Me and my boyfriend used to play fight kinda rough. Now he just hits me really hard he even leaves bruises. Twice he back handed me on my face and knocked me to the ground. One time he grabbed me by the throat and slapped me hard a couple of time. First he blames me then he says he's just playing. Is that him really playing or abuse???
2007-11-12 17:40:12 · 19 answers · asked by Neicole B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I really hope that you will listen to what I am about to say very closely.
You are in a lot of danger. This man is an abuser, and he is severely abusing you. This is exactly how an abuser acts - they hit you, then apologize or say they were joking, or blame you, or say they won't do it again...but they always do it again.
You need to leave this man NOW! Do not have any contact with him. If he becomes violent when you break up with him, call the police, get a protection order, and tell everyone you know and trust what you are going through so they can watch out for you. It doesn't get better, it gets worse. Women die every day at the hands of a man who "loves them". This isn't love...it's abuse, and it's NEVER OK!
It's not your fault. He needs serious help. "Play fighting" is one thing, but there is nothing playful about leaving bruises, hitting you hard, backhanding you in the face, knocking you to the ground, slapping you hard, or grabbing you by the throat.
I was in an abusive relationship when I was 18. It only got worse. He acted just like your boyfriend is acting now. I beg you to leave him before it gets any worse. E-mail me if you need help.
LEAVE NOW!!!!!!!!!!! ABUSE IS NEVER OK!!!!!!!!!
2007-11-12 17:56:44 · answer #1 · answered by Nonny0928 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2017-01-20 01:18:38 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its abuse. There is something wrong with this guy.
I am very sorry to hear this. You should ring a counselling line and talk to someone about what to do.
If you are in Australia there is a counselling telephone line for 'violence against women' - you should be able to find it in the phone book or call Lifeline to find out who to call.
One of my closest friends was in an abusive relationship for several years - her boyfriend did things like that to her and it ruined her self esteem. The best thing she ever did was leave him and get out of that situation (she didnt deserve to be treated like that and neither do you, no one does).
As someone who doesnt know you, I think you need to leave this relationship. This is not a good guy - he knows he is hurting you and he wont stop even after you have told him to.
Your boyfriend is abusive and that is domestic violence. You cant deny it.
Theres no excuse for it and he can call it whatever he wants, but it is still abuse.
You need to get help for this and then decide what you are going to do. You, just like anyone is worth more than putting up with it.
2007-11-12 17:52:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has an anger problem. No matter what you did before in 'play', you must tell him now that you don't want any more hitting, slapping, pushing etc... That even one more time and you will walk out the door. It is very important that you let him know where the line is. Then it is important you stick to it. You don't want him to think it is ok, and you don't want it to get worse or go on and on.
2007-11-12 17:46:05 · answer #4 · answered by Susan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you saw your friend getting beaten up by her boyfriend, would you stand seeing her get abused?
If you don't leave this relationship then start digging your grave right now. Because you're going to be a statistic in a few years.
2007-11-12 17:47:22 · answer #5 · answered by Agent319.007 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get away from this asshole, If he is doing this now just imagine how bad its going to get. If it continues you need to get the police involved because it is definately abuse and no one deserves to be treated like that. Its not funny and if you are not enjoying it then its not play
2007-11-13 00:06:25 · answer #6 · answered by jenniferk5683 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is just playing, marry him and maybe you can have some real fun. He can then knock your teeth out and break your bones, but it will be your fault. Get preg and then he can have fun hitting you in the stomach. RUN RUN for your life.
2007-11-12 17:47:55 · answer #7 · answered by Augie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Total abuse - I would leave today. Next time he is going to knock you down the stairs - break your neck and say it was your fault...well you won't be able to respond to that b/c you'll be dead.
2007-11-12 17:45:28 · answer #8 · answered by totalstressor 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if it really hurts you and his hits are strong enough to leave marks on your body, then i would say its abuse...my husband and i sometimes play fight...but he's never knocked me to the ground nor slapped me on my face...i think your bf is way overboard...tell him to stop....if he wont...i think you better leave your abusive relationship...
2007-11-12 17:44:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it hurts you, then it's abuse. Why do you let him do it? Why are you still there? You're basically setting yourself up for more and telling him that it's okay to hit you.
2007-11-12 17:42:37 · answer #10 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋