2007-11-12 23:48:17 · 13 answers · asked by sparthens 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Ignore her. Dont call her names. When you start calling her fat and ugly hag in your head, stop yourself. Have love in your heart. If she cant be nice to you, stay away from her and your problem will be solved.
2007-11-12 23:53:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋
People are very rarely annoying because they want to be. It's usually because they feel insecure, prehaps because of their appearance, and therefore put up a defensive front. If they annoy you and you dislike them, they know that it's their behaviour that you dislike and not them themselves. They feel too insecure to show you their actual personalities because they're afraid that you might reject their real selves, not just a deliberately obnoxious facade. But of course, this means that they can't have intimate friendships with other people, and are therefore often desperately lonely. Because they are continually rejected because of their behaviour they feel that there is no way of avoiding rejection. It's a vicious circle, and they feel like they might as well cause the rejection themselves and get it over with. This person is obviously very unhappy. They might even have a mental illness such as depression.
I'm not saying you suddenly become their best friend, but try to be patient with them, talk to them civily, and maybe they'll improve over time. And if they're unbearable - different people have different levels of tolerance and not everyone is meant to be a samaritan for lonely people - just avoid that person or ignore them, but in a non-obvious way, and when you have to be with them just bite the bullet and behave cordially. Although it's hard, you'll be a better person for it.
2007-11-13 13:43:21 · answer #2 · answered by sashmead2001 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually there is a reason for her behavior, yes she's annoying and we have all known people just like the person described. No you shouldn't describe anyone in the terms you have and that just shows your "maturity" level to all in the board. The reason for behavior like this, is usually a "lack of social skills" and this usually occurs from people who have had little or no friends over many years. I don't know if I would recommend you being the one who takes care of starting or going up to her "alone".
What you could do though is try putting yourself in her place, think about what it would be like to grow up with no friends, overweight and ridiculed, knowing kids made fun of you and how hard it is growing up, yet growing up if you are not popular or the most attractive. So maybe you could get one or two others to invite her to a study group or a coffee house and if you are a male have one of the girls in the group try whispering to her when everyone's quieter and maybe she is louder she will start to get the hint. I've seen people as old as 65 exhibit these traits because they never had anyone in their lives, it's so sad and I mean sad.
Believe me you will feel so good about yourself even if you don't think so, you will yrs from now you will look back at this time and realize you had helped her in more ways then you can imagine. Be the one who makes the difference now.
2007-11-13 09:55:03 · answer #3 · answered by sknflower64 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I'M SURE YOUR A PERFECT 10 HUH? I'M SURE YOU HAVE NO FAULT AT ALL IN YOUR SELF, YOU ARE 100% PERFECT IN EACH AND EVERY WAY, HUH? LMAO. NOT!!! SHE PROBABLY CAN'T STAND YOU. TALK ABOUT CALLING THE KETTLE BLACK. YOUR NOT A VERY NICE PERSON, YOU HAVE NO RIGHT CALLING SOMEONE A (FAT UGLY HAG) HAVE YOU CHECKED YOUR SELF OUT IN THE MIRROR LATELY? SINCE YOU ARE CALLING HER NAMES, WHAT WRIGHT DO YOU HAVE CALLING SOME ONE NAMES. DO YOU KNOW WHAT THAT CAN DO TO A PERSON IF YOU CALL THEM NAMES IN FRONT OF THERE FACES? YOU COULD REALLY MESS UP A PERSONS MIND. MAKE THEM HAVE LOW SELF A STEAM. I REALLY HOPE YOU ARE NOT CALLING HER NAMES. THAT WOULD MAKE YOU OUT TO BE A REAL BIG JERK, AND YOU WILL NOT HAVE ANY FRIENDS, AT LEAST I WOULD NOT BE YOUR FRIEND. WHEN I WAS IN GRADE SCHOOL AND HIGH SCHOOL, I USED TO F*CK OTHER KIDS UP IF THEY PICKED OR BULLIED OTHER KIDS. YOU ARE NOT A VERY NICE PERSON. BUT YOU ARE RIGHT ABOUT ONE THING, YOU DO NEED HELP...
2007-11-13 08:32:45 · answer #4 · answered by iminyourdreams 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Try being tolerant of others, not everyone is blessed with perfect looks and personality. Being judgemental is a very sad and pathetic way to live. Perhaps she'd be nice to you, if you were nice to her. I have a feeling, from your statement, that you are unkind to her, she likely has heard you say nasty things about her.
Before you judge someone, look in the mirror, and think about what others may say about you in return. I guarantee you, you are not perfect.
2007-11-13 08:23:37 · answer #5 · answered by Foggy Idea 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Just SHHHHHHUSH her real loud when she won't shut her trap. I do it with yappy people at the movies and it works every time...
2007-11-13 12:12:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anglcake 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want her to be nice, but the way you talk about her, I bet you are not being nice to her. She probably just reacts to the way you treat her. And if you are so superficial and don't like the way she looks, how about you just look the other way ?
2007-11-13 08:01:24 · answer #7 · answered by kind_of_blue_hn 4 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Tell her just how you feel about her, and make her shut up.
2007-11-13 07:51:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I bet if she was a slim, beautiful girl in your class who wouldn't shut up, you wouldn't be asking this question.....you'd be getting to know her instead!!
2007-11-13 08:00:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you should ignore her and mind your own business, jackass.
2007-11-13 09:52:10 · answer #10 · answered by Radw 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋