I know I shouldn't be reading her email, but I had to get an address of a friend. I saw that she was emailing her old boyfriend when I was away with work telling him that she was lonely. I am pretty upset, and I know she hates when I go away on business, but I have no control over that. The job puts a roof over our head. I just dont know if or how I could confront her about this. Any ideas?
2007-11-13 02:15:51 · 13 answers · asked by Lenny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thank god for the tip he has given you.your wife is lonely instead of confronting her,make love to her passionately then hug her tightly .apologised for the lonely nights you have caused her. she sure misses you ,i am sure you can feel it when you are bonded together.wish you all the love on the above matter. don't waste time ,she needs your attention.
2007-11-13 02:25:23 · answer #1 · answered by life 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"I just don't know if or how I could confront her about this"
Dude, this is YOUR WIFE you are talking about!!! "You don't know if you could confront her?"" I suppose you should just sit back and watch Mr Joe College ex-boyfriend sweep your wife out from under you?! Wow! That sounds like a GOOD PLAN!
My man would be ALL OVER THIS!!! And RIGHTFULLY SO! I'm sorry, but in a marriage, little "luxuries" like "privacy" go out the window. You have VERY right to look in her email, no matter what the pretense was, as she does YOURS. That might not sit right with some people here, but whatever. If there is nothing to hide, then it wouldn't be a problem.
Yes confront her!!! Are you kidding me? You need to nip this in the bud pronto!
You do not have to make excuses about your job either. Some jobs require travel, and yes, that job puts food ont he table, a roof over your families head, and Internet access so SHE CAN EMAIL EX-BOYFRIENDS.....that is just NUTS!
2007-11-13 02:23:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is there any possibility of her going with you occasionally? That is, can she stay in the hotel room, or do some shopping while you're out working? If this is possible, present the idea to your wife. On the occasions when she doesn't go with you, she'll be busy planning for the next trip. And when she does go, she'll be busy loving you. Think about it. Is it possible?
If this is feasible, don't bother to mention the email. You can find out how she's feeling through her emails, so don't burn your own bridge. Best wishes, my friend!
2007-11-13 02:36:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if she is emaling an old boyfriend, that she had to of loved if they where together for 3 years, then I would asume she is wanting him to fill the gap that you are not. Don't tell her you looked at the email ( that would only make things worse ) but just let her know that you feel distance from her. She just needs you to be there for her more often. Is your job worth losing your wife? Are there other problems other that you being gone? Just try and talk to her and ask how she feels....just showing that you are concerned about your relationship and her feelings should help things.
2007-11-13 02:30:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to be truthful. Tell her you went in to get an address and read the email. Ask what she wants to do about the marriage, because if she is writing to another man there is a problem. If you need counsiling than get it, the ball is in her court. Don't let her play the wounded creature here, she is the one that got caught, so ask her how she wants to fix it, or if she wants out.
2007-11-13 02:25:13 · answer #5 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should "confront" her about it.
Do what ever you can to make it so she is not lonely.
Decide if working there is worth the strain on your marriage.
Talk with her and explain that you really don't want to travel but need to if you are going to keep that job. Possibly find a new job that does not require you to travel.
2007-11-13 02:21:56 · answer #6 · answered by countryguyhfc 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your wife should not make an excuse to go behind another person,explain the consequence to her and sort out problems
2007-11-13 02:25:05 · answer #7 · answered by madhavan n 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would get it off my chest as soon as pos.or it will fester in you and she will be quilty but frightened to tell you what she is doing if you leave it too long.
2007-11-13 02:25:33 · answer #8 · answered by HELEN LOOKING4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her to stop, or it's divorce... plain and simple... if she lies, don't believe her... she has to stop all, all, all, all... all communication w/ this man or your marraige won't last!!! don't put up w/ this... !!! if she is willing to give the man up, I would seriously try to find another job close to home, or have her travel w/ you...
2007-11-13 02:23:22 · answer #9 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well she is defiantly cheating on you and having sex with this guy....but don't confront her about it until you have some hard proof...otherwise she will clam up and deny everything....and if you confront her to early she will be much more careful hiding the fact she is bangin another dude
2007-11-13 02:19:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋