I've got a long term girlfriend - we've been dating for over a year. I love her, but I feel trapped in the relationship. I'm just a freshman in college, and I don't want to be held back. I also want the experience of falling in love again. I just don't think I'm ready for calling one girl the one i'll love for forever from this point on.
However, I'm also a complete panzy, and I don't want to break up with her. I've got a lot of crap going on in my life righ t now, and for some reason the guilt from breaking up with her would drive me crazy. What I want to do is get her to break up with me, which isn't as easy as it seems. I don't want to make it incredibly obvious, however, if you know what I mean. I know I should just suck it up and tell her, but I don't want to do that. Don't tell me that. Instead, help me with what I want help with: how can I make her break up with me, without making it obvious that I want her to?
2007-11-12 16:51:56 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm in my second year of college and I recently broke up with someone I was with for almost 3 years for the same reason you want to... this person was attractive, beyond good to me, and had a great heart, but I knew I had to date other people and see what else is out there.
You're probably wishing this girl had come along later in your life, right?
Well, buddy, all I can tell you is you have to tell her you don't want to be in a relationship anymore. It was really hard for me to gather the courage to do it, but let me tell you, now that I've been single for about 3 months I am SO glad that I did it.
It will be better for the both of you in the long-run if you do it. Trust me. DON'T be a jerk to her. She will eventually forgive you if you're honest with her, but if you act like an a**hole nothing good is going to come of it, and it's probably going to create more problems for you later on.
You have to break up with her ASAP. Just do it and don't look back!
2007-11-12 17:20:33 · answer #1 · answered by Chris 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you have the pre-wedding doldrums. You're in a lull between the eexcitment of a first encounter, and getting prepared for a lifelong commitment. Anxious about wedding planning, all the preperation is possibly what you're also feeling. I'm just geussing here towards you emotions and situation here, I'm no phycic. Also, keep in mind; love is a choice. I would suggest you choose to love the man you plan to spend the rest of your life with.
2016-05-22 22:13:26 · answer #2 · answered by lessie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not really want her to break up with you. I am going through something similar, my bf after two years broke up with me because he claims that he doesn't love me any more. It is going to hurt her like crazy, even if she is the one to break it off. Besides if you truely love her you are going to be hurting too, and if you decide to go out with someone else all you will think about is her. I thought that my relationship was going to last and so did he. Enjoy your relationship while you can. When she is gone, you never know if she will come back, especially if she finds out the real reason.
2007-11-12 17:13:31 · answer #3 · answered by Pooh 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you love this person why do you want to manipulate her? Be a man, strap on them balls and tell her you can't see yourself with her any longer.
Oh, and while you're at it get yourself a spine too.
2007-11-12 16:58:58 · answer #4 · answered by Tiger by the Tail 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋