My partner is 25yrs old and he still occasionaly wets the bed. He has been to the doctors a while ago and they prescribed him some medication which worked for a while but then he threw them as decided they werent working(or did he know there was another reason he should be paying attention to). The thing is it makes him feel so bad and embarresed he then gets angry and upset and it leads to an argument that i always try to avoid. This has been a problem since childhood, and his father did punish him. Dont know what to do as just want to help him.
2007-11-12 22:12:16 · 24 answers · asked by Nichola c 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
we have been together 4yrs and have a daughter and ilove him to bits so quit the bull....!
2007-11-12 22:27:31 · update #1
This might be more a case of psychological reasons behind the problem, especially if talking about it makes him angry or frustrated. If you can you should ask him to go talk to a professional about this as it could be something which he could move on from with a bit of counselling. Good luck to you!
2007-11-12 22:16:38 · answer #1 · answered by quietgirl 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Could be a variety of reasons, from stress, to overactive bladder, to drinking too much fluids before bedtime, or even coffee or colas or alcohol which will cause you to need to pee. Men also tend to need to urinate soon after sex; if he's not doing this before falling asleep, then that could be the culprit. Or, if he is abstaining, then it might not be urine that is released in his sleep.
Sounds like he needs to talk to a professional about this--and not necessarily an urologist--but an RN or pharmacist or other health professional that are conversant in human physiology. MDs (GPs) are often so pressed for time that they prescribe medication without trying to heal first via conversation and simple, natural methods. So, rule out the simple stuff, then if that's not working, then go back to the GP and maybe get a referral if necessary.
2007-11-12 22:21:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should go back to his doctor and explain the medication isn't working and whilst there I would suggest he gets a referral to a counsellor or psychologist (although not on the NHS as he will be waiting for months if that is the case). It sounds like this is more of a psychological issue that needs to be explored and he may not be able to do this with you. Sometimes it helps to talk to strangers.
In the meantime keep supporting him, but make it clear that you are not his doormat to take it out on.
2007-11-12 22:22:21 · answer #3 · answered by caretoshare2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was a bed wetter when I was young, my sister made me relax and told me a ‘story’.
“When you feel all comfortable and warm and want to go to the toilet (wee), see the door of the toilet opening and inviting you in to use it, now get up and go to the toilet”.
She told this to me a few times when I was sleepy, just before I went to sleep, night after night, till I found I dreamt it one night, woke up and went to the toilet.
She sort of hypnotised me, she used a monotone voice stressing the sound of what I had to do, and it works still to this day, I dream I need the toilet and I wake up and go to the bathroom.
Ok, I had issues as a child that I finally got sorted out when I was 26, but if you can not face a shrink, hypnotherapy is a good stop gap.
Good luck.
2007-11-12 22:24:03 · answer #4 · answered by albl_smile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be a prostate issue... obviously. Perhaps he just needs to pee before bed. I really dont know. He really ought to take his doctors advice... and I am no more qualified to give advice than anyone else on here.
What is the issue you are trying to fix by asking? Your inter-personal problems that result? or the bed-wetting itself?
Does he have a reason to be embarrassed or to get angry? I think that is a huge variable here that you need to admit to. Would you break up with him or belittle him or use it against him toward your own goals? Would you? If youre legitimate and dont care in the slightest that he pisses on you regularly, then just let him know... see a relationship mediator.
2007-11-12 22:17:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
look up the symptoms online. search like aol health, or yahoo health. im sure its hard for him to deal with that. just be patient and supportive. i know its not pleasant for u either. try seeing a different doctor about it or see if his can give him some new meds. tell ur bfriend not to drink ANYTHING at least 2 hrs before bed...maybe that will help a little bit. good luck
2007-11-12 23:01:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, Nichola, this is not an uncommon problem at all. You say the problem goes way back to childhood. I am sure that a good psychotherapist could help enormously. Good luck!
2007-11-12 22:20:55 · answer #7 · answered by canterville87 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a stress related problem.
Your partner needs serious help. He should ask his doctor to refer him to a specialist. If he has managed to get to 25 years old without solving the problem, this is an indication that help is long overdue.
Best wishes to you both. Jo.
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2007-11-12 22:17:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm obviously a medical quetsion!!! I think he should wear adult diapers and seek some more medical advice! Good luck and don't be embarressed, we all have some medical issues in some shape or form.
2007-11-12 23:03:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to have him not drink anything 2 hrs before bed. then try to wake him after 2 hrs of sleep.that seems to be the main time to get up and go to the bathroom. try to time when he goes if that doesnt work(getting him up aftr 2 hrs) and set an alarm to get him up before then.
2007-11-12 22:20:22 · answer #10 · answered by marilynfsmgm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋