My boyfreind is constantly talking about him wanting to "get in my jeans" "put me to bed" If you now what i mean. He is always talking dirty around me and he wants to have it but im not ready and all my freinds want me to do it so i can be the first out of my freinds to lose their virginity. But im not ready yet but i wanna be cool and all but i now i can get pregant get herpies hiv and all the other diases help me please.
2007-11-12 17:55:45 · 18 answers · asked by Tweety Bird 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well ive already told my boyfreind that im not ready and he still does it but i love him and we been together for 4 years.
2007-11-12 19:55:06 · update #1
you may want to be cool but that is not the way to do it, doing something you don't want to do to be cool is just plain stupid, not cool. wait until you are ready and you will probably look cool then, think about it, your other friends will probably think what your thinking and do it, fine they will look cool for losing their V but you would look cooler if you came in one day and said you had lose your V to a really nice guy and it was amazing. they will probably be really jealous of you.
Trust me the last thing you want to do is lose your V and regret it, I hated my first and second time and wish i could go back, it is a horrible feeling to have, trust me don't put yourself in that position.
As for your boyfriend, tell him your not ready yet, if he cares for you that much he will respect that and wait for you. Altho it sounds like her is pressuring your abit. tell him your not ready if he will wait for you then you no he wasn't trying to pressure, he was problem just trying to be sexy so you would consider it, if he ends it with you then you will no that all he wanted was to get into you pants. Don't sleep with this guy if he is not right for you, that is another regret you don't want to have.
good luck
2007-11-12 18:03:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you're doing the right thing. if it were so cool- than why are they pushing you to do it, when they haven't? think about that.
yes, you can get pregnant (i know of many women who had children even thoughthey used a condom!) and you can get a horrible disease that can ruin your life.
If you aren't emotionally ready, don't do this. if he cared enough- he'd respect you for waiting. tell him that you feel pressured when he talks to you that way- that you have to start wondering if he has anything intelligent to say ever- because all e seems to talk about is sex.....
as for your friends........ I'm sure they care about you- but they too seem too immature to really undertsand all of this.
DO NOT let other people pressure you into doing something you're not sure about- in the end- no matter what anybody thinks of you- YOU are the one living with the consequences- do you care what they'll think of you then...... probably not.
good luck:)
2007-11-12 18:03:34 · answer #2 · answered by **leigh** 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DON"T DO IT!!!!!!!!!!!!
You are making a big mistake!! please listen to me and don't do it! Just wait til' you're married...You're friends just want to use you as their lab rat! don't let them, if they want to lose their virginity go ahead and let them...You need to get a new boyfriend...Trust me you feel like you'll be uncool by standing up for yourself, but acutally people will really start to look up to you if you have a back bone! Trust me, I'm a senior in high school and I started showing some spine last year, and now I'm like the most popular kid in school and I don't get in trouble or anything!! JIf you boyfriend just wants to do it with you and won't listen to what YOU WANT TO DO, then he is obviously selfish and does not care for you, find someone that really loves you is my suggestion...Haven't you ever heard that "True love waits?" Just detach from him and move on with your life, there are so many other bigger and better fishes out in the sea and you have your entire life ahead of you, don't listen to what some stupid 16 yr old girls and a retarded little boy are telling you...Trust me in 5 years, their opinion won't matter an ounce, and you can end up regretting having sex... Please do not do it! that is my advice
2007-11-12 18:07:33 · answer #3 · answered by Luke Skywalker!!...ok not really 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say dont do it if you dont want to. This is the biggest decision of your life and you will regret it if you do it when you didnt want to (trust me).
It is the most special thing you can give away, so do not do it lightly.
It is not up to your friends. It is your body and you need to respect yourself and your body. Dont do anything you are not comfortable with (that is the best advice I could give anyone).
Otherwise in a few years time you will feel very bad about doing it when you didnt want to (trust me on that one).
No peer pressure is worth you doing something that you dont want to do. I know a girl who did it because her friends told her to when she was 15 and she cries about it every day wishing she had waited until she wanted to.
Your body is very precious. This is one of the most important decisions you will ever make in your life and you will feel so bad if you do something you dont want to do.
Of course your bf wants to sleep with you (all guys want sex), But you are the most important person here because it is your body and only do it when you know for sure that it is right (if you are unsure even a tiny bit, do not do it).
2007-11-12 18:04:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am 33 years old and i have a greater respect for you than most people my age, you sound like you are very smart. DONT do it if YOU'RE not ready sweety you got nothing but time and if you save yourself for the person you end up marrying he will have a great respect for you. there was a girl on here the other night 13 and scared to death to tell her mom she is pregnant. If your parents knew what kind of person you are they would be soooooo proud of you. You tell this lil horn dog you are not his sex toy, and you don't appreciate how he is always talking nasty to you. Tell him if he gives a crap about u for real he will back off and respect the fact your not ready. as for your friends who want someone to lose thier virginity let it be one of them, that way you dont get a disease you dont get pregnant, you don't get THE reputation as being a slut, and you don't throw your future away by having to raise a baby, and you don't get dumped for winding up pregnant! YOU ARE AWESOME- and eventhough i dont know you I am very proud of you- from a mom
2007-11-12 18:09:10 · answer #5 · answered by child4jc74 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He don't care about you then and you need to see that if he's trying to make you do something you don't wan to do! And for those so called friends of yours... WOW! I feel bad for you!!!
It seems like your the only one in the group with any brains! I think it's time you set an example and tell them all to get lost!
Your so called friends won't be so cool when they get pregnant at 16 and have to drop out of school to rise a kid and work and no longer have a life! And find yourself that actually cares about YOU not your pants!
2007-11-12 18:04:03 · answer #6 · answered by Rain 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel pressured. If you don't want to have sex then don't! Who gives a crap what your friends say and as far as your boyfriend "putting you to bed"...he probably doesn't even know what to do to put somebody to bed. Your young, wanna have fun but your not dumb....staying a virgin is a good thing. I know grown women who are still virgins....they respect their body and won't give it up until they're ready.
Don't give it up unless you're ready to! There's nothing wrong with being a virgin....so tell your boyfriend to go put himself to bed with his hand...HA!
2007-11-12 18:06:47 · answer #7 · answered by simply-e 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question you not ready so don't do it peer pressure isn't a reason to have sex. You are your own person and people's thoughts of you shouldn't make you or break you. Your friend's will be your friends if you have sex or not and if you don't have sex and they don't want to be your friend then they where never a true friend. Boys come and go so if he wants to leave you cause you won't sleep with him then forget him you can do better.
2007-11-12 18:00:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
don't give in girl. i'm sixteen like you and i know it can be hard but it's worth waiting for someone you love and want to spend the rest of your life with. i laid it down straight and told him that i didn't want to have sex with him. he got really hurt and wouldn't talk to me for a week but after him and i sat down and talked it out he respected where i was coming from and now he doesn't pressure me cos i was up front with him from the start. and haveing sex DOES NOT make you cool. it is a foolish and unwise thing to be doing at our age. But good luck and stick to your guns. stay a virgin, PLEASE!!!
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2007-11-12 18:09:13 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your boyfriend, and tell him that you're not ready. If he really loves you, he'll understand and wait for you. I don't mean to be judgemental or anything, but if your so-called "friends" really ARE your friends, they'd stop pressuring you, and respect your decisions.
2007-11-12 18:04:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋