Is This considered Cheating?

Question

I recently divorced my wife for barely a year. We were separated in February and divorce was finalized in July. Afterwards, I found out that she got pregnant in May with her co-worker, who I suspected having relationship withmy ex-wife prior to our divorce, and they got married shortly after my divorce was finalized. I guess in her mind, once she left me it was the same as a divorce, which allowed her to see other people. Is this considered cheating?

Answer 1

What does it matter? The marriage ended in February, regardless of when the final divorce came through. The fact that she went off with this co worker probably means that she was seeing him before you split in February, but you don't know that for sure.

You are now divorced, there are no children between the two of you, and she has married someone else and is expecting his baby.

I don't see why you should be dwelling on whether or not she cheated on you. The facts are clear here - marriage well and truly over.

Answer 2

everyone views cheating differently. I personally would not consider it cheating if you were separated. The only reason I say this is because I don't believe people should be forced to be alone while waiting for the divorce to be final, which in some cases takes a LONG time. Often people were already in a lonely, loveless, emotionless marriage and I don't feel like they should suffer anymore than they have to. If she was cheating DURING the marriage it's no surprise she would get knocked up so soon after the separation...I'd rather see the better person in the marriage move on sooner and have happiness but it's not always the case.

Answer 3

If you're wondering, it probably is. Anytime you feel an emotional connection with someone else, any kind of contact that feels intimate - could be just talking or texting, but feels close, brings you closer to that person - is cheating. If you're not emotionally involved, then these same things are just friendly. Also I'm assuming by kissing you mean a kiss on the cheek, because on the mouth or deep kissing is definitely across the line.

Answer 4

Not if it happened when you were separated, however if her affair was the ground for your divorce, you may say she was cheating on you. You actually have no right to expect her to keep the flame burning for you if you are separated.

Answer 5

It depends. If she was seeing this person before you seperated than it is cheating. If she had a relationship without sex before you left is cheating. But that happened really fast so I have to believe they had something going prior.

Answer 6

yes, it is. eventhough she was anticipating that you will get divorced eventually, but its clear that she had this affair before your divorce was finalized. but what can you do? do you want to go after her because of it? or youd rather move on with your life? you deserve someone better.

Answer 7

What does it matter at this point unless you want something to whine about. Your marriage to her was over and you were getting a divorce how can you be the injured spouse when there was no marriage it was over.... MOVE on she has.

Answer 8

Well it sounds like you had been seperated for a couple of months, but my guess is she had someone in the works for awhile. Ya she's a cheater.

Answer 9

It is still committing adultery in the eyes of God and in the eyes of the law....because you were still legally married...

I answered your question based upon how your presented it...I don't think "who cares?" is an answer........My personal opinion is that it isn't cheating...since you were emotionally done with one another...

Answer 10

Does it really matter NOW? bEEN there, done that. New life, let go. Technically, yes it was cheating. But IT IS OVER, let her, the baby and him have their life and you get on with yours. I am sure you deserve someone much better.