i recently went out with this guy who i thought was really nice. he made me feel really special and treated me really well. then suddenly he texted me saying he cant carry on with me coz he's in trouble at home! I was gutted coz i really liked him. anyway i said i believed him and that i understood he had to sort his problem out first but i did some digging and found out that his real reason was his girlfriend from abroad was coming to visit him and it looked like they were together all the time he was persuing me! I was livid and hurt that he did this to me! So i pretended to be someone else (stupid i know i but i dident want to be me) anyway i told her that her so called boyfriend cheated on her and he's a liar and told her everything that he did with me. She responded saying they were steep accusations for someone she cares about she couldnt believe me straight off, i told her to ask him! He knew it was me and now i feel so stupid and bad! Was i wrong to do this? Am i a bad person?!
2007-11-12 22:15:40 · 20 answers · asked by Bluebell 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes very bad !!!!!!
2007-11-12 22:18:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
As you understood or thought he was single - did not have anyone else. You, sound very sensible person to me.
But, take some more time if you should fall for someone else. You do not want to get hurt all over again.
There was once this lad that was studying in same college as me, saw that I got on well with this girl. And that we liked each other, so he invited her to his place while his girlfriend was away.
Then he said in the classroom out loud about the girl I liked that she had smelly feet. She was hurt by this.
But I ignored him.
Anyway cut a long story short his girlfriend found out about his sick sense of humour and finished with him.
I had not realised that another girl I had made friends with in that same college was his girlfriend's best friend: whom I told all about it to.
He never bothered trying to provoke me again after that.
Besides his girlfriend was not stupid she had suspected him for a good while.
As for the girl that I liked we became very good friends afterwards, and later she became a barrister, but sadly went to live far away, last I heard got married. Still I'm happy for her. She really was very nice.
2007-11-13 06:31:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't necessarily a bad person, you just did something sort of stupid. You probably should have just said who you were and said "Look, from one girl to another. While you were away, your boyfriend, who was then my boyfriend, did all these things with me and hurt me. I don't want to see you getting hurt too and wanted to warn you." You aren't a bad person for that, and some people might say it wasn't your business, but if you were trying to look out for her, you did the right thing. If you were being hateful and just trying to hurt him and her, then... yeah, that was a pretty mean thing to do. Doesn't make you a bad person. You're human. You've emotions like all of us. We all do stupid stuff sometimes. Just, hopefully, you'll learn from it and won't do it again, and if you did say it all, it might be a good idea to try and apologize and explain, but let her know it was all true.
Good luck.
2007-11-13 06:24:10 · answer #3 · answered by haphazard.moogle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! You were not a bad person. You were good for telling the truth. You have to do what makes you happy even if it means betraying others - but only to an extent. He's that bad dude for cheating & lying. Don't put yourself down. But don't make this a habit by betraying everyone you meet. You were jealous and you wanted revenge. You didn't really want her to find out the truth you wanted HIM to get ****** just like you did. I understand it all. Time will pass everything.
2007-11-13 06:24:40 · answer #4 · answered by Angela xx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U did the right thing. You are not wrong. Im glad you told her. She should know he is a cheat. He used u and abused you and he needs to pay for that. He will cheat on her again and again. Once a cheat always a cheat. You should be happy you got rid of him, he is no good. Infact they are all cheats, so beware and take care of yourself and be on your guard always. You are priority.
2007-11-13 06:20:21 · answer #5 · answered by live and let live 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you have saved this other girl from a lifetime of hell . well done
you may have done it because you were angry or wanted revenge but you have now dealt with it .
you should feel better now for getting the anger out of your system .
it just a pity more people arent honest
so get out and enjoy yourself find more friends and dont let this bad experience hold you back for one second
2007-11-13 06:19:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, as you said, he is going to know that is was you.... Do I think that makes you a bad person? No, you were trying to justify your feelings of anger from him. It might, however, leave you in an embarassing situation with him.... Good luck.
2007-11-13 06:19:52 · answer #7 · answered by Nat C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it was good you called him out and let her know what type of guy he is. You have no reason to feel bad, he was the one playing games.
2007-11-13 06:19:28 · answer #8 · answered by ctelly22 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not a bad person, you just acted on you impulse. if you stop and think about it, he is not worth your time if he is going to play you like that! what goes around comes around one way or another. i know it sucks because you really like him but i am sure someone better will come around for you!
2007-11-13 06:21:10 · answer #9 · answered by nancy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes and no. you are a bad person for the fact that you wanted to hurt him because he hurt you, but he is a bad person for hurting you in the first place. its his fault so your not really a bad person, although you may have hurt his girlfriend as well and she is innocent in all this.
2007-11-13 06:20:43 · answer #10 · answered by King_Dano 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just a typical girl, unfortunately
2007-11-13 06:19:54 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋