do you consider cheating when your husband is thinking of a woman and you know about it?

Answer 1

no thats just stupid

Answer 2

You and your husband must agree on what your definitions of cheating are. You both need to set boundries. In some circles that is a yes, but then again how do you know what he is thinking unless he admits to it. Men will think of women and women will think of men. For me cheating is defined as abandoment of an agreement to love, honor and cherish one another. To put each first and formost at all times and to provide mutual security and companionship. To raise our children together as best we can. You guys need to come up with something because if you don't it will always be subject to ones interpretation. My bad example: When I was younger, and serving my country far away I had met someone and we became close. My opinion of love and commitment was not tied to a sexual act. I never thought of love in that way. My interpretation was that my wife loves me and I love her so nothing else matters. Should I engage in this relationship it wont change a thing as love is the only thing that matters. A warped sense of perspective there, but none the less it never dawned on me that what I was doing was wrong. It caused both of us great hurt that took many years to heal. Looking back if we had just be closer, talked more about what our expectations were and set some limitations it would not have happened. I can only say it was my fault, as it was wrong, she knew it. The problem was with me and a personality flaw within me.

Answer 3

This question is very vague.

1. What type of "thinking" are you talking about?

2. Do you read minds? How are you obtaining this information that he is "thinking" about another woman?

3. When and how often is he thinking about her?

What it boils down to, is that if he has a problem about continually thinking of another woman, what are YOU doing to help? Making it if it's cheating or not, is really not the issue.

The issue is: is there unmet needs in your spouse? Are you doing all you can to be his wife, and love him the way he needs to be loved?

You may find that coming up with solutions, rather than finding more problems will be more beneficial to you, your marriage, your relationship and life.

Make it work!

Answer 4

What?!? Give the guy a break! (Unless you're a gay male couple, then maybe I'd worry!)
You have no business getting at all upset about a thought! (Would you want him getting mad over what he thought YOU were thinking?) As long as he's in your bed what are you worried about?
Maybe there's a reason he's thinking of someone else so you might want to think about why or what you might be doing to make him do so! I'd leave you if I was him and saw you asked this question and I'm a woman! It's hardly even in most male's nature to stay with one woman, never mind think about only one woman, for life.
If it makes you feel better think about Brad Pitt or whoever when you think he's doing it, then you're even!

Answer 5

Let me go with my first instinct... yes ... I say this because it all starts in the mind and then travels to the heart and eventually comes out in the natural. It definitely should not be taken lightly. Is this a common practice or a periodic fantasy ? Whatever the case it needs to be addressed ... not with brashness but an approach of concern out of your love for him.

Answer 6

"Cheating" is when you don't play to the rules. Well **** you all, you who subscribe to these rules; I never agreed to them. How inauthentic can you be! Sort of: if he cheats, I'll cheat.Why don't you be honest and just do what you want to do? If your partner really loves you, s/he should still love you for being real. But most partners are just interested in their own emotional security. Perhaps yours too. How can you llive like this? Isn't it actually being very deceitful to yourself? Not very courageous is it? I know, I've been through it all, we're all in the same f*cking boat. Sorry, feeling a bit Irish tonight. (No offence to the Irish, god bless em).

Answer 7

I think you've convinced yourself that your husband is thinking of another woman (since you have no facts posted) because you want to cheat on your husband and telling yourself that he is thinking of another woman makes you feel better about it.

Answer 8

No; I think cheating can only be a physical act (physical includes exchanging emails or phone calls). I'll be honest; I don't always fantasize about my man when I'm involved in an intimate act. It would be cheating if I acted on it (although the possibility of Pierce Brosnan agreeing to make love to me is pretty much zero).

Answer 9

No, I really don't consider that to be cheating, had he been out with the woman then that would be cheating, don't call people out on things they haven't done...they will definately feel threatened by that! good luck!

Answer 10

No I would not. If I found him kissing another woman on the mouth, I would consider that cheating!!

Answer 11

No. If my partner was just thinking about it, then that falls under "you can look but you can't touch!" :) If my partner was actually physically or emotionally cheating, I wouldn't cheat in retaliation--I'd either confront them and try to work it out, or I'd just leave, because I know I'm worth more than that!