Is it wrong to tell your family you don't want them in the delivery room. I just want it to be me and my husband is that soo wrong? I mean I want them to be there and I want them to come in after the birth but not during.
2007-11-13 05:20:58 · 16 answers · asked by poptart_babe06 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
No, its your private event! My family understands that and so does my husbands so I am lucky not to have prying family wanting to come take a look! They are more than welcome to come see him after, but during, hell no! Just me and my hubby!
2007-11-13 05:25:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Only have who you want in the delivery room! If they insist, then have each family member show their privacy to you and your husband- they'll get the picture! Everyone's so pushy with wanting to see the baby first and what not. Just make everyone respect your privacy and wait. This is a special moment for you and your hubby. Spend a few minutes alone with your new baby. Trust me, you'll be glad Aunt Gladys and Uncle Murphy aren't checkin' out your cupcake from the most extreme angles! It ain't pretty. Talk about hard to concentrate!!!
2007-11-13 13:29:12 · answer #2 · answered by Daya81 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is a thing wrong with that. I had preeclampsia with baby #1. My blood pressure was through the roof. I was only 18 and was too scared to tell everyone to get out. Finally when it got really high the nurse came in and asked everyone to leave the room and asked me who I wanted back in. I said my 2 sisters and my husband only. That was 12 1/2 years ago, my step-mom is still pissed and I still don't care.
2007-11-13 13:42:05 · answer #3 · answered by wait and see 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's your choice. I'm going to tell my mother I don't want her in the delivery room. She has been so supportive and has made more appointments than my husband was able to so I'm going to exclude her from the birth and delivery so my husband will feel apart of the entire process.
2007-11-13 13:29:49 · answer #4 · answered by nicki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! But you need to make it very clear to them months in advance and keep emphasizing it up until that time!! My little sister didn't bother telling my mother her feelings and while in the hospital during labor, she finally told my mom, and my mom thought it was only the labor hormones talking so did not respect her wishes!! For our families, I just kept saying how I only wanted my husband present, and how I couldn't wait forjust the TWO of US to bring Our baby into this world, just the way it was ONLY the two of us that conceived her!! And if nothing is getting to the family that you want this to be a private moment, then make sure to tell your nurse/ doctor that you don't want any family present either only during labor (so maybe they are allowed in to visit just prior) or no one at all until everything is finished and you and baby are settling! Good Luck!!
2007-11-13 13:34:07 · answer #5 · answered by Sunshine Swirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not wrong. Tell them you want them there but not in the delivery room if they can please wait in the waiting room. Your not comfy with them, when you deliver and you want this time for you and your husband, nothing wrong with that. Congrats and good luck!
Or tell them the hospital doesn't permit anymore people just your husband.
2007-11-13 13:28:16 · answer #6 · answered by ladybug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. It's all about your comfort at that time and if you do not feel comfortable with having them in the room, then tell them that. Tell them they are more than welcomed to come along and sit in the waiting room and your husband will come get them as soon as they can come in. They're your family, they will understand.
2007-11-13 13:26:06 · answer #7 · answered by N and A's Momma 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's all up to you who you want in your delivery room, don't feel pressured to let anyone you don't want in there and if they let themselves in have your doctor or a nurse kick them out, they can make all kinds of excuses for you so it won't be your fault but just be honest and tell them you don't want anyone in there.
2007-11-13 13:27:56 · answer #8 · answered by Your Mom Says Hi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think so. I dont want my family in there looking at my parts while im having the baby. Im just going to have my husband in there. They can come in after im covered and cleaned...lol
2007-11-13 13:26:37 · answer #9 · answered by MM 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree. I had to to have that discussion with my first birth. I wanted a private experience. Now I want my mother and she said no.
2007-11-13 13:34:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋