Would you let your 14 yr old daughter do this?

Question

OK so yesterday at school my friend who is a boy asked me if i could go to his house this weekend just to hang out and i talked to his mom and she was totally okay with it shes going to be there.Were just friends and we hang out at school all the time,so basically i want to know would you let your 14 yr old daughter go to his house and i havent given my parents any reason not to trust me but my mom kinda doesnt trust me she started having sex when she was 14 and got pregnant when she was 17.Please Help...How should i ask my mom i really want to go?

Of course my mom will ask to talk to his mom it wont be embarassing for me at all if the do

Of course my mom will ask to talk to his mom it wont be embarassing if they do

Answer 1

it might be embarassing, but have his mom talk to your mom! at least that way, your mom will get the assurance that you two are being supervised...
it wont be like this forever, but just let her be overprotective while she can!

Answer 2

Well all I can pretty much say is go for it and see what she has to say. It shouldnt hurt anything. If she does say no that is not because she dont trust you it could be because you are a teenager and she dont want anything to happen. sometimes parents think that you are going to follow in there same foot steps but they wont really know until they actually let you go. All I can say is to wait until you are actually really before doing something you will regret. He might not be that type in your eyes but then again you never know and it might take some time for your mom to trust him as well. So what the best thing to do is to start is try and agange a couple days for him to come over so you mom will get use to him and if things go good she might let you go there for the weekend. Good Luck and I hpe this Advice will work for you

Answer 3

Honestly? No, I wouldn't. Kids do dumb things, even when they don't intend to at the beginning. Will his Mom be in the room at all times? Can you honestly say, without hesitating, that there's no attraction between you?

Best bet? Make it a group thing. Have a bunch of your friends get together and hang out at someone's house, with at least one adult present at all times. Or, see if his family could come to your house for dinner, a cook-out or something. That way, you get to spend time together, your parents meet each other and your Mom may see that there's no sexual interest involved.

Answer 4

As a parent to a 14 year old girl, I would see no problem with this...as long as I get to talk to the parents of that boy. If I know that they will both be supervised by an adult, then I would be alright with it. I would ask the parent not to leave them alone for too long and make sure that if they go into his bedroom, to make sure that door stays open. Like someone answered and talking from experience, when a boy says "Let's hang out", he is really thinking "Let's make out". Some think this and some don't. Use your judgment and be responsible to yourself and your body. I trust my daughter, but not the boys she likes to hang out with.

Answer 5

Well show her you are responsible, and that you wont make the mistakes she did. But, you have to understand that she just wants to keep you away from danger. And, tell her that whereever yall are in the house, you will make sure his mom is there. But, make his mom talk to your mom, dont be shy! There is nothing wrong with this, and letting the parents talk, is a great way to get both your moms and the other moms trust.

Answer 6

well yeah id let her go if parents were home!!! but ur mom should trust that you don't follow in her footsteps, especially since she's told you that she lost her virginity when she was 14. Just ask her politely, mom my friend from school invited me to his house, can i go? let her know parents are gunna be there...if she says no, don't get really angry with her cuz u never know it might be for the best. and if you get mad, she may not let you do anything.

Answer 7

I would allow the girl in question to see her boyfriend on the weekend,but wouldn't they rather go out and do something..I would say you mother is just being protective as she had you at a 'young' age and she want you to go through your studies and experience life before getting into all this,I would just advise you work hard on your studies and school work for yourself so you don't get down on anything which will also show you other that you are involved in your education and you are responsible.

Answer 8

Some times boys want to be more than friends,and maybe it's not you that your mom doesn't trust maybe it's him. Because I'm the same age and had the same situation, and it turns out that when he said "hang out" he meant"make out" and i didn't like him like that,but they're males and they just don't comprehend stuff like that.Well most of them don't. But just know that there is always going to be more times if it doesn't happen now,see if you could hang out somewhere else,you know public.Or let your mom meet him and then let her pass her judgment.

Answer 9

well if my daughter was just going over there to hang out then I would totally be ok with it! Maybe your mom just is worried about you turning out like her. My mom wouldn't let me date till I was 16 (even though I did it behind her back) but I'm going to have a VERY different relationship with my daughter! I know you probly feel like your mom is making you live under a rock... I know I did. but it will get better when you get your license! I loved it when I did! but anyways, just talk to her about it and ask her why... don't whine cause that solves nothing!

Answer 10

Given her history, I kinda see where she's coming from. A bit. But if his folks are going to be around and you're not sharing a bedroom where's the harm? After all, "hanging out" can happen in the living room/ kitchen/ etc can't it? Are you even sleeping over? (You could always just come home at bedtime)

If she's still not comfortable with this, even after she's spoken with the lad's Mum, how about having him round to yours instead this time so she can reassure herself he's just a nice kid and a good mate?

I suppose you could always embarrass the cr@p out of her by showing her how to put a condom on a banana - what's her sense of humour like?

Answer 11

If you're just going over for a few hours, I think it'd be sort of mean if your mom didn't let you go. Just because he's a boy and you're alone doesn't mean you guys will automatically have sex. I'd understand if she said no to sleeping over, but she should let you go over. You two are just friends, and his mom is going to be home! That's totally okay. :)