If they are married and if he's willing to work at it, it's possible to fall back in love with someone...it just takes time and a lot of hard work and dedication, but it depends on how bad they want their marriage to work. I don't think the other guy should have gotten involved with a woman that is married anyway (if that's the case)... Just because one spouse says to the other spouse that they've falling out of love, that doesn't mean that the marriage is over...I heard TD Jakes say this on the Dr. Phil show after Dr. Phil asked how did him and his wife stay married for so long...and TD Jakes replied, "because we never fell out of love at the same time".... Now just think about that!!!
2007-11-13 07:07:28
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answered by unknown 4
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Whew... well, since he's been in Iraq I'm assuming you haven't seen each other in a long time. Distance in a marriage is difficult to begin with, but it wreaks havoc on marriages during wartime. If he said that he fell out of love while he was in Iraq, but then changed his mind when he realized he'd be coming home to no one, that tells me that there's a really good chance that he cheated and/or developed an emotional bond with another woman while over there. Marriage shouldn't be disposable, so I would at the very least test things out when he gets back. Give it a few months, and see what happens. Get settled into new routines and get to know each other again. Then decide if the relationship can be saved.
2007-11-13 06:10:54
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answered by ♛Qu€€n♛J€§§¡¢a♛™ 5
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I haven't read any of the other answers, but here's my input.
If her husband is always trying purposely to hurt her (and he admits it?!) he is not a good husband. On the other hand, it's not a good idea for her to leave her husband specifially for someone else. If she's having a tough time she is likely very emotional and may not be thinking things through rationally. And what if this new relationship doesn't work out?
My ex husband divorced me for a 21-year-old cashier at a neighborhood store that he was "madly in love with" and had been messing around with for months. Less than year later she left him for some other chump and my ex is now as miserable a f*ck as ever.
Nice guys/gals don't mess around with other peoples' spouses. It doesn' mater how "amazing" he is to her.
2007-11-13 07:06:18
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answered by Anonymous
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Well if that is the case and she does not love her husband now then she should leave him and go with the other man on the other hand do her kids like this new guy or do they like ther father. Or are they young and do not even now what is going on. Another thing this does not even sound like a man he is palying games and he is losing that person because and that is not good. But if you do not want to stay with him and you have a better life with someone else then leave why are you suffering. We are not in this world tos suffer we are here to love and be happy so be happy.
2007-11-13 07:01:13
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answered by Lost 4
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I say she should get out of this relationship before the law gets involved. If he's done these things to her before, then why is she putting herself through it over and over again? That is, unless she thrives on it or has nothing better to do with her life. Seriously, she needs to get out. I just don't understand why she is letting him treat her that way?!!! If I were in her situation, I would have been gone a LOOOOOOOOOOOOOONG time ago! And to have children involved only makes things more complicated. Because they have no concept of adult situations, and it's not a stable or healthy environment for them to grow up in.
2007-11-13 07:04:52
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answered by Cherise M 2
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Some times when these boys that have been serving in Iraq come home they feel a little distant from loved ones.... Because of the separation....The women in there lives some times feel as though they have been abandoned.... There is a program that the armed services have for reuniting family's...Before your Friend decided to jump in to the sack with a new guy.... She should have looked at a few things first....And maybe should have talked to him a little more....
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answered by julianne 3
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Well, if he's ALWAYS done this type of stuff to her then why did she married him in the first place? If she accepted him for who he was before is gtoo late to try and change him now. Either learn to accept him or leave. If a relationship is bad from the beginning then marriage is only going to make it worse.
2007-11-13 06:08:28
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answered by Anonymous
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Why would any man 'just try to hurt' his wife? For whatever reason, why?
What, to get even? To show who's boss? Just for fun? Anyone who intentionally tries to hurt their partner doesn't actually love them and is not worth wasting time on, no matter how desperate the other person is. That's not a conducive environment to trust, sharing, closeness, in other words, a good marriage.
For my wife, I love her more today than I did yesterday, but not as much as I will tomorrow.
2007-11-13 06:16:23
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answered by Marc X 6
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What is the point of staying with a man that plays head games. There are some things you don't say unless you mean and are willing to follow through.
2007-11-13 06:24:59
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answered by Kat G 6
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what is happening in the relationship for him to want to hurt her like that. I think some more communication needs to be done between the two of you before you just leave. if no one wants to work at saving a marriage, then by all means call her a day.
2007-11-13 06:08:18
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answered by louie 6
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