how to get him to act like he cares?? grrr.?

Question

i've just started recently going out with my ex again and the reason we broke up was cos i felt like he wasn't making an effort at least tht's what i think anyway...

how can i get him to act like he cares and get him to show a little affection to me???

anyway, he still isn't making an effort now that we're together again. he shows no affection towards me what so ever. i can snuggle right up next to him and he won't put his arm around me, or if i grab his hand and hold it, he won't hold mine back and he doesn't kiss me hello or hug me goodbye or anything.
but i know that he doesn't have a problem with physical contact cos we do kiss and fool around sometimes, but it just seems if there is nothing in it for him then he doesn't really care.

What should i do?

how can i get him to act like my boyfriend?
and not a brickwall?
any subtle hints i could give him or anything?

AND THANKYOU TO WHOEVER REPLIES!!!

Answer 1

cry and tell him that you feel like he deosnt love you. tell him u dont want to break up with him but u have to because u cant be with someone thats hurting you... (well sortoff) and that if hes too embarrased to be seen with you (cuz u guys aint making alot of physical contact) then maybe its best to break it off...
this will turn him into a little softie and im pretty sure that if he really likes you it'll hit him that he aint doing enough to make you feel special and that hes gonna start to change

Answer 2

Reading your question really hurts me. I know so many friends in relationships of the same nature. And the paramount fact that none of them understands is: you can't change people.

You can try, you can threaten, you can ask, you can fight, but in the end you will be right back where you began with a lot of wasted time and one giant headache.

My recommendation to you is simple. Make a choice. Either live with things as they are. Or seek new companionship. It is evident that you've told your boyfriend how you feel and he is not responding. If the issue of intimacy is important to you and he remains complacent then his lack of respect is evident.

I do sympathize with you though, wouldn't it be so much eaisier if people just listened for a change ;)

Answer 3

Maybe he is not an affectionate kind of person. You can't change him. If you knew for *sure* that he cares, could you learn to live with his lack of showing affection? Is it OK with you or is it hurtful? If it means a lot to you then move on, he won't change. Trust me on this one, I spent 10 years of my life with person like this hoping that he will eventually change. I know for sure that he cared a lot. He just rarely showed it. And that in turn hurt me very much every single day. He genuanly didn't understand why on earth did I need it from him. A man is not a fixer-upper. You can't change him.

Crying won't work. If you cry and tell him he doesn't love you - I guarantee you will be crying every day, eventually slipping into depression. They don't get it, they have zero empathy. Sorry hun.

Answer 4

Get rid of him. It's not worth being in a relationship with a guy who isn't affectionate. And guess what? If he doesn't ACT like he cares, then he doesn't really care.

Answer 5

Why would you want him to ACT like he cares.
If he can't show love and/or affection than your having a one sided relationship,move on or expect this as your future.

Answer 6

You know how he was from the start, you can't change people, no matter how hard you try, he obviously does not appreciate your company so move on babe its such a waste of time

Answer 7

You know he's like this, why are you back with him? You either accept him for who he is, or you find someone who fits what you want.

Answer 8

i wouldnt keep him...find someone who knows how to pay attention...think of compatibility with signs..it works..