Can someone make me smile?

Question

This day just keeps getting worse. Mom just called and said one of my good friends from high school passed and his funeral is tomorrow. I was not welcome at my reunion because of my "gayness" which is fine. I didn't leave anything behind when i left that small town, but I want to morn the loss of my friend. I will not show up at the funeral as this is not about me and i would not want to make anyone uncomfortable. I just want to smile through the tears. Someone please make me giggle. I know you can.

I am in no way ashamed of who I am, but I did grow up in one of those towns where you have a good chance of not making it out alive if you are black, mexican, asain (basically anything that is not white) and of course gay. Everyone knows and as soon as I walk in all heads would turn and the attention and whispers would be on me and not on the memory of my friend. This town has a population of 638 people and I have seen the things that happen. They have regular Klan rallies. It is safer for me. I promise.

Answer 1

my apologies about your friend.

funny story... went to the zoo a few years ago. all of the elephants in the last act started pooping all at the same time on the stage. they were trying to clean it up but they were pooping so fast that they just decided to put the shovels under their butts to catch it, and this short guy was holding the shovel over his head and he was pooped on.

i fell out of the bleachers i was laughing so hard... lol

Answer 2

Blaze, are you ashamed of who you are? Having read some of your previous posts I would surely not expect that you are.

However, to avoid you late friend's funeral because of what some others there might say or think is something that you probably should not do. So get dressed appropriately, go on down to that funeral, start speaking to those in attendance and I think you may be pleasantly surprised. But don't go there and clam up. Make it a point to initiate conversations with those you know, regardless of what has happened in the past.

Answer 3

Sorry about your friend honey. Loss always sucks no matter what the circumstances. I'm sending big e-hugs your way....

I went last night to buy some flavored massage oil. As I was waiting at the stop light to cross the highway, I noticed the signs across the road. The "adult store" is right next to a used car lot. The used car lot has a big sign that says 'Financing Available'. However.... this financing sign is painted on the side of the adult store building. And from where I was waiting, I couldn't really see the car lot. I was seriously wondering what the heck one could purchase from that adult store that needed financing. That must be some MAJOR battery-operated equipment.....

I sure hope somebody makes you laugh today babe.

Answer 4

I would spend the day remembering all the fun stuff you did and all the fun times you had together. I'm sure your friend wouldn't want you to spend your whole day feeling sad. Maybe you can try singing some of his favorite songs or some of yours in his remberance.

I'm not too funny, so I can't make you laugh, but I do send along my condolences and best wishes. I hope you feel better. I lend my heart out to you, and I give you my shoulder to lean and cry on. Keep your head up, always.

DB - Chicago, IL

(By the way, I mistakenly left a "TOY" soaking in my bathroom sink, because I was going to clean it. Unfortunately, I left it there and when my Mom came over, she used the washroom and saw my giant TOY soaking in the sink, right in front of her. She never said anything, but I felt like s**t afterwards.)

Answer 5

I respect your decision not to attend.

I was at the funeral of a friend's mother. After the services, I went to give him my condolences, but got really nervous and said "Muchos dias de estos", which tranlsates to "hope you have many days like today". I was mortified, but he just looked at me and started laughing. To this day, I try to avoid funerals if at all possible.

Answer 6

i had a date ( a rarity for me!) last thurs and got locked out my house, had to call a locksmith late at nite and pretty much empty my bank account to do it. lol was ummm not the kinda date a guy should have lol but makes a good story.


ummm lets see , other funny stories

ooo: me learning to drive
i paid for 30 lessons in advance
after 6 lessons, i was on hols for 2 weeks, n then my driving instructer was for 2 weeks.
so 2weeks after he had ment to come home i aint heard ought, so i rang the company (of whom he was in charge of)
"he died on holiday" :S
it took them 2 months to find another guy
he then quit wen i was on lesson 16
then for 2 months AGAIN i didnt hear a thing
untill i rang and finially got threw
"sorry the company has gone bankrupt"

lololol kinda funny in reflection


wen i was in yr 2 (6yrs old) i was dozy enough to go to school forgetting the fact i was still in my "grandad" tartan style slippers

wen i was 14 i forgot to wear underware on a PE day

in college at 17, i entered a poem for a poetry competion about food, under the discuse of "this is chocolate" but was actually a graphical discription of oral sex
I GOT 2ND PLACE
and the assiasant vice-princple read it out to the entire esemble of LAUGHING 17YR OLDS

Answer 7

Blaze,

Sorry to hear about the passing of your HS Friend and that you are 'Welcomed' at his funeral. I pass you my sympathy. I know the mentality of living in a small community and being gay.

Smile thou your heart is very heavy and remember the "GOOD TIMES"

Answer 8

In situation like this, just think that things happens for a reason, pray for your friend, do something that you guys did when he was still around, in memory of your friend. Just as long as your not stepping on nobody, your good to live. CHEER UP!

Answer 9

listen all i can do is make you smile but you know we as gays are always going to have to deal with people but you know somthing you live for you so go and make yourself happy you look very cute and you know your freind he/she is in a better place so dont be sad for him/her be glad alrighht well i hope what i said at least gave you a smile

love always sam

Answer 10

hmmm... im not that great at making ppl giggle but... *hugs you* i think its terrible that they couldnt put differences aside for a period of mourning. thats just wrong. but yea... if i could be with you now i would. so yea. im sorry bout ur friend.