I met this guy and we really are into each other.....then he tells me he's married. I didn't know. WHAT TO DO?
2007-11-12 17:46:38 · 13 answers · asked by Praisechild 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I heard some of your answers. But I realy like him this is hard.
2007-11-12 17:54:56 · update #1
Sorry hon, but my advice is to ditch him. Married men rarely leave their wives and the fact is, do you really want a man who cheats on his wife in the first place? He promised to be faithful to her, and yet he seems to be starting a relationship with you. Why waste time with a cheater when the right guy for you could be waiting around the corner? If you waste that time with this guy, you might not notice Mr. Right and probably end up heartbroken anyway.
To me, it's not worth it.
My opinion.
Good luck.
PS: Like is not love. It's much easier to get over like than it is to get over love. I should know. I've been there. One of my ex's was married too, only I didn't know it at the time. He seemed like the perfect guy. He was romantic, sweet, attentive and seemed to treasure me like a rare jewel. He swore he loved me and that I was his soul mate, his only love and the one he'd been waiting for. Then suddenly one day without warning, he turns up married and doesn't want anything more to do with me. He was a liar and a cheat and a user. Guys who cheat on their wives to romance another woman do not value the other woman. Sooner or later, they break it off, most often as soon as they feel the 'other' woman has become too emotionally involved with them. Please think with your head and not your heart. Your heart will only see his good side. Your head should be able to see the bad and it is the bad that you will have to worry about.
Plus, since he's married, have you considered where this relationship will lead? Does he tell you he will leave his wife? Does he love you?? Will he leave her now just to be free to date you?
I bet you that his answer to the last one will be no, which makes all of the other answers a no too. You're better off ditching him and saving yourself a big heartache. Depending on how deeply you fall in love with him, the relationship could destroy you. My mistake almost destroyed me, so please don't get yourself into that. It was pure hell on earth.
2007-11-12 17:55:22 · answer #1 · answered by Top Alpha Wolf 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seeing a married man can be dangerous even if its platonic and nothing has happened yet. If it has, it's going to to be tough to break it off. It's not unusual for married men to have a chick on the side, especially if their needs at home aren't being met. And I don't just mean sexually. Make it clear to him that you want him to be open about his expectations of the relationship with you. And make sure you are secure enough with yourself that you are prepared to end this right away. After all, you have your reputation at stake as well. You don't want labled as a homewrecker when this guy is not the last man on earth. Be brave when making your decision and stick to it. Don't be used ok.
2007-11-13 01:58:36 · answer #2 · answered by Christy W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop him like a hot-potato.
He is messing around on his wife, and you are probably the latest in a long line of "side dishes". When he has used you up, he will move on to another one.
There is no reason to be user-friendly with one of these philanderers... you are wasting your time and selling yourself short. The guy will never leave his wife for the "other woman".
Find yourself a good man that will respect and take care of you.
2007-11-13 01:58:16 · answer #3 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if hes willing to cheat on his wife then he would be willing to cheat on you. even if he left his wife for you do you think that you are going to be so perfect that hell never leave or cheat on you? besides I'm sure "he was into" his wife when they met now look. honey don't be a home wrecker you'll feel no better than a prostitute. and if you've slept with him id go tell his wife. and make sure that you tell her that hes not saying that hes married. think of how you would feel if you were her. that guy doesn't deserve either one of you
2007-11-13 02:00:15 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him, let him go. If he couldn't be truthful to you in the beginning, and can not be faithful to his wife, then this shows some qualities in him that he can not be trusted! I'm sure someone else will come along, and be the man of ur dreams! Wishing you the best of luck!!!
2007-11-13 01:50:10 · answer #5 · answered by Bunny 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
R-U-N!!! Nothing good ever comes from dating a married man! Why sell yourself short? You deserve to be with someone who can fully commit to you and treat you the way you deserve!
2007-11-13 01:59:31 · answer #6 · answered by NDimes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RUN the other direction. Men are like buses -- if you miss one, another one will be along in a few minutes. AND this guy will bring you nothing but sorrow and frustration and shame.
2007-11-13 01:49:14 · answer #7 · answered by rcpeabody1 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't get involved in that. Find another guy that is not in a relationship. Think if ur husband were to do that to you. How would u feel?
2007-11-13 01:50:00 · answer #8 · answered by Fancy Pants 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing to do. Go find another guy.
2007-11-13 01:48:37 · answer #9 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Pls... dont do something... all you need to do is to find a single guy... that's it...!
2007-11-13 01:54:15 · answer #10 · answered by Big_O_10 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋