I'm 18, I just came out to my family like a week ago, but now I can't figure out coming out to my close friends, classmates, and other relatives, and people around me.
2007-11-13 05:30:56 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Yes My family's very supportive, they told me that, they have just been waiting for me to say it, because they sensed it already.
2007-11-13 05:40:33 · update #1
If you picked good close friends, they'll be supportive when you come out to them. If they aren't, who needs them? I don't see any real reason to come out to classmates, as I don't see that it's any of their business. When you go to college you can be completely 'out' but I don't think you need to tell everyone at school. If you have the support of your family and close friends, you're very lucky and who cares what anyone else thinks?!
2007-11-13 05:35:52 · answer #1 · answered by Savannah 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless I miss my guess, you think this is normal, and want it to be treated as such.
I can't imagine how you would plan a "coming out" party without validating the belief that it isn't normal. By doing that, you make it the defining point of your existence, at least in their eyes. Even the ones that probably know and don't care have to ask themselves "Does this mean more than I thought?"
Just be you. If you're invited to something where you can bring a date, then do it. Some of your friends might not already know, and say something, and you just say "Hey, I thought you knew. Is it a big deal?"
If you're not ready to do that, then maybe you need to think about whether or not YOU think it is normal, and if you don't, you are certainly not ready for the drama of a planning "outing."
Look, I remember when one of my roommates came out to me, years and years ago. It was really hard on him, and he couldn't find the right words. I tried to be polite and let him talk, but eventually I had to put him out of his misery by telling him that I had known before I moved into the apartment.
You really need to stop assuming that everyone cares. Most really don't, one way or the other, and your friends just want you to be happy, whatever that requires.
2007-11-13 13:56:40 · answer #2 · answered by open4one 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's the rush? Do it at your own pace. Like your family, most of your close friends probably already know.
What's probably holding you back is fear of rejection. Try telling one or two very close friends who you *know* are cool with people being gay. Once you have their support it will get easier.
2007-11-13 15:10:35 · answer #3 · answered by thatgaybloke 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no rush. Those who love you and are your good friends will understand and will continue to love you regardless. Don't worry about coming out to the rest of the world. It'll just evolve naturally.
2007-11-13 13:36:20 · answer #4 · answered by tacka.... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, are your family ok with it?
If so, don't feel you have to rush out and tell everyone right away. At least you'll have their emotional support. Take your time and when you feel ready, then do it.
2007-11-13 13:33:52 · answer #5 · answered by Tantu 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not that I'm gay, but I would say take it easy.
Why do you have to "come out" to anyone unless you consider them a potential partner?
Let them figure it out for themselves.
2007-11-13 15:34:47 · answer #6 · answered by pstottmfc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't do it until you're in a stable relationship and happy. But of course, you don't NEED to do it, so don't feel you have to.
Plus, real friends will be supportive and you will be fine ;)
Good luck :¬)
2007-11-13 13:53:22 · answer #7 · answered by Simon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think you need to make an "announcment" so to speak. i think your close friends probably know or suspect. just be yourself. don't try and hide who you are, but on the same token it isn't something you need to announce either. other relatives will probably hear from your family anyhow...
2007-11-13 13:34:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Now that your living your life in the open as you really are, enjoy it for all it's consequences and rewards. Robert
2007-11-13 15:49:32 · answer #9 · answered by Robert O 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you need to tell anyone? if you feel the burning need to tell, just come out with it, like your parents they most likely already know
2007-11-13 13:42:09 · answer #10 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋