Well i just found out that i am pregnant, 5 weeks and 3 days. My fiance' left me last night. Not due to having a baby he was thrilled when i told him. But he says all i do is B*tch at him... but the things he does to me, like takes my car all day, then when i call him he says "it doesnt matter where im at" Thats my car! Just little things... but damn you dont have to leave me! Anyways i have 2 other children from a previous relationship, Social Services cant find their father so im doin this all on my own. I cant do it again!! What do you all think about abortion? I dont believe in it... but its whats best i think. Do you think he will ever return??? Or even call??
2007-11-13 03:08:35 · 21 answers · asked by ncbutterfly_20 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Abortion is something you have to decide for yourself. No one can make that decision for you, but you. Have you thought about putting the baby up for adoption? Consider that before you make a decision on abortion.
Good luck!!
2007-11-13 03:12:14 · answer #1 · answered by bobbysgirl_82 2 · 5⤊ 2⤋
Abortion should not be an option. You know who the father of this child is. Make him pay child support and receive whatever assistance you can. If you abort your child, you will later regret it. Whatever the circumstances, this child deserves to be loved. As for the father, he may or may not return, but you should not put up with his crap. He is just another kid for you to take care of. I know it's hard to hear, but usually people don't change. I'm not saying that it can't happen, but it usually doesn't. The child you are carrying and your other two children don't need to think that is what love is about. You need to hold yourself together for the sake of all your children.
2007-11-13 03:23:16 · answer #2 · answered by Christine M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry, but it sounds like he's up to something when he takes your car. I would give him the boot. About the abortion, that's up to you. I would not do it, because it's just a season you are going through, you can get through this. But you need to do what you feel is best to do. I have not been in that situation, so do what you think is best. I would definitely give the guy the boot though. Good luck to you and if you want to talk more you can email me.
2007-11-13 03:15:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
girl take a step back and clam down!!!! You have done it 2 times before you can do it again. you don't need a man to raise a child but the child does need a farther. sounds like you hormones are running crazy right now just take a breather for a few days and see how things go. then if he doesn't come back then you didn't need him to start with. I wish you the best of luck with everything but remember an abortion doesn't fix everything.
2007-11-13 03:15:04 · answer #4 · answered by dixiedarlin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I can see where killing the child you both made will make your life much easier. Certainly easier than giving it up for adoption and atleast giving it the choice of life.
God almighty, abortion makes me sick. Its wrong and you know it.
Honestly, things like this just dont up and happen, there are warning signs, such as him telling you all along that it doesnt matter where he's at and that you dont derserve to know. Why would you have stayed with someone like that, let alone made a baby with them? You made your choices, now act on them.
You need to realize that you are a very valuable person, your children are priceless, and this baby is perfect. Find someone who's going to treat you right, give the baby to someone who can raise it right, and do something productive with your life.
DOnt waste time with guys like this, have some self worth, and desire to provide better examples for your children.
Buck up, pull yourself up by your boot straps and do it. If you WANT to succeed you will, nothing can stop you from doing what you want. If you want life to be miserable and hard and full of what you cant have or do, it will be. And it will be just like that until you change it.
2007-11-13 03:14:02 · answer #5 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
you have done it on your own before, you can do it again. You fiance just left yesterday, give him some time to cool off. Maybe you two need to work on your relationship with counceling or something. Worrying about all the little things, seems petty when you look at from outside the box. Bitching about YOUR car, when it should be BOTH your car since you will be married one day, seems silly to me. Talk to him and fix this thing that was good at one point since he asked you to marry him.
2007-11-13 03:13:25 · answer #6 · answered by louie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you can put the baby up for adoption, keep it and get goverment help, like food stamps and day care. sounds like its the pregnancy he may be scared about becoming a dad. just give him time for his head to clear once it does he will think about everything he said and maybe appoligize and come back. if he was excited about a baby coming he would never leave you. he would at least keep contact with you. he may be just another dead beat dad. you dont know till you hear from him, thats if you ever do. think about all the wonderful people out there who would be willing to raise your baby. they would just be so happy to finally have a baby.
god bless u
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2007-11-13 03:25:05 · answer #7 · answered by BestFriendsForever1988 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this, but it's time to grow up and start taking responsibility for yourself and your children. It's not realistic to be counting on anybody else to take care of you and your children.The fact is, men leave. And although I know it's too late, you really should have thought about another pregnancy before you had the sex that did this. I raised 2 kids by myself without support money too. You just need to get yourself together and do what it takes for those innocent children. As far as him returning, you're probably better off if he doesn't. Who needs that in their lives..your kids deserve better. And you're the one that has to give it to them. Grow up and be a mom. A man is NOT the answer to your problems. A job and education I would say would be your best bet.
2007-11-13 03:19:59 · answer #8 · answered by kim 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Guy that left seems like a big jerk!! It seems you have a bit of bad luck or poor judgement in men.
Abortion is a terrible choice, but there are other choices. Adoption is one and I beleive you should look into that, the laws have changed quite a bit since back in the day.
As a woman you should have the ultimate choice regardless if some petty man is in your life or not.
2007-11-13 03:19:20 · answer #9 · answered by Asian Mami 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please do not abort. There are so many loving, responsible adult couples that would love to give your unborn child a good, stable life. Please look into adoption.
As far as your fiance, I can't say as to whether or not he will come back or call. But if he can leave you at this point, he doesn't sound worthy of being in a relationship with you!
Best wishes.
2007-11-13 03:18:14 · answer #10 · answered by tfled23 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are 1000s of childless couples who would LOVE to adopt your baby. Most of the time they pay your medical expenses. Call your local social services.
2007-11-13 03:17:16 · answer #11 · answered by Abolir Las Farc 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋