Me and my boyfriend have been together for 6 years and I'm a Senior in high school and I really love him and he loves me we have been through so much together and we've got through it. But my mother doesn't really think that me and him are going to make it she likes to talk about him and call him names and me names and stuff so what should I do?
Should I just go on with my life and not worry about it and just make me own decisions?
2007-11-13 02:37:14 · 29 answers · asked by jessica M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
don't worry about it.this is a classic. many moms have been known to come around and love their sons-in-laws despite their initial objection.
what counts is that u love each other.it also means u cannot afford to fail. u really can't afford to listen to "I told you so..." from your mom.
The only way to make her do a rethink is to make it work. Make it work!
2007-11-13 02:41:21 · answer #1 · answered by Ayo A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your a senior and you've been together for 6 years? That would have made you 12 when you met? My sister met her boyfriend when she was 12 and they got married when she was 20, unfortunately they only stayed married for a few years and now are just friends. I think it's terrible that your mother has to degrade the two of you through name calling, that's not a very good role model in my opinion. You have been together this long and you are going to be 18 soon, my opinion would be at this point to continue living your life and making your own decisions. It's your life not your moms.
2007-11-13 02:45:18 · answer #2 · answered by Lipstick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've been together 6 years, than goes back to when you were about 12 which is very young. Your mom might just be worried about you not really having a range of experiences. Most couples that commit so young don't end up staying together, although a few do.
You're probably 18 or close to it, so can make your own decisions. Good luck.
2007-11-13 02:47:27 · answer #3 · answered by Judy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless your mom is under the influence (no offense), talk to her and find out what is it that ticks her off by him? Most moms want whats best for their children. You might not see it now, but maybe later. Boyfriends come and go, but you only get ONE MOM! Try doing more productive things with your boyfriend for your mom like help her around the house inside and out, etc. spend more time with your mom. Maybe she does feel that he is stealing you away from her and for the last 6 years and maybe for a long time to come! She's losing you too soon. Spend more quality time with your mom. After all, she was patient when you kicked and beat her for 9 months before she went through hard labor with u and then all those sleepless nights! Would you be able to do some of that with her or try? GOOD LUCK!
2007-11-13 02:44:48 · answer #4 · answered by ~~Peace~ ~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would. It seems like your mom is jealous... and I would say that especially if your parents or divorced/separated and you live with just her. She might not want you to be happy because she is not happy.
A mother should know better than to call someone names, especially her own daughter! The other thing to keep in mind is how young you are... partly why she is saying that is because you're still young and haven't hit college yet.
Now, I'm not saying that this love won't last, but I'm suggesting that it is probably one of your mothers "problems" with your relationship. And it's not even a problem in your relationship, it's a problem with your mother's close-mindedness.
Overall? You're of the age where you can make your own decisions... but you're accountable for them as well, just keep that in mind too :)
2007-11-13 02:42:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a strong feeling in the fact that there are two sides to every story. Is there something that your b.f. has done to cause your mom to feel the way that she does? I would try to find the underlying reasons and try to resolve it with your mom. Otherwise if he treats you great, has a prospective future in mind, and you are bonded like super glue in terms of trust, honesty and dedication then by all means stick with the man you love. If you can't honestly answer all the above with positiveness and without hesitation then you really need to do some soul searching. Your young and God willing you have your whole life ahead of you. Oh and about the name calling from your mother - that is absolutely unnecessary and I would calmly express to your mom that it is also a form of verbal abuse and you won't stand for it especially from your mother.
2007-11-13 02:49:45 · answer #6 · answered by Joy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make your own decisions since you are an adult. If he is a nice boy and treats you really well than you should continue with the relationship. But don't stop talking to your mother. Try to reason with her and explain why you like him. Hope that helps some. Hope all goes well! Best wishes! :-)
2007-11-13 05:04:47 · answer #7 · answered by suzyqnelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know your mother so I can't say whether or not your mom is right to do this or she is wrong. For your own sake, you should take a step back and view your boyfriend to see if she has a point... is he a bad kid?
If you truly don't see anything wrong then go on with your life. Tell your mom that it hurts your feelings when she calls you and your boyfriend names.
2007-11-13 02:42:13 · answer #8 · answered by Due March 9th, 2010 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like there is some jealousy going on.
I would talk to your mom and tell her how you feel - better yet why dont you and your boyfriend talk to her together.
tell her how you feel about the way she acts and treats the two of you.
communication is very important.....
if that doesnt work, then yes I would just go on and not worry about how she feels,,you have been through a lot together and madew it 6 years, so obviously you have something good going on..dont let your mom squash it
2007-11-13 02:45:32 · answer #9 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has mom had bad relationships with men in the past?...if so, she may feel that she is helping you and trying to protect you (the name calling isn't necessary though)....I knew my ex husband since I was 17 and was married for 18 years. In life we all need to have experiences in order to learn from them. I do not regret that I stayed with him and married because if anything I had 2 beautiful girls to show for it...Mothers want to protect their girls from heartache. I think it is so difficult these days to raise girls than it was years ago. Maybe you should have a sit down with mom and ask her where she is coming from with her feelings about the two of you. From experience I can tell you that as a young woman the smartest thing you can do for yourself is to make your way in this world without relying on a man to be there for you and take care of you forever. You will be happy down the road that you were able to be independent and to take care of yourself.
2007-11-13 02:48:52 · answer #10 · answered by akitamommy2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First try to talk to your mum,try to make her see how you feel about him,and that her actions are hurting you and if they continue are bound to damage your relationship with her.
Yes of course your relationship with your boy friend may not go on for ever but it is not your Mothers decision and she must see this.If your Mum really loves you as i am sure she does I am sure she will see this and step back, but be there should you need her.Good luck.
2007-11-13 02:48:00 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋