Me and my girlfriend have been going out for almost six months and for the first time i feel that there really is a big space in between us. What i really mean is that we never really talk about the good stuff. Our main conversations consist of how our day was and what we are planning to do in the near future. I love her and all but it is just sorta killing me inside. She says that I am the first real guy she loved, but for me I don't have this feeling inside me that I really want to be with her and the feeling that makes me glow inside and makes me like stumble on my words, I have had this feeling about a girl before who was incredibly smart and shared her opinions and we could have a really good conversation about more than just the ongoing day. I had the idea of first just telling her i needed some time but I didn't want to do that, so I am thinking aobut slowly just talking to he rmore myself. All in all I just have to ask what am i supposed to do?? I am so confused.
2007-11-12 15:44:11 · 14 answers · asked by bob 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So i did talk to her about and she doesn't know what to say. I would say something to her and i would let it down as easily as i could on how i felt little by little and then i would wait for her to say something but then there would be a long awkward pause. So i told her to think about it a little, and to get back to me about it. And if she doesn't I am going to take mimi's advice andtake a little break
2007-11-12 16:41:37 · update #1
Its a little eerie how familiar your situation sounds. I've been with my gf for 6 months as well, and not that its driving us apart, but the type of conversations we have is one of the few not-so-great things. I do love her, I don't really question that because I shes so amazing that I can't expect her to be perfect. But if I could pick something that was lacking I would say its our inability to have a really deep conversation. Like you a lot of what we talk about is just daily stuff or our basic interests. I like to think about the meaning in things and have great, heartfelt conversations, but when I try to start one she doesn't give a negative response, just one that ends any deepness of thought in the conversation. I haven't really pushed it because she does have a somewhat shy personality. The only thing could think to do is say that you want to know more about the woman you love, and then build off that for the reason why you want to have a more meaningful conversation so that it won't seem like you're pushing it too much. Now that I read your question I'm thinking that maybe I should try that out. As far as a definitive answer I guess I didn't give you one but I guess what I'm trying to say is that she probably doesn't open up as much emotionally because she thinks you might not like it or she doesn't know how. I wouldn't do anything drastic like taking a break because if there's enough things you like about her for you to love her, you shouldn't risk losing that but rather try to enhance it to make you happier. Hope that helped!
2007-11-12 16:45:34 · answer #1 · answered by swinglifeaway 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start thinking about the conversations that you've already had with her and NOT about how your days are going. Go back to the basics. Likes/dislikes, movies, shows, events, going on's, etc.Then afterwards (or before just for a icebreaker), go ahead and ask her about her day. Basically in a way, be a chick w/o the PMS.
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2007-11-12 15:53:35 · answer #2 · answered by C93 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about those things you used to talk to your other g/f out. Talk to her about your feelings. If she can't or won't discuss things with you or has no good reply to your feelings then you need to dump her. She will get over it and so will you. Better to find someone whom you have that special connection with than to waste your time. If she is not right for you it is best for both of you for you to move on. Be happy, life is shorter than you may think. Good luck.
2007-11-12 16:01:54 · answer #3 · answered by lcmcpa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a womens point a vow I will tell you if you feel that you dont want to be with her you need to just let her go before you really hurt her. Just be honest with her. Dont drag this on.
2007-11-12 15:49:51 · answer #4 · answered by h0tt_wrknm0m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You love her but don't want to be with her?Is she a friend of the girl you liked before?Go out with your buds or play sports,there's plenty of time to let chicks f----up your life.Play the field.Keep your chin up.Godspeed young man.
2007-11-12 15:51:44 · answer #5 · answered by mwebbcp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you should talk to her more..it goes both ways and if she still cant talk about more than her day then yeah i would most deff take a break bc that means shes not on your level at all really
2007-11-12 15:48:02 · answer #6 · answered by epmom111001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1.Both love biting the neck 2.Will go to any level to get satisfied and do what ever they want.. 3.Love to be free and independent ! 4.Very seductive 5.Once you turn off.. you are out forever !
2016-04-03 22:04:03 · answer #7 · answered by April 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let me..... give u something........u know babe, sometimes we find love when we have married with someone, and sometimes we not. but for u maybe u should go somewhere first, don't contact her yahh for a couple of dayyysss
and if u not missing her soo leave her
but if u miss her go back and gain good relationship oke dear
2007-11-12 16:00:27 · answer #8 · answered by Mimi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From your words, it is understood that the gal really loves you and you are not... Your words also tempts to ask as to what you are going to do the gal??? If you are not interested, leave her...
2007-11-12 15:48:14 · answer #9 · answered by JANARVIHARAN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude its 6 months
2007-11-12 15:47:01 · answer #10 · answered by Banned from yahoo 5 times 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋