take a family photo with my brother and myself? They have been divorced 8 years and the last family photo I have is my high school graduation. Though they are divorced they are still both my parents and they will eventually have to see each other again at my wedding in two years but my dad is moving back up to illinois from florida in a couple weeks and I excited to finally have them both close to me again. I figured they could stand on the outside and my brother and me on the inside. oh and my mom is remarried but he sees he ex constantly because they share a 11 year old daughter together. Do you think they could possibly come together and take a picture so I can have a family photo or is that being selfish?
2007-11-13 01:48:13 · 13 answers · asked by myraxellenxamos 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thank you all for your answers. I will definitely ask them now. -=)
2007-11-13 01:57:25 · update #1
Well.. I asked my mom and she about had a heart attack. She said absolutely not. As we talked more she said at the wedding to do a huge family photo with my step dad and step sisters and my dad might happen but other than that absolutely not. Well. I guess there was no harm in trying. Thank you all.
2007-11-13 02:05:37 · update #2
It depends on how comfortable they would be. For a wedding, i can see that, but otherwise- eh, it's a bit sketchy. How about just pictures of you with each of them separately?
2007-11-13 01:53:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its not being selfish, unless they just can not stand one another, therefore can't be in the same room together. But why not just wait for the portrait on your wedding day?
My X invited his mom and dad both remarried for some 30 years to my birthday dinner. That was the most uncomfortable, miserable evening I've ever witnessed. There was so much animosity. It just hung in the air like a fog. I never again hope I have to witness that again between people again.
2007-11-13 09:58:41 · answer #2 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It wouldn't be rude but it would be a lie. They are still your mom and dad but they are not a family anymore. You can always ask, but instead why don't you take a picture with your mom and one with your dad, that would represent the facts more truthfully then all of you together, and I don't know who decided to leave but the other person might be hurt to have to pose in a picture that is a lie.
Good luck
2007-11-13 09:56:45 · answer #3 · answered by johanne 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go for it. You are asking for something very reasonable. If it is important to you it will hopefully be to them. Simply ask, the worst they can say is no. If they do then respect it and move on. Or you can always take separate photos and put them together in Photoshop.
2007-11-13 09:54:01 · answer #4 · answered by joe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it would be rude at all. My parents divorced 27 years ago and we all get together for special occasions. I have to say too that it is a great feeling to have a group photo! Ask them, shame on them is they say no.
2007-11-13 10:00:13 · answer #5 · answered by laura1977 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Put it this way to them. And if they don't agree then have a photo made with just your brother....it's their loss.
I would make it a condition of them being in the photo that they BOTH participate and leave their differences at the door.
2007-11-13 09:54:45 · answer #6 · answered by hexeliebe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO it is not rude and unethical. They had you together and i really don't think it would hurt to allow you to have a picture of all of you together. Just don't put them together in the picture. It would make it look like they were together again.
2007-11-13 09:58:34 · answer #7 · answered by Sandra G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's being selfish. All you can do is ask and see what they have to say. Tell them that it's important to you and you would really like this picture. The worst they can say is no. Why wait.
2007-11-13 09:54:13 · answer #8 · answered by Nikki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think they should do it. But people can be unrational. Tell them that they are both your parents and that you love them both equally. You are not doing it for them but for you.
Also it will save you money since you won't have to pay for 2 sittings.
2007-11-13 09:56:11 · answer #9 · answered by Johnnyo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a wonderful idea and your parents should not hesitate to do this.
2007-11-13 09:53:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋