If you were in my position, seriously, how would you approach this?

Question

VERY long story condensed into VERY short version:
We have mutual friends.
I have had a crush on him for years (innocent crush, not obsessive i just think he's got something special)
I moved away from his city 2 years ago.
I am moving BACK to his city next month.
He knows this (i guess he heard it from our mutual friends?)
He's been texting me randomly ever since he found out (October).
I am going to be in his city at the end of the week for business.
He knows this as well. He texted me asking "where are you going to be staying?"
I will probably see him this weekend at some point.
Ugh....
He makes me SO nervous I forget how to speak when he's around.
I really like him. He may or may not know this (I don't know).
I might avoid seeing him simply because he makes me so nervous I'm afraid of looking stupid or worse.
what to do???

Answer 1

Talk to his friends, that are girls

Answer 2

It is funny how we can be are own worse enemy with our self-doubts and it is always such a huge waist of time. It sounds like this guy likes you as much as you like him and I think that you should meet up with him this weekend, see if the sparks still fly, and let him know. Life is too short to waist time. Besides he could be your special one and only and you don't want to lose out on that.
Let me give you an example of how short life can be. My twin sister just adored this guy in high school and they were good friends, but neither one of them ever got up enough courage to tell the other how they felt. Two weeks after graduation he was in a fatal car accident. He left behind notes he had written to my twin that he never had the courage to give to her expressing his love. Imagine if they would have just told each other how they felt. How might that have changed things?

Answer 3

If he is texting you that means at the very least he is interested. He may be nervous too. For your first meeting try to do something active like bowling so you aren't just sitting there and invite him to do something so you feel more in control rather than waiting for a "random" meeting. Be a bit of a "fool" for love and take that risk rather than sit and wonder what if?

Answer 4

Sounds purely physical. Just relax and be yourself if you are intersted in something long term. Do things you feel comfortable with and go places where you can be relaxed.

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You can always act like a 'jerk' and eventually apologize later like a guy does when he doesn't know how to act. I guess it would be a more fun lovin' bitchiness if you know what I mean. It can break the tension, and eventually, if you go too far you can apologize and reveal another demension.

Answer 5

well i would meet the person and just take things slowly dont worry about anything enjoy yourself.
sometimes everyone needs to let go and enjoy themselves its only human nature isnt it.
if someone really likes you you will know by there body launguage its sometimes an easy give away.
iam going to put a link below for some information about body launguage and how to tell the signs.
good luck we all hope everything works out for you.

Answer 6

I understand you're nervous. But honey DONT PASS THIS UP!!!! If you're truly interested in him, you can't let nerves get the best of you.
Don't give yourself something to regret. If things don't work out, at least you'll never wonder what if. It's better being disappointed and knowing than being disappointed and wishing.
Trust me. Don't live with regret. And don't even let regret have a chance in your life.

Answer 7

Ahh No don't avoid him!! Thats not fair to him! If he's that excited about seeing you then go for it. Find out if he has a lady and if not ask him to "Show you around town" I mean it's been 2 years who knows whats changed right? I mean you can even hint that your feelings have changed *wink wink* He's probably just as nervous so don't worry about it! **** luck!!

Answer 8

I know you've probably heard this millions of times, but just go hang out with him if he's willing to and just be yourself. I mean if you just ignore him or stay away from him, it will only make things more worse and he will think you're weird.

Just be brave, and friendly - it never hurts. : )

Answer 9

If you are single, then go for it!! What do you have to lose? Be confident and just see what happens. Go there with no expectations, other than hanging out and just see where things go. Good Luck!

Answer 10

this is perfectly okay...if you're a teenager. pull yourself together and have a good time. tell him where you're staying (not with him). don't try to read anything into his text messages other than exactly what he is saying. you'll look stupid only if you act stupid. be smart and act smart--that's really attractive. good luck!

Answer 11

You are going to meet him like you do anybody else.With passage of time,people grow and that also means becoming wiser and more self confidant.Have a ball.