Okay, im a senior and this girl is a junior, we really hit it off and we're in some classes together we didn't know eachother before but now we talk a lot and joke and occasionally flirt ;)...okay, now she like comes into my work all the time and its cool we talk and its fun to see her around, we get along well, we have alot of the same interests and personality traits, and like one time i was at a store with some guys and she was out with her girls, and she saw me and waved, her girls didn't know me but she said something to them and they smiled at me..?...but one of my guy friends said she is a partying **** and he said she gets drunk a lot and he rattled off some names of guys she's been with, now i'm a liberal guy(in rehab once for me..) but i'm not sure if i should just stay on the outside with this one and not get hurt or if i should risk it and have one helluva time with her cuz she is a lot of fun...idk? is it worth it? and even if i did how could i ask this girl out?
2007-11-12 16:23:13 · 19 answers · asked by ginsberg68 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i mean i went to rehab once cuz i had to get the wild stuff under control, i do it less but its said to see someone else do it... and why! she sooo doesn't need too... idk..
2007-11-12 16:23:33 · update #1
If your a senior then why are you messin around with middle school rumors? Has she done anything to confirm to you shes a slut? I think not, you like being with her, she likes bein with you. Go for it. The only thing to do is see for yourself where this takes you. If you've already been to rehab then don't go to party with her if she wants to party rather than hang with you than you have your answer. Ask her out when it's just the two of you. Ask her to a movie and slowly ease yourself into a relationship don't jump head first!
2007-11-12 16:30:50 · answer #1 · answered by Bxbabifinest 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
to truly show love is a risk; if you think she'll be better off with you and keep the wild stuff under control without pressure from you but to please you, go for it. As for the "guys she's been with", that's a risk of a different order; not that she'll go back to them so much as that they left her with something permanent in the STD department--on that level, play it cool till you know she's clean and only yours to play with and you'll both be better off. She obviously likes you so take the risk and let her know you want to go out; show you're a better man than those others and your friends.
2007-11-13 00:33:53 · answer #2 · answered by kenmac84 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gotta always trust your friends. But it sounds like this one friend of yours *may* be wrong. If more than one or two of your friends say the same thing, definitely listen to them, but there's nothing worse than just being the victim of ugly rumors and not getting to have your chance with someone you really like.
So that being said, it wouldn't hurt at all to just keep doing what you're doing, feel her out for yourself. Guys have instincts too, try to listen to your own and not rely solely on what this one guy says. Wouldn't it suck if she turned out to be really cool, but you bought in to what he says, and by the time you decide you want to pursue something with her it's too late-- she's moved on and gotten some other boyfriend?
Your friends as a collective whole are always looking out for you, they want you to be happy. But if this is only one person saying something negative, and it's not enough to stop you-- go for it. Especially, it's a good sign that she came in with her FRIENDS, who you never know, could be judgmental, but they smiled at you too. I think that's a good sign.
Sounds like you could really have fun with this girl, sweetie. Don't live in fear, trust your instincts. Your INSTINCTS, not some other part of yourself, ha ha...... that could prove to be faulty. ;)
Good luck!!
2007-11-13 00:31:24 · answer #3 · answered by jengrenade 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself and enjoy what you both have at this moment which is a friendship relationship. You just might be the inspiration she needs to slow down on her partying. Its always easier to be friends then lovers than to be lovers then friends. Ask her out on a date to the movies as friends. Have fun!
2007-11-13 00:34:25 · answer #4 · answered by JustMe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you really get along well, like and seem to respect her and you are going to believe one remark from one guy who likely doesn't know her one tenth as well? Suck it up, be a man and make up your own mind. Do you want to let other people make your decisions and tell you who to care about? How would you feel if she allowed one offhand remark to cause her to bail on YOU? I say go by what you KNOW of her first hand, not what you HEAR of her second hand.
2007-11-13 00:34:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Go for it shoot for the moon.
The guy Might have said that becuase he was jelious.
What if he had never said that Would you have thought Twice .? soo just go for her!
Who cares what other people think?
2007-11-13 00:26:33 · answer #6 · answered by Devin E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for it there is nothing better in a relationship than two crack heads hand and hand its so special.and maybe you two crackheads can get married and have crack babys and then they can continue the cycle.no but honestly dude why don't you get off the drugs and get your life together then you can work on relationships.
2007-11-13 00:30:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you seriously going to believe your friends? How many girls have they said they screwed? How many do you actually believe? You aren't planning on marrying this girl, ask her out already. If it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out.
2007-11-13 00:26:47 · answer #8 · answered by Jody 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont go for rumors, analyze for yourself rather than listenning someone else's talks.
2007-11-13 01:25:57 · answer #9 · answered by JB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at first, i would like to say i like to hear you say you happy, but how could you be happy with someone who already has a bad reputation, you feel me, and im not judging or anything, but you and i know the truth, huh, but do what your heart says
2007-11-13 00:33:51 · answer #10 · answered by Bouncy411 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋