I already did the court thing and went to a child support enforcement agency... he is ordered to pay every month, but i havent seen anything from him (i havent even seen him) its been over 6 months since i got anything (havent seen him in almost 2 years) i cant get ahold of my case worker nor his family, i had to go get cash assistance in return for his child support, but that ended like 2 months ago, i really need this money casue my son just started school... what do i do?
2007-11-13 03:02:29 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
They already garnish his wages but i think he is either not working or working under the table so he doesnt have to pay...
2007-11-13 03:18:16 · update #1
The world is full of dead beat dad's that think their responsibility ends when the divorce is final. If you haven't heard from him in six months chances are you won't be hearing from him any longer. Some states have initiated a program where you can no longer renew your driver's license if you are outstanding on child support, check and see if that is the case where you live. In the meantime I would see if there are any local or federal programs that can assist you with your finances and in finding employment.
2007-11-13 03:15:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hope that everything is going to work out for you , It is difficult to raise a child alone and you need all the help that you can.
There are times in life when we are forced to wear a cap that represents both parents , I don't know what the real problems are between you and your ex ,so as an outsider and on the info that you give us ,if he didn't give you support for all this time you are not going to get any ,probably he doesn't care about his son or he as other problems that he cannot afford to send any money . There are thousands of women that are in your situation . You need to recollect yourself and be strong .
If you have tried to find help within the court and social assistance and have not succeeded there is only one thing left for you do to . That is you need to find a job! if you have parents friends or relatives ask them to look after your son while you work and make a living to support yourself and your son. I wish you the best of luck !
2007-11-13 11:20:45 · answer #2 · answered by bornfree 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's working you can go to court and get his wages garnished. If he's deliberately not working or underworking he can get put in jail eventually. I'm assuming you just want help, but if the relationship broke over money issues it's not the easiest thing.
I'm divorced and paying. I have the opposite problem where my ex makes $30 an hour and just tripled my child support even though I'm 2 miles away, making $10 an hour since moving to the town where the kids are and spending on a 3-bedroom apartment. She pushes me away every time I want to spend more time with them so she can collect. I'm filing full custody.
2007-11-13 11:08:58 · answer #3 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lawyer time again. (Have the lawyer put into the order that the ex has to pay the lawyer fees for his irresponsible behavior and previous disregard for the court's order)
Ask for garnishing his wages.
Also, you might ask attorney if you should wait a little longer. If it's a certain amount in arrears (behind in payments) it becomes a felony and he will immediately go to jail without passing go and stay there until he can figure out how to catch up on his payments. That's always a big incentive and it keeps it from happening again, too.
2007-11-13 11:06:55 · answer #4 · answered by Greywolf 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call and ask to speak to the Manager at your Child Support bureau. Your case worker is slacking off. most CS agencies are slow to do anything but the squeaky wheel gets greased. They are capable of getting a drivers license suspended and also garnishing income tax returns.
2007-11-13 11:20:44 · answer #5 · answered by sensible_man 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go on welfare. Seriously. When you cost the STATE money, they go after "deadbeat dads" with a vengeance.
I know this personally...I got behind on my child support. My ex-wife went on welfare, and suddenly I had TWO states after me, the state she lived in and Texas, where I live.
Contrast that with my new wife: She was supposed to get child support, but never did. However, she's a nurse and makes pretty good money. She couldn't get either Texas or the state she was from interested in enforcing the child support...hell, she even flew back to her old state and took him to court (ending up costing her about $3000 for trip and lawyer) where the judge told him "if you have $25 in your pocket, $15 of it goes to your kids". Still hasn't received a dime.
My ex-wife goes on welfare...state's all over me.
My new wife doesn't go on welfare...state could care less.
2007-11-13 11:09:04 · answer #6 · answered by BDZot 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what state you are in. You could have him arrested for contempt of court, or for not paying his child support. It won't get you any money, your son will have to visit his daddy in jail, but it MIGHT get his attention.
The best advice I have for you is to move on. DO not QUIT TRYING to get his dad to pay up and do anything you can legally to get that money BUT stop waiting for someone else to bail you out. Pull yourself up by your bootstraps and TAKE CARE of that BOY! No excuses, no whining, no complaining about what a dirt-bag his daddy is.
Decide today, that YOU ARE THE RESPONSIBLE ADULT in your child's life, and devote yourself to making your child's life better. YOU also had that child- and who knows, his daddy could be dead! Then who would you complain to?
Teach your son that he is not a victim of a dead-beat dad, but rather the proud recipient of a loving and stable and productive mother. If you can't make any money as you are, return to school-not for you-but for your son's future. Go to hair dressing school, x-ray tech school, even the ARMY, and quit whining.
If you CAN'T do that for the love and future of your child-give him up for adoption (maybe to your parents) and move on. He will be better off and so will you.
Good luck honey! You can do this. It will make a strong and independent woman of you, and a winner of your son.
2007-11-13 11:19:37 · answer #7 · answered by Lottie W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Somehow get the $$ to pay for a private investigator to find out where he's working if you don't already know. Then you can get his wages garnished. If he doesn't pay, he goes to prison, but I never understood the logic with that, because how is he supposed to earn money to get caught up if he's sitting in prison?
2007-11-13 11:11:34 · answer #8 · answered by Wintergirl 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My mom had something set up so the money would be taken right out of my dad's paycheck before he even got it. Maybe you could set that up w/the court.
2007-11-13 11:06:17 · answer #9 · answered by Eagiusti 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In the UK, if you know his National Insurace number, you can get it deducted from his wages at source, but that assumes he's working and declaring his wages.
Good luck.
2007-11-13 11:06:04 · answer #10 · answered by who me? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋