i had an abortion a few weeks back, my partner wanted the child but i wasnt ready. no one knows about this but us and the doctors who did the surgery. i feel so alone he never talks to me about the baby and abortion, physically i am doing well emotionaly i am crumbling each day. will i ever heal from this pain?does it ever get better?
2007-11-13 00:30:38 · 31 answers · asked by malindy 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
It will get better with time!! And as for your man not talking about it, he wanted the baby and you didn't so he is probably really hurt by the whole situation and doesn't want to talk about the child that is now gone!!
But you made the choice that was best for you and once you realize that it was for the best you will emotionally be ready to heal!!
And do not listen to the rude people we were not in your situation so we should not judge you!! As for having the baby and signing over the rights!? What the hell!!
You will heal and abortion clinics usually have help line available 24 hours a day and they are completely anonymous!!
2007-11-13 00:35:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
Don't any of you EVER judge anyone unless you are standing in their shoes. If you can't be supportive when someone is obviusly already feeling low, it's best to say nothing.
Phanquanq, you will heal and it is natural to go through a grieving process after an abortion. It might be helpful for you to talk to someone about how you are feeling. It can make a big difference to how you feel but you may not feel like talking about it yet. It 's still early days. I wish you all the best.
2007-11-13 00:44:57 · answer #2 · answered by Yahoo 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
This is the price you actually pay for having an abortion, it's not what you pay the dr but your thinking about it and feeling bad. What's done is done. Try to talk to your partner about it and find support. It will get better eventually. If you are not ready for a baby you need to evaluate the kind of birth control you are using (and why it failed if it was the case) and always use a condom for extra protection. It is hard going through this but you made a desicion and you need to face the consequences. I hope you feel better, I know you eventually will, Be safe!
2007-11-13 00:38:39 · answer #3 · answered by Baby Ruth habla español 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go to a therapist . It's a personal decision...and you did what you chose to do. But regardless it's something that you need to get after care about. You have a lot of thoughts you need to be talking about. And with out mental help through this you will probably not heal! Good luck!
2007-11-13 00:37:33 · answer #4 · answered by Shadow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be prepared to get some really mean answers on this one.
I think it is really diffcult at first but after a bit of time it will get better. If you keep dwelling on perhaps getting some counseling to help you out would be in order. Remember there are reasons you made this decision and you should stand behind them. I'm sorry you are feeling this way now but you have to move on.
I'm sorry for all the mean answers you are going to get by asking this question.
2007-11-13 00:37:33 · answer #5 · answered by Leizl 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I did the same one year ago its hard the first months but if you'r sure u were not ready you will heal with time but don't lie to yourself that u will forget i think about it everyday but i was not ready so i get by OK. All the best
2007-11-13 00:39:01 · answer #6 · answered by Csill 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess that all depends on you. i know people who have suffered everyday for years and years living with the regret of an abortion. Its a choice that is made because you think you are not ready and no more thought is put into it. Im sorry now that you are regreting, but its kinda late now to go back.. I dont know how long you will suffer, it could be forever. Seeking guidance from a professional may help.
2007-11-13 00:35:48 · answer #7 · answered by louie 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I had a friend who had an abortion over a decade ago and she still regrets it, her parents had forced her to do it though. I can't imagine knowing I had killed my child simply because I didn't want it. It is something you will have to deal with, and no one here can fix it for you. If you want to talk to your partner about it, you will have to bring it up, and if I were him, I would be bitter too. You reap what you sow, and now you have to deal with the consequences of your decision, I hope you didn't expect it to be easy.
2007-11-13 00:51:58 · answer #8 · answered by Sugarcookie 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
By the looks of some of the answers on this site, looking on here is not going to help you...it will probably make you feel much worse.
Turn off your computer, get to your doctor or to relate and get some proper caring help so that you can start to feel better.
Good luck.
2007-11-13 01:06:05 · answer #9 · answered by Lois 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i dont know about the healing better talk to a doctor what i can say is i doubt your relationship with your partner might changein other words never be the same again. he is also going through alot. both of you need help.
2007-11-13 00:43:15 · answer #10 · answered by umm lutfia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋