if you love eachother than it really shouldn't even be a ? but hey that's me there's probably a million ppl out there that are gonna throw a hundred different opinions at you!
2007-11-13 06:40:43 · answer #7 · answered by iilive4music 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
In relationships, you HAVE to sacrifice and compromise. That's part of loving someone... give and take. You must learn to put your lover's needs before your own sometimes, and that person should do the same for you.
2007-11-13 06:47:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Proving love isn't a unnessasy sacrifice for everyone. If it's done it should be done bc the person doing it wants to; not bc they were asked to.
2007-11-13 06:40:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Half the time they say stuff like that "its to prove our love". Well is he doing anything? This is what i did. We made deals. That way it was fair and it was out of respect for each other but dont ever just give sumthing up you want and he dont have to do nuthin. If you think he is trying to control you you just need to tell him striaght up no and if he dont like it what ever happens happens.Believe me you do not want to be with a control freak. They will put you down even emotionally just to make you obey him.
2007-11-13 07:11:14 · answer #10 · answered by Momma D 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋