It is just not working on. The maid if fighting with the matron on everything and not making things easy for her. What do I do? Why do woman take their title so seriously. I would be happy to a part of the day, she insists she stands next to me. When I have know my matron a lot longer. I don't get it?
2007-11-13 00:59:13 · 4 answers · asked by Kelsy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She keep dragging me in the planning of the bacherlotte when she kept telling the others keep me out of it??
2007-11-13 01:12:10 · update #1
Remind her whos day it is and that things will be done your way, end of discussion!
2007-11-13 01:08:58 · answer #1 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They sound like very selfish friends, and you need to let them know the only difference in title is matron is married and maid is not, and the closest person should be at your side or if ones a sister (yours). I was a matron when my middle sister married and my younger sister was the maid, but she stood closest to her. You need to sit down with them seperately and discuss your feelings then all three of you need to get together, and as hard as this sounds if they can't grow up for someone they both say they care so much for, they don't deserve the honor of standing for you at all...Good Luck and Congrats on the wedding...
2007-11-14 02:21:55 · answer #2 · answered by Dolly J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yikes - sounds like the maid really isn't a true friend if she's fighting about stupid crap like that. A true friend would never put her soon-to-be married friend in situations like this, as you have WAY too much stuff to think about vs. handling her petty fights.
I say, if the maid is causing the problem, remove her from the wedding. Tell her exactly why she is being removed from your wedding. It is YOUR day (and the groom's I suppose) and she should NOT be insisting anything - she should just go along with whatever your wishes are because, again, it's YOUR day, not HERS.
2007-11-13 09:06:26 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you, it's amazing how major events in your life can cause arguments between your nearest and dearest. I don't know what to suggest other than you speak to your friends separately and tell them how special they are, and that's why you asked them to do you the honour of playing such a special part in your day. And, since it's your special day you want to do the things your way. Then think of some special jobs that they can do for you...how about one organises the hen night and takes sole responsibility of that and the other takes control of organising another area of your wedding and manipulate the situation in that way. It's amazing if you find someone a focus in an event how it distracts them from other areas. Failing that...runaway and get married! HTH and good luck!!
2007-11-13 09:11:11 · answer #4 · answered by Kaalin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋