i need help right know please someone?

Question

for the last 12 years i have bought my husband guns for christmas well today he came in and told me that were he put the guns to hide them and that they where not there he told me someone stole them well sense the where in my name (im the one that actually purchased them ) i called the police to report them stolen not evena half an hour later the cop calls me and asked for me and my husband to come over to the police station he wanted too ask us some questions we get over there and he takes my hussband to a different room and then the come out and my husband tells me that him and my cousin tookthem and sold them i need advice on how to handle this we have been together for 13 years know and married for 12 we have raised 3 adopted kids and have 2 children of our own to still raise and yes i bought them for him but he sold them without telling me and then lied to me and made me file a false police report. what should i do. ADVICE PLEASE

Answer 1

I think you should do nothing. Given what was stated, the police clearly see that it was your husband's fault that the false report was filed, so if they prosecute anyone, it will be him. I recommend you have a discussion with the policeman in charge of your case, the one who took the report from you. Ask him if he's going to prosecute your husband. If he says yes, go along with it and cooperate with the police fully, because the punishment will do your husband good. If he says no, ask him if he will please explain clearly to your husband the seriousness of what he did wrong. That way, either way, your husband learns a very strong lesson about the importance of honesty, all without you having to do very little more than you've already done.

Answer 2

When you went to the police (right thing to do, btw) it blew his cover. You didn't know it was a false report when you called, so you didn't file a false report. You filed a report that turned out to be false because you had been lied to. You were telling the truth (as you knew it), so I don't think the police report is going to be an issue. His lying, however, is. He might be in some trouble with the police, and I'm sure he's in trouble with you. I don't know how legal it is to sell firearms to just anybody, but I suspect there's more to it than just taking the $$$ and handing over a weapon.

Questions for him: why did he need the money so badly, and why didn't he discuss it with you?

And for this xmas.... give him a sweater.

Answer 3

Everyone has a hobbie. But the question is the gift you got him can be re sold for a profit. Like me, I do buy a lot of gifts for my wife. But the question is, the gift are all on display. Meaning I can see them 24/7 and it can be display for family and friends to see. This way, she won't resell anything.
You have 2 problem here. One is that he lie. Second is that he resold your gifts, this does hurt the heart. So my suggestion is that, since you still love him. Give him another chance and ask why he did this. An be sure to make it clear that you don't want his cousin in the house anymore. Because he might be the one with the connection to sell the guns. So since the cousin is the bad influnce, kick him out. And you should be find. Good luck.

Answer 4

Dont report the situation to the police because this will only cause more problems, but do find out what he did with the money. You have the right to know. Your husband disrespected you by lying and putting u at risk of going to jail. What if he didnt tell u and someone robed a store or even murded someone. If u cant talk to him seek counciling or pray about the situation.

Answer 5

I would say "show me the money"...if he sold them he needs to tell you why he sold them and where is the money that he made from selling them...I personally wouldn't want guns around in a house where children live....Your husband lied to you...and took you to the police department to help file a false report... ...and made you look like a fool.....and that is worst then selling the guns in my opinion..

Answer 6

I'm no expert, but I don't think this is about the guns, its about the fact that he lied to you!!! Not only did he lie, but he had you go to the freakin PD before the truth came out! I'm going through lying issues myself right now (not me, but dh), and I suggest, as we are doing, is finding a counselor quickly! Be up front with him about this and hopefully he will see some sort of light! Because if he's lied about this, what else has he lied about? He may say "nothing" (trust me!), but there's always something. Men are just different creatures than woman, and what we find as inconceivable, they find to be okay. Make HIM find a counselor (after all he's the one that has the issue right now) and both of you attend...do it for your marriage first, and the children second.

Answer 7

First of all you need to find out why he lied to you. I assume that if you have been married for 13 years, you know the man pretty well. So has he lied to you before? If he needed the money for something, it must have been something he didn't want you to know about. So he must still be keeping something from you. You need to get to the bottom of it. I don't mean screaming and yelling or anything like that. But the two of you definitely need to sit down and have a real serious talk. Good luck my dear.

Answer 8

He is definitely hiding something or he would have told you about the guns. You need to get to the bottom of why he did not confront you in the first place. There are many more issues here that need to be addressed, as to why he sold the guns in the first place.

Answer 9

If he's dis honest about this, then what else could he be dishonest about? Not to mention how ungrateful he is for selling the gifts. I wonder if he has been selling them right after you would give hime one? Or did he accumulate a bunch and then sell them? Another problem is that YOUR cousin was in on it with him, so now you have 2 immediate family members trying to get one over on you, and they did.
I say no more gifts of any type, and consider not only what type of marriage this is, but where is it going? Men suck.

Answer 10

oh my goodness...first you need to find out why he sold them, then you need to find out why he felt he needed to lie to you about it. you MUST be honest with the police. plain and simple. let them know that you were obeying the law by reporting the guns just in case something illegal were to happen if they were in the wrong hands. it's not a false report on your part. you really thought they were stolen. as far as your hubby goes, you two need to sit down(with another person there to mediate) and figure out why a felt he need to lie to you? was he worried about your reaction to him if he told you? why did he feel he needed to sell the guns in the first place? do not dwell on the trival things like" those were gifts from me" there are more important things at stake here. talk it out. there has been to much time between you invested relationship wise to go over board with accusations and anger. and from now on start buying him something different for christmas...like slippers.