my bf has serious trust issues and i wanna prove to him that i aint screwing around, and im serious! should i give him a key to my house? i mean he IS here everyday! but he is worried that i have other male company when he aint hurr!! whats ya opinion!!
2007-11-12 20:18:05 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't do it! There's no way to prove yourself as trustworthy to someone with trust issues. He has to work on those problems himself. You can only help by being a loyal girl to him. Giving him keys to your house may lead to trouble down the line. He might take it as permission to snoop around. Not that you have anything to hide, but he could take a lot of things out of context. I would just try to love him and be as understanding as possible.
2007-11-12 20:29:35 · answer #1 · answered by babydoll1138 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have it backwards...he needs to prove to you that he is serious about you and trusts you. In my experience, people with trust issues usually have those issues because they cheat, so they think everyone else does. You don't need to prove anything to him...he needs to prove to you that he has faith in your relationship and trusts you. One final thought...if this is excessive (he's there every day and still thinks somehow you're cheating on him) it can be a red flag that he's an abuser...this is one of the steps in manipulating you. Good luck!
2007-11-13 04:28:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may be a step in the right direction but at the same time it could destroy your relationship.
If he is jealous and clingy, stay well away and break off from the relationship because obsessive and possessive men don't stop being obsessive and possessive because you give them your key. In fact, it only gets worse!
2007-11-13 08:11:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like an insecure jerk!!! Ask him how he would feel if you said the same thing to him. Tell him that it is insulting and disrespectful that he accuses you of cheating on him. Tell him that if he can not trust you then he should not be seeing you. Tell him that if he continues to act this way, you will be forced to break up with him.
Don't let him start controlling your life. If you do, he will find other ways to control who you talk to, and what you do. Stop it now, before it gets. worse. Take my word, from experience I know.
2007-11-13 04:26:18 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dont give him your keys until he trusts you.What if he gets in a jealous rage, and destroys all your stuff and burns your place down??
Take the relationship back a stage, until he trusts you.And, if he is there everyday, when do you have time to have other guys around?
2007-11-13 04:21:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
First of all...huh?????
Tell him that unless he can trust you then he can walk away....men with serious trust issues can very easily turn into posessive & violent morons.....think very carefully about what you want from this man & what you think he is willing to give in return.
2007-11-13 04:22:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
dumb him.. u wont get a good mileage in ur relatioship with someone like this. if u only are looking for sex, u will find so many.
2007-11-13 04:21:14 · answer #7 · answered by cooolcasanova 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i say go for it. i wouldnt do it becuase you dont know when he'll pop up plus this could prove to be a very bad move for you.
2007-11-13 04:20:32 · answer #8 · answered by GG 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋