I am a Christian woman and when I began to date my husband he was a strong Christian man. He had some down falls in life, loosing a job and not finishing up with school. And began to change. He began drinking and becoming abusive physicly and emotionaly neglectful. I do not feel he is the same person any more. He has renounced him belifes in God and says he dosn't condier himself a Christian any longer.
I have been going to counsling, yet he refuses to go with me. He says we don't really have any problems. I am afraid to talk to him. I am afraid to leave him because of the abuse.
We have only been married for 2 years. We are both in our mid 20's and have no children. I know Biblicly the only grounds for divorce is audultry. But nothing is working. I've been praying so hard and we've even tried a seperation and it was a failure.
I find myself starting to notice other men. And I feel terably guilty for that. What should I do? Is divorce ok? Will God curse me?
2007-11-13 01:15:04 · 20 answers · asked by M Rina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am praying that God will work a miracle right now. Deal with this husbands heart and let him see the hurt is causing. I pray that God will send someone in his path this very day that will help him see where this marriage is going. Do not be tempted. God doesn't curse us and there is only one unforgivable sin. God can do this I know He can. I know a couple that sounds exactly like yours and they had kids. She did leave him and went to a women's shelter with the kids. And this totally opened his eyes at what he could lose. God totally restored this marriage and they have a better marriage now than they did before. So pray confess healing to your marriage.
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2007-11-14 06:32:35 · answer #1 · answered by Hadassah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As another Christian woman, let me tell you that God's plan is not for you to be in a relationship where you are physically and emotionally abused. Don't worry about what the Bible says about divorce. You married this man when he was a different person; one who made you happy. That is not who he is anymore, and you should not be subjected to that type of treatment. He doesn't even want to make the effort to fix things by going to counseling with you, and to me, that says alot. Luckily for you, you don't have any children together, so at this time, you need to focus on yourself. You need to do what is best for you emotionally and physically. File for divorce, protect yourself, and find someone who will love you enough to never raise a hand. Take care, and God bless.
2007-11-13 01:21:51 · answer #2 · answered by HoneyChild 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have no children with this man; so there is nothing keeping you from leaving--particularly if he is abusing you. Biblically, you are not bound to a non-christian husband. If you choose to stay with him, you can. If not, you are free to divorce him. Under no circumstances will God curse you; so get that thought out of your mind. God is not this horrible essence that people make him out to be. God is loving, gentle, and forgiving.
If you are unhappy, find the strength to divorce this man. You are very young; so don't waste your life on someone who isn't mature enough for marriage. You made a mistake in marrying this man. Accept that reality and move on. And if you are this afraid of him, you need to leave. Move back home and be done with it. God loves you and He doesn't want to see you unhappy!
2007-11-13 02:28:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
God will not curse you. In fact it is not your fault. I am in a similar situation myself and I have searched the bible and my pasture and you have every right to divorce your husband even biblical. It is the husbands responsibility according to the bible to support, love and provide spiritually for his wife, he may not physically be cheating on you but he is cheating non the less with the bottle. A man is to keep the promises he made to you at the time you were married if he can't do that he is a lire and a cheat and he is not honouring his vows that he made with God ad his witness. God wants us to stay married but God doesn't want us to be miserable either. If you can't bring him to God and he is not willing to seek council then you are not at fault to divorce. You are young and you have every right to have a happy life and if your husband can't get on board with his promise and his responsibility to you so be it. If you can honestly say you have given all you have and done all you can to save this marriage and he will do nothing what else can you do
2007-11-13 01:35:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no reason to stay in a marriage like that. It seems to me that you have tried every outlet to make this marriage work, and he is just not willing! I know what the bible says because i am a married christian woman too, but he's not a christian man, he is not respecting you and he is abusing you! I advise you to get out while you still can!!
2007-11-13 01:24:03 · answer #5 · answered by baby_menehune13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is ok to divorce this man..If the abuse and neglect isn't enough then remember your faith. He has renounced God! If you are afraid then you most definitely need to be out of there. Do it before children get involved. Maybe go to a battered women's councilor. There are safe ways to free your self. Be very careful
2007-11-13 01:25:34 · answer #6 · answered by cindyokie1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rena.Rena.Rena. Please don't say things like will GOD curse me! it makes me ? your spirtuality! Not only is that fueling what people say about CHRISTIANS gone overboard but it is not the kind of GOD the bible wants you to know. The bible says that GOD is a forgiving GOD, and he knows your heart. All GOD wants you do is give it your best shot,now even if you feel uncomfortable divoring your husband you can seperate from him. But if you sin or make a mistake you won't be cursed, what you would need to do is ask for forgiveness by repenting or purging your soul.
2007-11-13 01:28:43 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs.G-unit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that this is God's plan for marriage. The Bible gives two reasons for divorce: adultry and if the unbeleiving spouse decides to leave the marriage. However, the Bible also says that a husband is to love his wife and take care of her. Talk with your husband. Does he want the divorce or does he want to save the marriage? If he wants to save the marriage then he has to be willing to seek help. You cannot change your husband, only God can and he has to be willing to let God help him change.
2007-11-13 01:34:54 · answer #8 · answered by Purple 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it would be OK for you to divorce your husband.
You will not be cursed because, as you said, this is not something YOU in particular did to the relationship. Abuse is worse if not equal to adultury in a marriage. Both hurt you terribly physically and mentally.
He's the sinner, not you. He abuses you. Therefore YOU can not be cursed in the end.
2007-11-13 01:25:48 · answer #9 · answered by Sean C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think that God would want you to be happy in your marriage and to be treated with respect and dignity....Your husband has become both physically and emotionally abusive...and doesn't consider himself a Christian any longer...He also refuses to to go to counseling with you...I would say that you should get divorced...
2007-11-13 01:21:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋