2007-11-13 05:36:04 · 23 answers · asked by doinitright6 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, she will wander around until she matures....
2007-11-13 05:39:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
A lot of people on here who are telling you that age is just a number are wrong, and probably not married, nor have the life experience to tell you. What really matters is the maturity level of each of you. She is only 20, and although there are some mature 20 year olds, she still has some living to do. I wouldn't rush into marriage right away. I would be engaged for a few years (2-3), and really let her live her life, and figure out who she is, and what she wants to do with her life, such as career. This is also assuming that you have already started your carreer, and are working on the future for yourseIf as well as to benefit the two of you as well. You both take the time to find yourselves first, and truly be happy with who each of you are individually, and together, then your relationship will last. Marriage is hard work, and there are a lot of people out there that say that it isn't, but they are just kidding themselves. The only true happy relationship, is one that communicates with each other consistantly, and lets each other be themselves and appreciates that, and what each other brings. Children also bring other aspects into your relationship, which are good and bad, but don't forget that you need to make sure that your relationship is strong and healthy, before bringing kids into this world. If you do decide to have children, I would emphasis that you both make time for your relationship, and go out on a date at least every month or so.
There are no guarantees in life, but if you both work at your relationship, you can make it. A happy life is hard work, but worth every moment. Good luck!
2007-11-13 06:16:43 · answer #2 · answered by Monica C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can never tell if any relationship will last or not. Whether you are 11 years older than she is doesn't mean anything.
What you need to take into consideration is can you both compromise. Love is a series of compromises and you do it willingly not grudgingly.
Age is a number and if she is mature and ready to get married, loves you and wants to be with only you, then I would say all right, but first seek out a marriage counselor. They can give you an idea of some of the compromises you will have to face.
Learn as much as you can about the trials of marriage. A good marriage doesn't just happen, you have to work long and hard at it, but it is worth it.
Good luck! :-)
2007-11-13 05:47:29 · answer #3 · answered by Catie I 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No way dude! And I know the appeal that men have with younger women (in your case, a girl) , but she hasn't had time to mature. She's going to have to go through some phases, and guys her own age will appeal to her at some time. I would suggest you wait at least until she's 25. That way you'll see if she matures and handles her business and grow. If you truly love her and not just trying to possess her, then what's the hurry. It would be best if you take this time to encourage her to finish her education, if not college then some type of accreditation course like nursing or something. You don't want to be just raising a kid, you'll need a wife that can contribute to a household. If you make these types of suggestions to her, and she hits the ground running to accomplish something instead of thinking that you'd take care of her, then you know she's a keeper. But, if she doesn't and she thought that you were just a ticket to ride, be very careful because her alternative is to get pregnant so she'll have an excuse not to do anything.
2007-11-17 05:38:52 · answer #4 · answered by dtown 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you asking us, it's up to how commited YOU two are. If your willing to stay with eachother 'for better or worse' than yes.
But, look at how many stupid people come on here and talk about leaving their spouse when things get hard or 'worse.' If your not mature enough to support eachother throughout those 'worse' times which will come, than your not mature enough to get married.
Ugh, I hate hearing all the people who Commit to stay married for their whole lives and give it up because things get hard when in reality, if they can't make that relationship work, and leave to find another one that will, when the new one runs into problems they'll just run again. People need to learn to work things out.
If you can do this, then get married! If not, why make a promise your not strong enough to keep.
2007-11-13 05:59:09 · answer #5 · answered by nic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age isn't the deciding factor in a marriage. If it were, everyone could marry someone in the 'right' age bracket and this category would be called simply 'Marriage'.
But, if you are having doubts, you should probably put any marriage plans on hold until you are sure.
Good Luck
2007-11-13 05:43:41 · answer #6 · answered by Tauri Athena 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do ages somehow matter in this equation? Does getting married at a particular age somehow guarantee "till death do us part?" If you are in love with each other (and at these ages I think you should know) than it will last. If either of you aren't, no it won't.
Good luck and God Bless.
2007-11-13 05:43:39 · answer #7 · answered by tersey562 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Age has nothing to do with it. It is all in maturity, willingness and honesty. There is 11 years between my husband and me- we got married when I was 19 and he was 30 and we're still together.
2007-11-13 05:41:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
age doesnt determine how long you will stay together, its how mature you are, many people get married with ages farrr more distant then you two. you just have to make sure shes the one for you or a divorce is waiting for you down the future road
2007-11-13 05:40:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, older men likes to control younger women and she is going to feel like a child. i've been with an older man 17 yrs
older than me, i'm 31. we both live different stages of life and
i wanted a family and he didn't.
2007-11-13 05:59:13 · answer #10 · answered by rodriguez m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, answer me, Magic 8 Ball.
There is no one that could answer that question for you. It would depend on the substance of your relationship. If there is something to fall back on once the sex dies down, and you genuinely enjoy each other's company, then sure, you have an excellent change of making it to your golden years with each other.
2007-11-13 05:41:36 · answer #11 · answered by porcelina_68 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋