My little sister is a very sweet girl and she doesn’t get angry easily. She has this new boyfriend that she has been with for little over a month now. Ever since she got with him, I had a gut feeling that he wasn’t right for her. Then last night my sister was talking to me and we came up to the subject of her boyfriend, and she told me that he wants to have sex with her and she doesn’t want to. He keeps trying to convince her to. It is really starting to piss me off. I know my sister isn’t the kind of person who can really stand up for herself properly. She has had many boyfriends beforehand. And I know she is young (16), and she wouldn’t be looking for a real serious relationship for a bit, but I don’t want her to be played. She told me not to do anything. But I want her not to be with him. I saw him this morning and he seems all nice, but still something doesn’t feel right. Should I do something or just leave it, because I think something should be done?
2007-11-12 23:15:26 · 17 answers · asked by Troy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
talk to her she's ur sis nd it's the right thing or it'll be on ur mind all the time
2007-11-12 23:18:18 · answer #1 · answered by michaela r 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, in my opinion, you need to be the big brother here. I am sure she can handle herself on most things. However, this may be something that is a bit difficult for her to handle. I am not saying to be harsh about this but perhaps if you can get a minute alone with him, start off by saying," hey, you seem like a nice dude but take it easy on the sex part with my sister. When and if she is ready you will know it". She might get pissed at you but only for a while. Her being upset with you might not last as long as an STD or a pregnancy. Good Luck
2007-11-13 07:20:32 · answer #2 · answered by punxsyparty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This guy, is without a doubt, a jerk. He wants to take the innocence of your sister, and trample on it. He is NOT right for her. Kill him, remember, use bleach to get rid of blood stains, wear thick plastic gloves, and shrink wrap works well with the disposing of bodies, don't use a river to dump him in because sometimes bodies can float, but if you DO use a river or large body of water be sure to attach rocks or something that will allow the little pervert to sink to the bottom and not pop back up.
Just kidding... really but not really...
Seriously give her some good advice, don't attack her with it, but explain to her that if this guy can't wait on sex, then he isn't worthy to have her. Real men can wait on a girl, this guy just wants pussy...
2007-11-13 07:29:11 · answer #3 · answered by Dan. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, be the big brother and tell her that guys have one thing on their mind at that age. Tell the boy if he lays a hand on her, he'll have you to confont with. STand up and help her. That's what big brothers and sisters are for...to make sure their little sisters and brothers are watched and taken care of when the parents don't have as much say. You know in your gut what you have to do, just do it. She sounds like she have plenty of other boyfriends in her life. Teach her how to say No! and tell her why...especially so that she's not a mom at age 17. Wish you luck there!
2007-11-13 07:20:38 · answer #4 · answered by babbles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I feel your concern. I also have a little sister (21) She also struggles to stand up for herself, when it comes to her bf. I think your little sis should play this guy. Remember your sister has power over him because she has what he wants. I think she could use this to her benefit. By not giving herself up and standing strong, you will see the rubbish user bf that she has will quickly give up and hunt else where. Just support her and protect her as much as you can. LET HER KNOW SHE OWNS HIM.
2007-11-13 07:25:00 · answer #5 · answered by george 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I would find out the guys age. If he is over 18, there is your answer. If he is younger then 18, all you can do it try to help. Any aggressive attempts will only push your sister away from you. Sometimes people make stupid mistakes, even with proper advice from those around them that are trying to help.
2007-11-13 07:21:04 · answer #6 · answered by Echelon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to do something if your gut is telling you too. That is a sure sign that there is something seriously wrong with this guy and you need to get your little sister away from him.. He may be a predator and you might not figure it out until its too late
2007-11-13 07:39:29 · answer #7 · answered by jenniferk5683 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should advice your sister and protect her from being used and abused. Every one just wants to experiment and use your body and then they move on to the next victim. Dont be the one to be used and abused and dumped. Value and respect yourelf and your body. Its very important. Beware, please speak up and educate your sister, or else she will be hurt and in sorrow and regret.
2007-11-13 07:20:59 · answer #8 · answered by live and let live 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to your question i can say that having sex at16 is a crime in u.s.a. So till date, you must have to keep an eye on your sister about her activities,her visits to whom and her behaviour as it might result in pregnancy.
2007-11-13 07:20:37 · answer #9 · answered by dhroue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave it alone.. It's her relationship and if you get involved all that will happen is she will resent you for a long while.. And may never confide in you again.. Just be there for her, listen to her.. But don't get involved unless she asks you to...
2007-11-13 07:21:05 · answer #10 · answered by LokoLobo 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋