He went over to his baby's mom's house the other night, after she took out a restraining order four days earlier, the day of his release. It was 11:30 and she took him to her house for over two hours and tried to give him a Tarot reading. I trust him on this one, but I don't trust her and I know she won't go away. Tonight he called me, saying that the one and a half times we've gotten to have sex isn't cutting it for him, he was drunk as hell, I told him I would call him in an hour when I got off work, but he didn't answer. I feel like my paranoia is unfair because he trusted me while he was down. But I mean, if I hadn't had sex in four years, when I got out I would be having sex with other people if my boyfriend lived three hours away, why wouldn't he? I need adivce on whether he's cheating and how I can tell, OR how to get over this irrational paranoia that he's going to. The only reason I worry so is the last man I loved cheated like he was born for that purpose
2007-11-12 17:35:48 · 13 answers · asked by Lizz421 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honestly Hun. If you and him trust each other and love each other then you shouldn't worry at all! I understand the whole long distance relationship deal but if trust is an issue in your relationship then you should find another man for you. But if not then just live your life to the fullest and make sure you keep in touch with him daily =] =]
2007-11-12 17:39:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry,,,but first of all why in the hell would you settle for a guy that's been to prison??? I'm sure he didn't get 4 years for being an upstanding citizen. Men are gonna do what they're gonna do and you obviously can't be with him 24/7 to watch his every move. Besides that,,why would you wanna do that anyway? That's not a healthy relationship. It sounds to me like trust is a major issue here and I don't know if you know this, but without trust you don't have much left in this relationship that's worth holding on to. Look at you...you're all freaked out wondering what he's doing and who he's doing it with. Do you think he's worried about you??? NEWS FLASH! If he's been "down" 4 years, of course he's gonna get the first piece of a.s.s that crosses his way. My advice to you is LEAVE THIS BS BEHIND!! It's so not worth it. So if he lives in a different town, how do you expect this relationship to work? Be honest and be fair with yourself. You are putting yourself through stuff that you don't need to be dealing with and for a guy who's a freakin' convict!
2007-11-12 17:48:59 · answer #2 · answered by grneyedgrly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, why are with this person? I know you may love him but there is so much more for you in this life than this. You are not paranoid, you are in love with an ex~con who has a baby with another woman and he lives three hours away and he drinks. Come on. When a man is drunk he will speak the truth. A drunken heart reveals what a sober heart conceals. He is telling you, it is not cutting it. Then he didn't answer when you called back. Maybe he was passed out, who knows. Why would any self respecting woman want to put up with this? You deserve better please find it. I know it's not what you want to hear but trust me on this one. Best of luck! :)
2007-11-12 17:44:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him be with the baby mama, and you find a single man in your town that A) has no baby mama, B) has not been in prison, C) does not get 'drunk as hell', D) does not have people taking out restraining orders on him, and E) does not tell you that sex with you doesn't cut it. Wake up! Is he really the best you deserve? Let him go, change your number, move on.
2007-11-12 17:41:21 · answer #4 · answered by ViSaja 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me hes already cheated on you with Big Moe and "Snake" when he was locked in the pen. Hes probably gay now and is someone's *****. Drop him
2007-11-12 17:40:24 · answer #5 · answered by Joe J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's cheating.
Choose better men.
Oddly, though, you say that if you'd been cooped up in jail for 4 years you'd be out cheating.
Why are you so fussed? Won't he use a condom for protection?
2007-11-12 17:39:55 · answer #6 · answered by Orinoco 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
jerry, jerry, jerry He may be cheating, if he is not yet, then its only a matter of time. Just move on, you can find someone better.
2007-11-12 17:40:23 · answer #7 · answered by searay092003 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He probably went to see the baby. Please see him and have sex with him. He needs your support and it is only through love you can keep him with you.
2007-11-12 17:40:59 · answer #8 · answered by Protik Maitra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you can call the ex and ask her to tell your fortune with her tarot cards...sounds like she would be willing to
2007-11-12 17:39:52 · answer #9 · answered by NONAME 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you cant possibly be that pathetic. get some help on jerry springer.
2007-11-12 17:55:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋